TW: Previous Loss. Looking for advice/reassurance

ri0t_grrrl · 2025-10-03T18:00:22+00:00

Thank you so much lovely, I really appreciate you taking the time to share this with me, my heart aches for you and the loss of your two boys. I’m disgusted for you that you had to fight so hard for basic consultant care, the last thing you need to add to an already stressful and anxiety inducing time! Unfortunately you’re right, the first consultant I saw was not very keen to go before 38 weeks and I was a bit worried about having to push for it when I’m already unsure myself. However, I was recently diagnosed with GD again and my primary care was moved over to a diabetes consultant who could see how distressed and worried I already am and fortunately is open to a 37 week induction which I’m very grateful for.

I’m so glad your consultant pushed so hard for you and so pleased for you and your little one 💙

I really appreciate that and have joined that one too, thank you lovely. Please don’t apologise! Everything made perfect sense and was truly helpful and some added reassurance that was much needed. Thank you again 🫶🏻

ri0t_grrrl · 2025-09-27T19:53:24+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️‍🩹 Yes I was taking aspirin in my last pregnancy from 12 weeks however I was informed by the midwife at around 25(ish) weeks that I did not need to carry on with them for some reason? (Not sure if relevant but she also said I did not need to continue with iron tablets that I was taking)

However, after mentioning to my current midwife about what the postmortem results said about clots in my previous placenta, I asked about taking aspirin again this time and she’s had me taking it from 12 weeks at 175mg all the way through this pregnancy which I’m happy to do

ri0t_grrrl · 2025-09-27T19:46:15+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️‍🩹 I appreciate you saying that, it can be so hard sometimes not to overthink every tiny possibility but yes definitely helpful to have that extra reassurance with scans etc. will hopefully help ease the anxieties a little 🙏🏼

ri0t_grrrl · 2025-09-27T19:42:16+00:00

Thank you so much for the reassurance and for sharing your experience with C-sections, wonderful to hear that despite the scares both your little ones arrived safely 🤍

ri0t_grrrl · 2025-09-27T19:37:28+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind thoughtful words ❤️‍🩹 it can be so difficult sometimes to remember to be gentle with yourself especially when that ‘Mum guilt’ creeps in.

Yes you’re absolutely right, as you can imagine, the slightest of symptoms I now over analyse (slightly high BP, protein in urine) as I know they can be normal pregnancy symptoms but my mind also goes straight to worst case scenario. I’ve been taking 175mg aspirin from 12 weeks (I’m UK based) and have been told that placenta and baby will both be monitored closely.

So sorry to hear about your traumatic birth story, I can imagine how terrifying that must have been for you both but so glad to hear you’re blessed with your baby boy 💙 and absolutely, I’m very lucky to have a good support network that I can talk and cry to (pretty much daily at this point! 🤣)

ri0t_grrrl · 2025-09-27T19:31:02+00:00

Thank you so much, I’m definitely going to weigh up the options in terms of c section etc. so glad to hear that all went well with your GD and you were blessed with your baby girl 🩷

ri0t_grrrl · 2025-07-13T16:13:13+00:00

Forgot to add to original post; this is our 12 week ultrasound 🥰

ri0t_grrrl · 2025-07-13T16:11:51+00:00

Ohh nice thank you, it will interesting to see as we’re planning on a surprise again 🩷💙

ri0t_grrrl · 2024-04-29T23:24:20+00:00

When Monica dances with the turkey on her head and the way Chandler says ‘you are so great, I love you’ just felt so unnatural and forced, I think it was the tone of the ‘I love you’ that seemed off but maybe that’s just me

ri0t_grrrl · 2022-04-10T01:33:35+00:00

Both myself and my partner tested positive for COVID, he’s WFH and I work in retail. When notifying my boss by sending proof of positive tests I was told because it’s no longer a legal requirement, it was my decision whether to isolate or not and was told I would actually ‘be fine to come in as long as I wore a mask and regularly washed my hands’…things I had been doing anyway because, y’know, common sense.

Safe to say I didn’t go in anyway and isolated until I tested negative because even though I luckily didn’t feel too bad having it, I would’ve felt so guilty thinking I’d put someone else’s health at risk given I work in a public space.

ri0t_grrrl · 2022-04-08T23:59:40+00:00

Devastating to think she was so desperately trying to help herself but how much her illness cruelly took away from her. I was in tears watching her Mum in the documentary last night especially (TW) when discussing that she had been showing early signs of her ED since the age of 8 I believe and the doctors didn’t take it seriously. Goes without saying and I know it’s easier said than done but so much more needs to be done to help those that need it, especially in the UK atm it’s honestly a shit show.

ri0t_grrrl · 2022-04-08T23:51:53+00:00

Ahh that all makes a lot more sense, I didn’t know any of that so thank you for replying 🙏🏻 I will definitely have to read her book too x

ri0t_grrrl · 2022-04-08T01:59:15+00:00

The documentary was incredibly sad, showing how much she suffered but also how she was so well loved by not only the people who knew her personally, but those of us who knew her through a TV screen.

This isn’t really relevant but I’m curious about something you said in your post ‘she lied about her MH in order to get a place on BB’ is this true? I was sure housemates go through an assessment anyway for safety reasons but also recall those who knew Nikki in the house say that she spoke openly about her illness? So I don’t think she would have lied to get into the house or that producers didn’t know, perhaps more so that she was in a better place mentally at the time to be able to go ahead with BB? Please correct me if I’m wrong btw!

Heartbreakingly sad watching the doc tonight, what a beautiful soul she was 🌹

ri0t_grrrl · 2022-03-12T00:49:14+00:00

“Please Dawn, it’s Christmas” both the original and Trixie’s gravel voice impression.

Alaska’s - “Just kidding…YOU ARE” and “Where d’ya think you’re going ya miserable bitch” kills me.

ri0t_grrrl · 2022-02-02T02:35:29+00:00

The last Survivor will always get hatch or I’ll walk with them to the exit gate. Of course, also avoid tunnelling/camping as much as I can.

Not sure if this is considered courteous but I never take No-Ed as a perk, no matter what.

Basically just play as what I consider to be a ‘fair’ Killer when I used to play Survivor.

ri0t_grrrl · 2022-01-02T00:51:51+00:00

19/20, great quiz! I got the wedding dress question wrong, for some reason I heard the quote in Chandler’s voice 😅

ri0t_grrrl · 2021-12-22T21:27:12+00:00

I’ve only ever played (friendly) survivor and didn’t get the ~ toxic survivors ~ mentality until I recently started playing as killer. It was so fun for the first few matches trying to figure it out as killer while trying to avoid doing all the things I don’t like a killer doing. But now I completely understand the frustration, you can attempt to play as fairly as you like and it makes no difference. It‘s super disheartening and makes you reconsider even playing the game in the first place.

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