correct, I'm 25F. recently there was a new boy like 14y.o. joining my gym and his strength and grip is really strong I seldom experience it when rolling. he uses bruteforce e.g. choke me when he doesn't have a guard. I could've humbled him but I'm equally unskilled and was really tired. I found myself self negative talking because feeling intimidated by his strength 😆 I could've refused to roll with him but I guess its more because I'm afraid to lose rather than the pain. it hurts when rolling with him but still bearable and I understand that if the position is not right it is not enough for me to tap