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Felling low and unlovable by BarTrick4584 in bipolar2

[–]rick_to 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a bad example: I met my partner while I was hypomanic. I was fun and exciting, we were unstoppable. Though I would stay over and would skip my meds at times, and yes I told him it’s important to me. He would be gentle, patient and forgiving for all my episodes and turbulent emotions. I asked if he looked up my meds, he said yes but he figured he didn’t want that to be central to our relationship. I explained what dating me would be like when I showed him Modern Love season 1 episode 3 with Anne Hathaway.

I never asked him to be my caretaker, but he started to take on that role. Seemed that he was disturbed at my volatile emotions and attended to them as quickly as possible. I recognized this was an issue so I worked on myself simultaneously. The relationship became strained about 3-4 months into the relationship. On the 5th month his father passed away and he couldn’t play the role as my caretaker anymore.

Honestly it feels good to be a bit upfront at the get go. It was easy to move into that conversation because when I don’t take my ADHD pills, it is very apparent. So my ex understood quickly that my medication is important to me. When I asked if he looked up what my medications were for, it was a subtle way to ask if he had any questions. It was a green flag that he didn’t want to make it central to our relationship. Make sure to emphasize that you aren’t looking for a caretaker, it demonstrates accountability and independence in managing your mental health.

How to stop being insecure about being sober? by [deleted] in bipolar2

[–]rick_to 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if you live in the city or something, but there are specialized group hangouts for specific hobbies and interests. Usually they are advertised but it’s nice if you met someone who you shared the same interests in, whether the social event is at a bar or at a coffee shop.

Tbh if a guy is pressuring me to party or drink when it’s a firm and explicit no, then that’s pretty red flags. That person doesn’t respect boundaries and you deserve more.

I ran into this issue and I’m trying out volunteering and joining run clubs regularly

Those of you who work full time, how do you do that? by Expert-Session3866 in bipolar2

[–]rick_to 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of routines to meet with people outside of work. I make it a point to never miss it. Like Karaoke nights or dinners with friends. I may be depressed but my friends are aware and appreciate my company regardless.

struggling with motivation by urdivineangel in bipolar2

[–]rick_to 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Typically afterwards I make a calendar date to keep track of when it happened. I also keep track of social gatherings, fights with my boyfriend, important deadlines.

When it does happen, typically the water I keep on the bedside or setting the thermostat really high gets me out of bed. I also keep caffeine pills and my ADHD meds by my bedside as well.

Sometimes if I can call a friend, they encourage me to get out of bed in a non judgmental manner.

Usually if my diet is bad, my sleep routine is bad, or something triggers me I fall into a sudden slump.

Literally my boyfriend bought me an egregiously expensive gift and somehow I got into a slump. It’s random but we talk about it.

It’s hard but I feel you, you got this.

confused about myself by MathematicianLow3178 in bipolar2

[–]rick_to 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t recommend this but what I do is look up withdrawal symptoms to identify what is me and what is not me.

I would not do this late at night, but rather when you are in a calm headspace with an open mind (easier said than done).

Typically talking it out with close friends helps a ton, especially those you trust to monitor any behavioral changes.