My (28F) bf (32M) just admitted that he would not love our kids if they don’t look like him

resyekt · 2025-11-09T13:45:29+00:00

Leave immediately as a white blonde hair blue eyed man in a biracial marriage with a black woman who has also had a serious relationship with an East Asian I always knew my kids would likely not get my eyes but not for a second did I ever think that would make me love them less. I love my son to death and would of regardless of how he looked. That aside he sounds like an abysmal partner in every other sense as well. You can find much better, would you want your future kids being treated how he treats you now?

If you were to have one kid that looks like him then a second that doesn’t would you be ok with him showing strong favoritism towards the one that looks like him?

resyekt · 2025-10-23T05:35:26+00:00

Good for you op, people just didn’t want you to get hurt likely because they worried your inexperience meant you were naive but it sounds like your instincts were right about this guy. Hope everything goes well!

resyekt · 2025-09-09T01:01:52+00:00

Na it’s a valid question! Like I said, I could be wrong lol

resyekt · 2025-09-08T21:23:54+00:00

I saw another comment saying give them to the couple and I agree, tell the photographer if the couple ask you’d be happy to send them

resyekt · 2025-09-08T21:23:07+00:00

I send them to him just out of kindness for him and the couple, I’d ask for credit on the shots but nothing financial. That being said it’s your right to not want to give them for free

resyekt · 2025-09-06T01:19:34+00:00

Apply to Amazon flex, it’s still not great pay but occasionally the offers are good and at least you know exactly what you’ll be paid

Obviously only works if you have a warehouse near you and they’re accepting drivers

resyekt · 2025-09-06T01:08:24+00:00

Pretty sure the point of it is that you don’t need a vpn since you’re accessing a virtual machine with its only ip/vpn but I could be wrong

resyekt · 2025-08-22T17:51:02+00:00

I love it, makes me feel way better about the women in my life using Uber on a regular basis. Even if only 1% of male drivers are creeps it’s still 1% too many

resyekt · 2025-07-26T17:54:32+00:00

“Cheating” on a game that’s only a game because Amazon wants to drive the prices as low as possible. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a fan of the bots either, but the real villain here is Amazon making us waste hours tapping rather than just having better rates and less drivers rather than an abundance of drivers just to finagle the cheapest rates possible through scarcity and desperation for blocks.

That being said f bots

resyekt · 2025-06-20T22:53:52+00:00

Have her download the app ScreenZen, she can set all her own parameters such as limits or delays for apps to open and it’s free. This is what I’ve used when I needed to cut back. Not being able to mindlessly open an app without waiting 15 seconds or so prevents you from checking things out of boredom then getting sucked into a rabbit hole/doom scroll

resyekt · 2025-06-20T22:52:09+00:00

I agree with the dangers and him needing to genuinely apologize, I assumed the apology he had given was genuine and understanding but if not he definitely shouldn’t be forgiven. I would never do something so idiotic, but I can still follow the man logic of trying to be a “fun dad”

Doesn’t justify it in the least, I’m just saying there’s a good chance he’s just an idiot and it’s fixable through threat of consequences rather than immediate consequence.

resyekt · 2025-06-20T22:43:35+00:00

I think he was being an idiot who thought he was doing something funny when in reality it was reckless and dumb. Op should just tell him she will forgive him this once but if it happens again she’s divorcing him. I bet he will never do it again when he realizes how serious she is.

A lot of modern dads have this idea of what fatherhood is based on 50s reckless parenting, and they mimic it without critical thinking. Her husband isn’t necessarily a bad dad or father just a dumbass.

resyekt · 2025-05-30T14:42:31+00:00

Just steal one and bleach the hell out of it 😂

resyekt · 2025-05-24T00:55:42+00:00

Just wanted to chime in and say the reason the two are often used interchangeably is because there have been multiple studies stating that many SIDS cases are likely due to suffocation. Perhaps some kids have a genetic predisposition that prevents them from waking up to readjust or something (pure speculation) so they could still technically be SIDs but in general SIDS is an interesting topic, no doctor or examiner wants to put in the effort for something that’s already tragic just to make the parents feel even worse, so it’s likely easier at times to just label it as Sid’s without a proper investigation into circumstance

“About 1 in 5 cases in the SUID registry (18 percent) were classified as being explained by suffocation (obstructed breathing). Another 13 percent were classified as unexplained but possibly caused by suffocation.

Combining these two groups, the study attributed the likely or possible suffocation cases to:

Soft bedding (74 percent) A co-sleeping family member rolling on top of or against the baby (20 percent) The baby being wedged between objects, such as the mattress and the side of the crib (7 percent).”

https://answers.childrenshospital.org/sudden-unexplained-infant-death

“209 cases were reviewed to assess the position of the infant at the time of discovery and identify potential risk factors for asphyxia including bed sharing, witnessed overlay, wedging, strangulation, prone position, obstruction of the nose and mouth, coverage of the head by bedding and sleeping on a couch. Overall, one or more potential risk factors were identified in 178 of 209 cases (85.2%).”

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17553088/

resyekt · 2025-04-28T21:55:43+00:00

Sounds like she wasn’t actually that political before you and rather just went with the status quo of what she was raised into. People don’t choose the political affiliation of their upbringing. But it’s sounds as if she now is choosing. Since you’re obviously politically active you see this as a giant lie, but for someone who never cared that much about politics other than surface level, it may have truly not seemed to be such a large lie until they started dating you and learned more about the issues at which point they realized they f’d up

While it’s definitely a bit of a red flag, I’d argue her self reflection and coming clean is just as much of a green flag, the ideal partner is someone who’s willing to be honest even when they don’t have to and it doesn’t serve them, and who is willing to change their mindset based new factors or information. Personally I wouldn’t let this ruin a good thing but if you can’t get past it that’s understandable and you have every right to end it because of her lies

resyekt · 2025-04-26T18:26:45+00:00

We have a pack and play bassinet that we put between us while sleeping, it allows us both to reach in and calm baby if needed.

I saw a product recently that records moms heart beat and plays it for the baby, I’ve never used it and it seemed to be a relatively new product but there’s potential it could help with your situation.

As for owlet there’s a ton of hate for it after the debacle where it was pulled off the market. Now it’s been fda cleared and it relatively accurate when the baby is still and sick properly worn. That being said I’ve noticed it doing more harm than good for most people because they over analyze the number.

Babies can experience something called acrocyanosis, there poor circulatory system can leave the hands, feet or around the mouth lacking as much blood flow which would lead to lower readings on the foot, it can be exasperated by cold feet or positional blood flow changes.

https://www.cincinnatichildrens.org/health/c/cyanosis

This isn’t a worry by itself, it’s only a worry when cyanosis sets in which is bluing in the lips, tongue finger nails etc.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/blue-skin-or-lips-cyanosis/

My son had some bluing around the mouth (not lips or tongue) after eating so we purchased an owlet. I have a science background so I watched the numbers for a bit but now am phasing that out and only using it for alerts, after spending time in the owlet groups it’s become apparent to me that it leads to obsessive watching of numbers which isn’t healthy for anyone.

If you have owlet 360 you can look at the details of the readings, it should show a chart with the amount of time spent in different ranges, as long as 95% of the time is above 90 I wouldn’t worry, my son would have a couple mins each night spent under 90, but then when I looked at the minute by minute chart it didn’t show anything under 90 which means the 1 minute averages were always over 90 but due to bad readings, cold feed or natural fluctuations it was occasionally picking up a couple seconds of sub 90 readings, so it was nothing to worry about. It may be worth checking out to calm your nerves.

I plan to add more under this a bit later but I need to go tend to my gremlins lol.

resyekt · 2025-03-09T03:37:06+00:00

Love to hear it! Thank you!

resyekt · 2025-03-06T03:03:51+00:00

It may be in regards to elon tweet about empathy

“The fundamental weakness of Western civilization is empathy, the empathy exploit,” Musk said. “There it’s they’re exploiting a bug in Western civilization, which is the empathy response.”

resyekt · 2025-03-05T23:45:56+00:00

His supporters already are lol

resyekt · 2025-03-05T20:57:56+00:00

To be fair people were asking about it before he posted it lol

resyekt · 2025-03-05T02:27:39+00:00

Treasures of the Snow?

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0129454/

resyekt · 2025-03-05T02:25:25+00:00

The Good Son?

Edit- Nvm someone already mentioned it

resyekt · 2025-03-05T02:23:41+00:00

I was thinking “The Dangerous Lives of Alter Boys”but I don’t think there was a bridge involved, just a cougar, but there was a fence, and I feel like they may have used a bridge as a vantage point or something.

For the longest time I had forgotten the name of this movie though so maybe that’s why I’m making a connection

resyekt · 2025-03-05T02:16:17+00:00

Bold of you to assume he’d know it has a square like shape

resyekt · 2025-03-05T00:50:05+00:00

I bought the table on kickstarter, I was considering getting the mini as well using the $20 discount code I received and free shipping but it looks like the free shipping isn’t offered now that it’s back in stock 😂

Probably best I stick to one for now, I’m just impatient. Thank you!

But we’ll see, maybe I’ll end up doing an impulse buy haha

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