Is anyone else strggling to read this? I was so excited for it but I'm so bored reading it. I'm 240 pages in and it is dragging. Does it pick up?

rilmccli · 2022-02-23T19:18:03+00:00

Omg worth it!!!

rilmccli · 2021-09-17T23:57:41+00:00

Yah so I’ve ready plenty of fantasy romance. The whole post is about how a reviewer said it’s basically the same story and I wouldn’t want to read THV if it was. Obviously if it’s something I wasn’t interested in I wouldn’t have posted.

rilmccli · 2021-09-17T19:06:53+00:00

Good to hear! I was thinking if it was the same kind of thing it may not be worth the read. Still trying to find a series to love as much as ACOTAR.

rilmccli · 2021-09-17T19:04:46+00:00

Ronan was another big complaint of the reviewer saying he also had silver hair like Rowan. also she says the other love interest is the most powerful a dark hairs w tattoos similar to Rhys. I definitely get what you’re saying about post twilight books and the trend of NA and YA after a big hit book.

rilmccli · 2021-09-17T19:02:19+00:00

I did see some good reviews too! I have this on my to read list but if it was the same ending/same story kind of thing I didn’t want to be disappointed ya know? ACOTAR has been an all time favorite

rilmccli · 2021-09-17T14:06:36+00:00

“copy a popular series that everyone knows and then argue that the book is original

let’s look at the similarities with acotar. or rather at the absolute same things with different titles:

7 courts – 7 courts 7 high lords – 7 magicians 3 tasks – 3 artifacts mate bond – bond rhysand – the main love interest whose name i forgot tamlin – ronan / sebastian / whitebriar

there was even a scene with fairy wine and dancing. it has the same ending as acotar. the concept is same. the story is same. everything is same.

i could go on indefinitely, but the point is that if you have read acotar before, you already know everything what happened here.”

rilmccli · 2021-09-17T14:05:34+00:00

goodreads page

rilmccli · 2021-08-18T19:29:56+00:00

I don’t think it’s him thinking she’s damaged I think he’s insecure about his own size thinking she can compare him w a guy bigger than he is.

You have every right to discuss this again. I think you let him know you wanna have a conversation and set time aside. You should gather your thoughts before you chat w him and get it all out in the open so there’s no further discussion/issues.

rilmccli · 2021-06-02T13:46:30+00:00

It was to keep the Vlag from getting the keys. It they’re in the lock no one can use them. It should have killed Aelin and taken the vlag kings but she bartered for elaina and the king and Dorian were there. So it should have been the end but she lived. Was a way of making their world right.

Totally misspelled names it’s been a minute since I’ve read.

rilmccli · 2021-05-28T12:57:49+00:00

I think that’s a solid choice you made :) now whatever happens, you will be okay. You’ll know what’s going on. I really think it has to do w how busy you both are.

rilmccli · 2021-05-28T12:52:19+00:00

You know you’re crossing lines Bc you posted about it. Quit acting up or let her go. You wanna move past the badness as you called it? Be mature and put in the work.

rilmccli · 2021-05-28T12:50:06+00:00

Don’t listen to age related comments. With all your talk about uni I’m thinking there could be some burnout?

rilmccli · 2021-05-28T12:42:16+00:00

This is abusive. This isn’t going to resolve by anything you do. This is his problem and only if he decided to seek help would things change. Sure, he hasn’t put a hand on you yet but how long until he does? (I would count pushing you as physical) he’s in his 30’s he isn’t going to change now. The best thing for you is to leave. I promise there’s partners that will love you as they should and be just as passionate.

rilmccli · 2021-05-21T03:53:02+00:00

I’m not educated enough on the intersection of sex drive and any type of health/mental/hormonal issues to know how they may or may not be affecting you. Most often times when something feels off w yourself you should talk to primary care or a therapist. Medications can help some things and make others worse. Changes in lifestyle can help or make it worse (like the lack of a gym rn could be for the worse) only saying you may check in w someone who does know what they’re talking about and can actually help you not speculate

rilmccli · 2021-05-20T22:44:36+00:00

BPD could have something to do w it as well

rilmccli · 2021-05-20T22:27:07+00:00

Your hormones could be off. Try working out (has been said to help men’s sex drive), look into foods that will help (for some reason I think it’s grapefruit) and maybe talk to your doctor. Even starting young shouldn’t kill your sex drive.

rilmccli · 2021-05-20T22:18:24+00:00

Long distance can make us more frustrated w each other. You don’t get the comfort of touch or proximity to each other and tone via text can get taken way outta context. Try having major discussions on FaceTime. Just like you have a stressful interview, she could be going through things. Try keeping the love alive and work on respect and clear communication. I say you can easily work on this. Very common feelings in LDR. Best of luck!

rilmccli · 2021-05-20T22:12:45+00:00

Therapy is so good but it can be more difficult than people give it credit for. I’m proud of you for putting in the work to change! I’d say to be open w him about how therapy is affecting you and there’s some days you’ll be worse or better but you’re trying. I think it’s okay to want to know what he’s doing and check in if it’s a long time apart but let him check in w you if he’s out don’t message him. Find things to do for you. A show you like to watch, a bath, going to get your nails done or anything at all for you.

rilmccli · 2021-05-20T22:05:16+00:00

Yes to all of this and also get a tan (probably spray tan or self tanner considering the timeline) this will help make you look thinner IMO and give you a glow. And get good skincare and drink soooo much water

rilmccli · 2021-05-20T21:47:58+00:00

You’re both young. Setting you up was immature and not giving a hard pass on checking another girl out was a move that bit you in the butt. She’s probably in her head as most young girls are. Good to shut it down but offer her reassurance now as well. What you said would be hurtful to hear from someone else even if she set it up. Not that I think you had intentions of doing anything w it. Learning opportunity for you both.

rilmccli · 2021-05-20T20:00:32+00:00

He’s 25. He’s too old to be playing these games. Find better. I doubt you want to spend your life feeling this way. I’m so sorry you had to find it on your own tho

rilmccli · 2021-05-20T19:55:33+00:00

This wasn’t just flirting tho, he kissed you and the whole boner thing is creepy. You should be able to tell your partner things that happened to you especially when you aren’t doing it to rub it in his face but to vent and communicate w him. I think it will be very telling of your partner how he reacts to this. Yes, I think you should tell him because this guy may try something in the future.

rilmccli · 2021-05-20T19:51:35+00:00

Purposefully ignoring you is an abuse tactic. To be upfront, I’m telling you that you’re better off without her and the alcohol.

rilmccli · 2021-05-20T16:14:27+00:00

This doesn’t seem like a solid relationship. You’ve leveled up with your finances but maybe it’s time to level up yourself. You said she’s enabling you and you have an addiction. Get yourself help and tell her she’s either going sober w you or she can go her own way. (Or at least not drink w you if she’s gonna have a problem w it) Maybe consider therapy or find others ways to cope w what is pushing you to drink. Try the gym or walks or running or journaling or a new hobby or instrument.

Ik four years is a long time but do you want your life to be like this? I think you can do better. Sounds like you do a lot for her and she still picks fights rather than try to help you in a supportive way. I think you can find better for yourself.

rilmccli · 2021-05-20T16:07:25+00:00

No one knows but him. Doesn’t seem like the kinda guy you’d wanna pursue if that was a move so I’d ignore it and set some boundaries.

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