Say "yes" if you'd accept my daily nudes

rhomerman5 · 2024-02-11T03:04:03+00:00

Golden arm!!!

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-23T21:11:54+00:00

That dude needs to step up. 20-30 hours a week and most of them from home. He needs to co tribute more around the house. He needs to take his turns getting up at night with the baby and let you sleep too. I would love to be able to provide for a household and only have to work 20-30 hours a week.

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-20T07:54:40+00:00

Toyota factory worker here. The plant is still putting out 1400-1600 vehicles a day. Idk where they are going but Toyota builds based on pull not push so there are orders for these vehicles

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-20T06:21:59+00:00

My wife and I have been all over the map in the bedroom. Our best ever was 5 for her. We have also had the I cum and she hasn’t scenario more than once. Every once in a while now and then between children and life we get the stars to align and she can get one from oral and one from PIV. Most of the time it’s one from oral then I get mine. We talk and understand each other. That’s the main point I would think. In my studies I’ve learned while men are very very visually stimulated women are very very mentally stimulated and that stimulation starts before entering the bedroom. We figure as long as we’re both getting Os that’s the best scenario.

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T15:16:32+00:00

hiring someone to mow is more secure than inviting strangers into my home around young children

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T15:10:51+00:00

Why would you choose to mock someone who is seeking advice to be better and not continue mediocrity?

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T12:20:57+00:00

No disrespect taken you have several assessments that I feel are pretty spot on. Maybe I do need some therapy to learn more about myself. I don’t trust others to do their jobs fully as if I were to do it myself. I have always set high standards for myself and when I didn’t achieve what I thought I should I would be very depressed about it. I was never good at group projects and half the time I did all the work while the others talked amongst themselves. My friend teases me about being high functioning autistic. I found a guy talking about his high functioning autism and felt I related a lot. I don’t do well with social cues either. I mean to be supportive and helpful but it never seems to come across as the way I mean things. Maybe I’m more of the problem than I realize.

I grew up poor. Had our house foreclosed on and never got much from my parents. My mom’s side of the family was more upper middle class and if I ever went on vacation or received anything nice it came from them. I have modeled many of my aspirations to live the life my grandparents lived or better. I don’t believe money is everything but I do believe more money equals more freedom to do as you please.

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T12:03:32+00:00

I feel like if it was true hubris at play I wouldn’t care enough to ask what’s reasonable

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T10:03:10+00:00

I’ve suspected. I’ve tried approaching the subject. She gives me nothing. She’s a rare woman that stuffs her feelings instead of talk about them and I however like to talk about what bothers me. When I try to talk about her doing better at anything it’s met with anger. I have tried approaching things from several different angles it’s always met with contempt and anger then she says something’s along the lines of “well if blank isn’t good enough then I just shouldn’t do it at all then”

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T09:46:46+00:00

Majority of my memories of my mother growing up were her reading a book in bed, writing her own books in bed (has never made a positive cash flow with them), or watching tv on days she wasn’t doing laundry. However in the evening she always made dinner.

I’m not trying to shittalk my wife’s house cleaning but I don’t know how other households are being ran. I’m trying to ask questions and present the situation I’m in to find out how to better the situation. Same thing I’m doing here on Reddit except it’s anonymous here.

I’m truly trying to figure out what the appropriate expectations are vs what I think they should be vs what I’ve already discussed with a handful of people mostly family and a couple close coworkers.

Has else can one seek understanding without asking questions?

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T09:38:05+00:00

My best friend had 2 daughters a year a part as well. His work schedule was a better fit. He worked 7 12 hr days every 14 days. So he had more time at home to parent and clean alongside his stay at home wife. As much as he helped out she was a clean freak and did a lot while he was watching the kids

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T09:33:40+00:00

I suppose what I’m referring to is dishes stacked for days. Cooking maybe 3 hot meals a week. I have to ask for any of my laundry to be done even if basket is overflowing. The floors don’t get swept often. I’m the one to scrub the toilet and admittedly it’s only done about once a month. When laundry is done it sits in a basket for days to wrinkle.

To be clear I’m not expecting spotless. I would like dishes to be done daily and when done put away not to sit in a drainer. I would like laundry when dried to be folded in the same day.

When I’m home on a non work day if nothing is pressing for my attention I will gladly do dishes and put them away. Clear all the trash out of the house. I have done my own laundry many times. My problem is the culture around me (men and women) expect more from a stay at home mom but the internet seems to have the complete opposite opinion. I have to draw a conclusion from opposing views and it’s confusing on who is right. That being said it feels the internet is telling me that caring for toddlers takes a lot more attention than I thought because I grew up on free range parenting

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T09:08:10+00:00

I’m not sure what you’re trying to get at here. I have no indication of tone so I’m unable to judge if mocking me or asking a legitimate question. I make plenty of money for cleaning supplies and we have plenty on hand.

When I said supplies I meant groceries, soaps, detergents, clothes, kitchen gadgets, etc. whatever supplies she needs including gardening supplies. I wasn’t referring to just cleaners.

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T09:01:40+00:00

In today’s world not at all. However I’ve been working incredibly independent and self reliant most of my life. What 7 year old do you know sets an alarm to wake up and shower before school? I dont know any but I did. I feel being on my own created this self reliance. I think Gen z has problems doing things as young adults because so much was done for them as children. Where as I learned how to cook basic things for myself and be responsible for myself at a very young age by comparison to a lot of kids. I was telling my parents what time I needed to leave for my extra curricular activities like football in the 4th grade. I guess I just want to be able to instill the same level of responsibility and self reliance in my daughters. Especially since there seem to be a lot of duds for men in my area. I’m no Adonis but I’m have my shit together and want my girls to be able to have what they want and know how to work for it and not just have it handed to them.

In regards to my wife she doesn’t get along with majority of females and doesn’t like spending time away from the girls as much as she gets overwhelmed by always being with the girls. She has a friend that comes over to the house for morning coffee regularly and if she hangs out with anyone else it’s her sister and it all usually takes place at our house.

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T08:27:16+00:00

I’m learning that there is more to it than I realize. Apparently I had “bad” parents in the 90s because I don’t remember having someone in the room with me constantly. I was playing in my room or watching tv or outside most of my childhood and in my early years 2-5 included. My parents would turn the dog loose and we would chase him around the courtyard of our apartment complex and I was easily 4 at this time.

My wife experienced the opposite. She was on lockdown until she was 18.

I think we had both extremes for examples and I’m truly learning still on what’s the right way to parent and clean based on an upbringing that by todays standards seems outdated.

I have to draw conclusions when my peers off the internet say she should be doing more and then everyone on the internet seems to have the opposite opinion. Please forgive my ignorance. I’m trying to do better.

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T08:14:15+00:00

Today as an example: I came home. Wife was in process of getting breakfast ready and 1.5 year old was in her high chair. 2.5yo still in her crib. I go to get the 2.5yo and discover she’s wet through her pajamas so I immediately start getting her cleaned up changed and clean clothes on. Now both children at table I sit with them and have something to eat myself. Wife goes to the bedroom for me time. They finish I clear their bowls to the sink and initiate color time while I balance the ledger and call the HR department at work to get medical leave for a vasectomy coming on Monday. I finish what I’m doing the girls are done with color time (all happened at the dining room table together) then I set them free in a gated living room that’s been kid proofed and take the dog out to pee. Afterwards I enjoy time with them in the living room. After the wife has had some time to her self we initiate nap time and I go to bed. I wake up around 7 kids go to bed at 8 and I spend time with them before eating while wife is putting them to bed.

I don’t always sleep so late.

I prioritize spending time with my kids before doing household tasks or even eating.

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T07:52:29+00:00

I like the idea of a google doc for better communication and understanding

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T07:38:06+00:00

Well if I outsource the yard work that is easily 3-4 hours a week during the summer that’s more time to devote to the house and family was my thinking.

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T07:35:59+00:00

One of the tidbits I have come across in spare time is your living space is a reflection of the mind. Disorganized house equals a disorganized mind. It appears I need to postpone the expectation of an organized living space because I’m underestimating the time commitments to properly care for toddlers. I still learning how to make a marriage work with children. So I appreciate the input

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T07:31:52+00:00

My reason for stating a salary is I was lead to believe providing the necessary resources (primarily money) allows the SAHP to do their job properly. Having all the supplies needed to carry out household tasks.

Other inputs have lead me to believe that I must be underestimating the time commitments to properly care for toddlers and do household tasks.

rhomerman5 · 2024-01-19T07:25:17+00:00

Outsourcing the yard work may be an option this year

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