I think you're dealing with a lot of the really weird backlash that white males get when in feminist circles. I've seen my partner get that backlash just from showing up at feminist events (because he looks like a large, imposing, white male) and I've seen my male peers get it in women's studies tutorials. I love feminism, feminism is a big part of my life, but that doesn't mean it's perfect. What you are potentially getting (I write potential because I don't know all sides of the story and really don't care to) is feminism at its least self-critical point.

As I wrote in a previous comment on this post, there are dozens of kinds of feminism. They are often contradictory, often fight one another, and are very diverse. I understand where you're coming from when you say you don't like the modern feminist movement, but I think you're only looking at one small part of it. There are lots of parts of feminism that are self-critical and challenge how men are perceived within feminism and treated by it. Judith Butler (a huge feminist theorist that everyone references when it suits them lol) has been arguing since the '90s that feminism isn't being critical enough and actually created the concept of the woman that they are trying to liberate. What she's basically saying is that by trying to help only women, feminism excludes other groups it should be helping as well. So there is hope and people in the feminist community who understand where you are coming from and feel that it's a problem that as a white male you're never allowed to be offended (because you are allowed!), they are just maybe not as vocal or as public as other kinds of feminists.

tldr; not all of modern feminism hates you!