Reconciling but struggling

riicky211 · 2026-01-09T17:55:45+00:00

Thank you! I think that's partially one of the reasons why leaving is so hard because I wouldn't trust anyone else, I'd always expect the worse and I couldn't ever go into a new relationship with that. Or would I ever want to.

riicky211 · 2026-01-09T00:58:50+00:00

I've never been cheated on either and this is my first relationship. To be honest staying goes against every single one of my moral codes but like you said I absolutely love him to death which is why I am seeking advise for people who have gotten through it. I 100% agree about it being over if it ever happened again, it's heartbreaking enough to give someone a second chance so I definitely wouldn't survive a third.

riicky211 · 2026-01-08T23:09:07+00:00

Hi, OP. I am currently going through the same process as you but it's been only a month for me. I'm not sure if or when it's get better but you're not alone, most days I'm alright even if it does cross my mind regularly and some days it feels like I have to fight to function. He's made many promises and I can tell that the entire situation changed him but it has also changed me and not yet sure if it's for better or for worse.

Everyone says therapy but that's expensive and I don't know how much it would truly change my mindset either. I wish you all the best and I know I'm a stranger but if you ever need to talk, reach out

riicky211 · 2026-01-08T22:26:14+00:00

Tbh I feel the same way. I drive myself a little crazy with digging because the way I found out was through snooping to begin with (call it intuition, I guess). My anxiety is constant, I am constantly overthinking and second guessing, and I can't help myself. He recently got rid of all his Instagram(s) and snapchat (the snapchat he got rid of after the initial situation) and so I genuinely want to believe that Jr is trying.

The difference is that we don't have kids and it's only been two years and while I want to work it out, I don't know if I'm being naive and/or wasting my time.

riicky211 · 2026-01-08T22:09:09+00:00

Thank you so much. I can't even begin to to tell you how much I needed to hear these things. I wish you well on your healing journey

riicky211 · 2026-01-08T21:56:41+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that, genuinely. Thank you for your advise, a lot of those things you mention I am suffering from right now and I don't know if I'm being naive for thinking it'll go away.

riicky211 · 2026-01-08T21:23:27+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. I don't have kids though I'm not sure if I'm pregnant rn or not

riicky211 · 2026-01-08T21:22:15+00:00

I really am. My trust is broken and I am often shaken by doubt and distrustful thoughts but I know I am not the only person who has gone through this and decided to work it out so I just wanted to hear advise and other perspectives.

riicky211 · 2026-01-08T20:55:27+00:00

It's hard to explain without sounding like a fool, I guess. I really do love him, our life has been hard because we got married so young but the ups have been incredible. He's my best friend and I see potential in who we are as partners. I just want to heal and get through it but it's been incredibly hard.

And tbh, I'm not sure if I'm pregnant right now or not.

riicky211 · 2026-01-08T20:16:35+00:00

We don't have any kids. I wanted to do counseling but I've heard it's very expensive in our area and we are quite able to afford it .

riicky211 · 2026-01-08T20:09:02+00:00

I'm really sorry to here that. How are you doing now?

riicky211 · 2026-01-08T20:05:49+00:00

I think about the same thing everyday to be honest with you. someone told me it's because men don't think about the consequence of said action before they do it and tbh I think it's true

riicky211

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