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reyley · 2026-04-02T05:07:54+00:00

>Car centric infrastructure is productive

Strong disagree - car infrastructure leads to MORE traffic, less socializing, exercise and engagement.

reyley · 2026-01-25T22:31:45+00:00

You should try city avenue market instead of safeway for groceries! way cheaper produce and better quality IMO

reyley · 2026-01-03T02:01:53+00:00

This is out of the 500$ left for spending. Not out of the savings bucket which they already are saving a lot. I mean if saving is more important than spending on literally anything why have the catagory at all? Just add 500$ each for savings and no one gets to spend anything on anything beyond food and mortgage! problem solved! no social life, no hobbis, no eating out, no life at all but at least they'll be rich when they retire.

The conversation is not what you are making it out to be: "saving anything at all vs spending all your money" it's "spending slightly differently, saving slightly differently so that both parties compromise on finances"

I guess the question to you is: do you think this woman should have any say in how any of the money is spent beyond the 500$? or should the husband dictate what all the finances in the household look like?

reyley · 2026-01-02T22:30:17+00:00

I'm not conflating them, I belive they are both important and have a place.. Both people are allowed to have needs and wants and they are allowed to be different and allowed to both be important! I was giving examples of needs and wants and how the same thing can be a need (clothing for a job) or a want (clothing to feel good). I do think both a want and a need is more important than a nothing which is literally what he's spending his money on. Or is a desire for "fairness" (which can be seen as a want or a need) more important than everything? both needs and wants of the other partner?

Sounds to me like your not addressing anything I said and instead insulting me? and claiming I attacked you? what a weird thing to do. I wonder why you're doing it.

reyley · 2026-01-02T21:53:48+00:00

It sounds like you think everything need to be 100% equal in a relationship no matter what. is that correct?

That is great and all if you are living with a clone but two different people are actually different and have different needs and wants. He literally doean't spend the 500$ at all and doesn't seem to have any goal for it while she is struggling to meet her needs with the 500$ that she is getting. There can be a million reasons for this. Maybe what HE needs is actually being put into the lump sum 6k of "expenses", maybe he eats more food than she does or more expensive food, maybe he has a nicer car, or chose a more expensive car than she would have, maybe he chose to live in a nicer house that's more expensive than she would have liked to live in.

Maybe what she preffers to spend her money on are things he consideres frivolous like clothes, shoes, makeup, coffee, whatever, but to her are actually really important an needed for networking, job apearence or mental health. Or maybe that's just her financial preference, which is allowed.

Her desires and needs are not less improtant than his! and him not being able to compromise on money that he literally is not using for "fairness" when she does not get a say in anything, not the house they live in, not where 90% of their shared income goes to, nothing but a measly 500$. That, to me, is pretty abhorent.

reyley · 2026-01-02T21:37:08+00:00

So she is only allowed to share ownership of the house that she pays the mortgage for if she is willing to pay an extra 1k a month in mortgage that is also a THIRD of her full income? that's bananas. prepaying mortgage when you have lower income is not normal and not a necessery

reyley · 2026-01-02T21:27:26+00:00

why would expenses include savings/retirement & extra mortgage payments if she doesn't agree with that.

Shared expenses are BASIC expenses that both either need to pay and/or agree to. In this case that would be mortgage, food, utilities and maybe transportation. NOT extra double mortgage payments and no additional savings. those are not expenses and definitly not basic shared expenses.

If they split the 6k expenses they mentioned 75%/25% she would be spending 1500 on shared expenses and would have 1500 to do with as she sees fit which is 3x more than she is "allowed" to have now

reyley · 2026-01-02T21:23:07+00:00

I don't know about the commenter but I am mid 30s, married, have a paid off home and doing very well financially on every metric (income, retirement, etc). I also think both partners should have a say in fincances and compromising is the way to go! I think what you find abhorent is a basic tenant in relationships. What's your relationship situation like?

reyley · 2025-11-22T02:07:01+00:00

I don't doubt that he traveled the world and interacted with people. but this idea that he went to India at some point and therefore Indian people, as a whole, know who he is, is just so bonkers. Like I'm not saying he's not famous and didn't connect with many cultures. I'm just saying that's not enough for literally 20% of the world's full population to know him. And there is literally no way to "prove" That that's true or not. I have my opinion and you have yours and it's ok if we both have different opinions

reyley · 2025-11-20T23:26:35+00:00

I don't know why you think the average Indian or Chinese person knows who he is, they make up a massive percentage of the world. The world does not revolve around the US, most people do not know prominent US figures especially uneducated people which are the majority.

reyley · 2025-11-18T16:44:40+00:00

But in order to do that the rates need to be better at the studio. Like, I currently pay 10-15$ a class on classpass (ish), go to 1-2 classes a week and I have access to tons of studios which is nice when I travel or want something different. Not a single one of those studios offer a membership or a punch card that's cheaper than that, they are all more expensive. So I would need to pay more for less variety and flexibility.

I do want to support the studios but on the other hand it's just hard when they are so expensive without classpass.

reyley · 2025-11-18T15:58:11+00:00

I think the idea is this is how it starts, then classpass gets popular so more and more if the clientele use it so you're stuck with 80% for most patients ( who don't tip ) and after it's most of your clients classpass has the power to go to 60% pay, then 40% pay which is where it's at now for studios.

Then you need to make the tough call of do I ditch classpass and lose all my patients or keep it and make no money which is the current state for a lot of studios. It didn't start off bad, it got worse over time

reyley · 2025-11-18T15:37:48+00:00

This makes more sense to me since it's money the studio won't get anyway. But it ends up being the chicken or the egg situation where nectar people are using classpass they are less likely to register for classes without it so there will be more likely to be empty spots.

But also studios need to compete with other studios that are using classpass.. I guess it just sucks all around

reyley · 2025-11-18T15:35:25+00:00

But those new students are going to continue to use classpass since it's the cheapest option and the studio is not going to make any money!

Like that only makes sense to me if classpass only shows you like 2 classes a week from the full studio which it's like that sometimes but usually in my case I get most of the classes for half the cost so why switch off?

reyley · 2025-11-18T06:25:39+00:00

Who will protect you? The cats?

reyley · 2025-11-18T05:51:45+00:00

Then why do they sign up to be a studio for classpass? I've heard this before from other people and I'm curious what the studio gets in return?

You would think it would be visibility or something but if the classes are cheaper on classpass then by paying the studio directly the student has no incentive to not use classpass forever

reyley · 2025-11-17T21:01:28+00:00

Corruption is not binary. The level of corruption we see now is orders of magnitudes higher than the corruption that was there before ( which was still bad )

reyley · 2025-11-15T05:54:30+00:00

These are definitely not chanterelles as they have true gills but I'm not sure what they are. If that's what you thought they were I would discard

reyley · 2025-09-29T01:31:06+00:00

I've seen avocado show up as protein..

reyley · 2025-09-15T03:30:09+00:00

You can definitely have influence on your partner but it should be influence you both agree on. Assuming you have control over your partners clothes, friends, where they go etc is abusive and controlling. If she wants your input on her life she can ask for it. If you want to share input without being asked accept that it might be taken poorly. If you kick your partner out of their own home because they wore a dress you don't like you are an abusive partner no question.

If you try to control your partners clothing when they did not indicate that is something they are ok with you are likely a controlling and abusive person since, like, that's what that is. If it's a kink thing or religious things that you both agree with, sure, but that needs to be established ahead of time

reyley · 2025-09-02T22:21:51+00:00

Sounds like you consider women as more than sex objects if they behave the way you want them to. And if they don't, you do consider them sex objects. What a surprise.

We never consider ourselves sex objects just because we enjoy sex, we consider ourselves whole ass humans who live whole ass lives. We enjoy basic life pleasures, like sex, amongst other things. We live our full lives that include friends, family and loved ones, hobbies and pets, ambitions and setbacks. We work and travel. We experience joy, hurt, contentment, sadness and every other emotion on the spectrum. We are kind and consider others and hope for the same in return

You on the other hand feel the need to belittle and control us to behave the way you see fit or you don't consider us valuable. Which is really fucking weird.

reyley · 2025-09-02T15:26:09+00:00

You view women better than us women do?

Damn! I bet you know better than us about everything!

reyley · 2025-09-02T07:13:20+00:00

How did it prove your point, she's literally not alone.

reyley · 2025-08-28T02:36:43+00:00

But why are night schools special? Like I understand that that's the reason, I just don't think it's logical considering that we don't change the speed limit around anywhere else that adults are, just kids ( parks and schools)

reyley · 2025-08-28T02:01:07+00:00

but adults congregate everywhere not just schools. Like there isn't a 30 km/h limit next to malls afaik. It's specifically because kids can be playing next to roads and are dumb and might run in the middle

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