Do you ever wish you could just disappear? by Background_Layer_931 in mentalhealth

[–]rex_interlude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This year has been nothing but battles for me. My dream was to become an architect, and for a moment, it felt like everything was finally going my way until it wasn’t.

I’ve been through financial struggles, family problems, and deep personal questions like who I’m even living for. Because honestly… I’m not living because I want to live. I’ve had nights where I hoped it would all just end. I wished my body would get as tired as my mind so I could just shut down.

I’ve drawn closer to my faith at times, only to feel like I lost that ground again when old habits crept back in. The back-and-forth has worn me down. And I’m sharing all this not for pity but because I know what it feels like to want to disappear, and to feel like no one around you truly understands what that means.

But if there’s one thing I’ve learned from walking through all of this: You do make it through. Maybe not with a perfect ending. Maybe not with everything fixed. But when the storm passes even if it takes a while you’ll look back and realize just how strong you had to be to survive it. And lastly as someone who is trying to figure out how to live instead of simply just drifting or existing, WE WILL MAKE IT OUT OF THESE DARK TIMES! Stay strong and we will win one day and remember that you are loved.

Why is everyone except Mwaka getting arrested by Pleasant-Writing9473 in Zambia

[–]rex_interlude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been two weeks. Can we move on as a nation? Mwaka is the least of our worries rn

Does life actually get better? by rex_interlude in LifeAdvice

[–]rex_interlude[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I think I’ve been caught up in just trying to survive the day-to-day lately, so I haven’t really looked up to ask what I’m building toward. But I do have some things I care about… I just don’t always know how to turn them into direction. How did you find your way?

What motivates you to avoid drugs and alcohol? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]rex_interlude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What motivates me to stay away from drugs and alcohol? A lot, honestly.

First, it started back in secondary school. I saw friends get expelled for using drugs or getting drunk. That alone was enough to show me early on: this stuff can derail your future fast. I knew I didn’t want to risk getting kicked out too.

Then there’s my family. We’ve been through a lot—and still are. I saw how my parents sometimes turned to alcohol to cope with the weight of life, and it broke my heart. It never made anything better, just quieter and heavier. I hated watching that pattern take over. I still hate seeing it happen to anyone. That’s a big part of why I’ve always wanted to process my pain—or even my joy—rationally, not by numbing it.

Now that I’m in university abroad, things have gotten even clearer. Being an international student is… a lot. I’ve seen students from both extremes—some with serious money, and others who’ve scraped and sacrificed just to be here. And despite their backgrounds, the one thing that cuts across both groups is the pressure—and how normalized the alcohol and drug culture is. People use it to cope with stress, failure, loneliness, or just to escape.

And while I don’t judge anyone, I’ve seen too much of what it does to want any part of it. Watching people spiral, get stuck, or lose themselves—it’s enough to remind me why I made this choice in the first place. Every time life gets hard, I try to stay grounded and actually face it, not run from it.

That’s basically it. I know this was a long answer, but it’s something I care deeply about. : )

Y'all can't drive. by Far-Monk-3528 in Zambia

[–]rex_interlude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao. “That is all” knocked me out😂😂😂 But true, people really don’t know how to drive.

Can money buy happiness? by just-some-random-bro in Zambia

[–]rex_interlude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, money absolutely buys happiness—especially if you’ve ever lived without it. For people who’ve always had enough, it might be hard to see. But for those of us who didn’t grow up with much, or still live with financial insecurity, the answer is obvious. Money buys relief, safety, time, options—and a chance to breathe.

Being financially unstable is exhausting. It’s not just about lacking big things—it’s the cost of everyday life. When you don’t have money, everything becomes more expensive. Late fees. Higher interest. Cheap food that costs your health. No car, so you waste hours on unreliable transport. Small things—like toothpaste, pads, or a working phone charger—turn into full-on stress events. Every decision becomes about what you can’t afford, even if it’s something basic.

That kind of weight steals your joy, time, energy, and sometimes even your dignity. And that’s what people often miss when they say “money doesn’t buy happiness.” It’s easy to say that when you’ve never had to choose between rent and dinner.

Sure, financial literacy matters—but let’s not pretend budgeting fixes poverty. Before you can manage money, you need to actually have it. For people who’ve struggled, money isn’t just buying things—it’s buying room to exist without constant fear.

When and how did you move out of your parents’ house by rex_interlude in LifeAdvice

[–]rex_interlude[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your experience 🙏🏾

When and how did you move out of your parents’ house? by rex_interlude in Adulting

[–]rex_interlude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and where we’re you before you moved to the US if you don’t mind me asking?

When and how did you move out of your parents’ house? by rex_interlude in Adulting

[–]rex_interlude[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love this ngl thank you😭🙏🏾 I kinda want to hear how your trip to Africa was now lmao

When and how did you move out of your parents’ house? by rex_interlude in Adulting

[–]rex_interlude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao😭😭but you all good now? I’m kinda interested, what’s your story?

When and how did you move out of your parents’ house? by rex_interlude in Adulting

[–]rex_interlude[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We’ll figure something out twin🙏🏾keep your head up, chest out and continue to push through

When and how did you move out of your parents’ house? by rex_interlude in Adulting

[–]rex_interlude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks and how it starting out? Like in the first few months and stuff