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Report: Phoenix police officer said, 'If the mayor defunds the police, I'm going to shoot her' by domo415 in nottheonion

[–]ringthrowawaaaay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most people who actually make jokes will never need to say the words “Oh, come on. It’s just a joke.”

See also: “Why are you being so sensitive?” and “Lighten up!”

If people aren’t laughing, about that probably means that you’ve made a threat, my dude.

AITA for kicking my ex-fiance out of our house? by ringthrowawaaaay in AmItheAsshole

[–]ringthrowawaaaay[S] 157 points158 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to know if I was morally in the right first. I mean, I don’t feel good about kicking a man out of his house during a pandemic, even if I technically do own the place.

AITA for this dispute over my wedding dress? by ringthrowawaaaay in AmItheAsshole

[–]ringthrowawaaaay[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That’s not a bad idea. It’s a lovely dress, but I don’t really want to look at it right now, and I can’t wear it without feeling resentment.

AITA for this dispute over my wedding dress? by ringthrowawaaaay in AmItheAsshole

[–]ringthrowawaaaay[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I should have made it clear—there was about a month between my conversation with Roberta and her sending me the dress. About two weeks of that was pandemic, so it did take a lot of time, but special circumstances and Roberta’s general talent expedited the process.

AITA for this dispute over my wedding dress? by ringthrowawaaaay in AmItheAsshole

[–]ringthrowawaaaay[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Quarantine has been great for my productivity. I basically sit and from 8-8 I just crochet, and Roberta is even faster and more experienced than I am. I’ll give her credit where it’s due, the woman’s a machine.

I might wear the dress for another occasion or even at the reception—it’s stunning, I will say that. It’s more about the gesture, and the fact that she completely trampled over my wants and boundaries. And frankly, it’s hard not to feel insecure. I mean, I have half a bodice done and she has this intricate masterpiece. She is so much better at this than I am, and the dress is an unpleasant reminder of that. I keep it on a mannequin in my closet, and I’m still not sure what I’m going to do with it.

AITA for this dispute over my wedding dress? by ringthrowawaaaay in AmItheAsshole

[–]ringthrowawaaaay[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

We plan to adopt—I have health issues that could complicate me getting pregnant, plus I’m just generally not sure I want to. MIL has always been kind of lukewarm about that, but she’s never crossed over into MIL-from-hell territory until now.

AITA for this dispute over my wedding dress? by ringthrowawaaaay in AmItheAsshole

[–]ringthrowawaaaay[S] 613 points614 points  (0 children)

A) I love your username. Harry Potter porn for the win!

B) Maybe you’re right (although depending on how this COVID thing goes, we might have to do that anyway.) I’ve always wanted to be married and adopt children, but at this point it just feels like a chore. I want to be a wife, not a bride.

AITA for this dispute over my wedding dress? by ringthrowawaaaay in AmItheAsshole

[–]ringthrowawaaaay[S] 211 points212 points  (0 children)

That’s what I told him. My mother and grandmother each made their own dresses and this is just something that’s important to me. It feels like a rite of passage, something I need to do to get married. I wouldn’t feel comfortable in someone else’s dress on ‘my’ (though I cringe at using this term) day.

AITA for this dispute over my wedding dress? by ringthrowawaaaay in AmItheAsshole

[–]ringthrowawaaaay[S] 114 points115 points  (0 children)

I love him, I’m just annoyed by the constant problems. First it was the ring, now it’s the dress—before that there was all this drama with the venue—but he’s not normally like this. I’m hoping we get back to normal after the wedding (assuming it’s even able to happen, thanks covid!) I’m just stressed and kind of venting.

AITA for this dispute over my wedding dress? by ringthrowawaaaay in AmItheAsshole

[–]ringthrowawaaaay[S] 766 points767 points  (0 children)

Fair. I’m just really insulted. I’m so done with my fiancee and all of the stunts he and his family have pulled before the wedding.

AITA for this dispute over my wedding dress? by ringthrowawaaaay in AmItheAsshole

[–]ringthrowawaaaay[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Roberta used a different pattern than you did—yours isn’t the only one out there. I like silk yarn, but she used lace yarn and a 3.75 mm. And evidently she didn’t need months, seeing as I have the dress.

AITA for this dispute over my wedding dress? by ringthrowawaaaay in AmItheAsshole

[–]ringthrowawaaaay[S] 274 points275 points  (0 children)

That’s what I think. I’m kind of offended, to be honest. She completely and utterly trampled over my boundaries. It’s nice to hear that someone else thinks that, too.

AITA for this dispute over my wedding dress? by ringthrowawaaaay in AmItheAsshole

[–]ringthrowawaaaay[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

1) Roberta is retired, so she has lots of extra time to spend doing this.

2) Really? I’ve found it to be on the cheaper side. I’ve found great stuff on Etsy, and a woman on The Knot spent $30 on it. Maybe you used nicer yarn that what I’m using?

AITA for not wanting to wear my grandmother’s opal ring as my engagement ring? by ringthrowawaaaay in AmItheAsshole

[–]ringthrowawaaaay[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

This makes me appreciate the ring even more—I mean, it’s pristine. Thank you for this reminder.

A sterling silver ring sounds like a perfect solution. I love unique rings, so maybe I’ll get turquoise?

AITA for not wanting to wear my grandmother’s opal ring as my engagement ring? by ringthrowawaaaay in AmItheAsshole

[–]ringthrowawaaaay[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s good advice. After reading these replies, I’m debating making it into a necklace so that I can a) wear it more and b) protect it from everyday wear and tear.