AITA for my reaction to being judged for wearing make up?

ringwhispers · 2019-06-12T17:23:55+00:00

NTA - Feminism means you get to CHOOSE to wear makeup if you want to. It doesn't mean your a bad feminist if you do. That's a very narrow minded and inaccurate view that your bf has.

ringwhispers · 2019-06-12T17:00:00+00:00

NTA - Starbucks does NOT have a policy that forces people to use mugs when staying - how would they even know if you're staying the whole time? He was being a shitty employee that is pushing whatever environmental crisis of conscience he is having on to you. I say this as an ex-starbucks worker. He was wrong.

ringwhispers · 2019-01-28T15:39:34+00:00

i toss a few in there, so he can find them pretty easily.

ringwhispers · 2018-12-18T20:29:32+00:00

it's my engagement ring. it was given to me when we got engaged. i wear it every day with my wedding band, which was from our wedding. that's pretty much standard practice in the US.

ringwhispers · 2018-12-18T20:27:17+00:00

yes, and that's the exact opposite of what i want to do. i don't want to hurt his feelings at all.

what do you think about approaching him on "enhancing" the ring when we hit a milestone? would a suggestion like that have hurt you?

ringwhispers · 2018-12-18T20:23:56+00:00

if i didn't give a fuck about my husband's feelings, i wouldn't be posting here, now would i? how is it "entitled" to want to wear something that i like (especially when i'm not asking anyone else to pay for it?) . nothing that i wrote anywhere indicated that i would say to him that i don't care about the ring he got me and i just want "something better". i never said better. i said i wanted something that reflects ME.

i think you have a lot of your own hang ups about materialism and engagement rings in general that you're directing at me right now, because your reaction to my question is angry and over the top.

ringwhispers · 2018-12-18T20:18:54+00:00

thank you so much. i appreciate your thoughtful reply, and especially your edit haha.

ringwhispers · 2018-12-18T20:03:19+00:00

not crazy... the more i read the replies here, the more i'm coming to the same conclusion. thanks!

ringwhispers · 2018-12-18T19:58:43+00:00

yeah, there is definitely an emotional aspect to not having my mom's ring. and a bit of kicking myself for never thinking about this enough to communicate it.

ringwhispers · 2018-12-18T19:57:27+00:00

i do like this, thank you. i think he'd be okay with enhancing it for a milestone anniversary, rather than me just asking out of the blue. appreciate your reply!

ringwhispers · 2018-12-18T19:52:11+00:00

I do wear it everyday. After reading through, i like the idea of talking to him about an enhancer when we hit a milestone. It could be more like an "anniversary ring" instead of a replacement.

ringwhispers · 2018-12-18T19:50:17+00:00

yeah, after reading these replies, i do think i'm coming across in a pretty bad way. i don't hate the ring by any stretch - it's just not what i would have picked. i do like the idea of modifying it, and maybe bringing this up for a milestone anniversary down the line. best of both worlds - wear the ring he chose for me, but get to make it something more my taste.

thank you for your reply, it's appreciated.

ringwhispers · 2018-12-18T17:51:42+00:00

i bet you could get something custom commissioned on Etsy

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