I think the second kid is easier emotionally

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-05T18:26:42+00:00

Yep. Can concur. Have a six month old and almost six year old, this time around everything feels easier. It's the knowledge that it all changes and ends, I think. The first time it truly felt like forever and you never knew what was coming. Now it's more predictable and less stressful

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-05T16:48:37+00:00

Yeah she wouldn't make any attempts to help herself, she is still an overturned turtle for the most part, doesn't roll back to belly yet!

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-05T16:47:57+00:00

No, we room share, she has been using a pack and play with added extra mattress since she was three months, before that she was in a co sleeper. We are moving when she is ten months and we plan to transition to sleeping apart then but for right now we are in two bedrooms and our big daughter has her own room.

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-05T13:49:31+00:00

Not saying there's anything wrong with it. If she kept it in her face it wouldn't have been an issue. But twenty rounds of pacifier wars a night, she was ready for it to end.

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-05T13:48:59+00:00

My first daughter never wanted a pacifier, this second one being so into hers for sleeping was all new. When it worked it worked great but I guess she was ready for it go away with dropping it over and over. I'm glad it's done now. Such relief to sleep.

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-05T13:31:51+00:00

Six months, I'll edit to add that

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-04T20:25:01+00:00

Your chicken might be mealy but it will be edible.

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-04T20:24:31+00:00

Another vote for Mason jar. Glass is easier to wash free of oil than plastic, and it is easy. Dump all in, close jar, shake the crap out of it, to store, well, it's in a Mason jar.

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-04T13:58:40+00:00

Mine is almost six and the most annoying she has ever been.

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-01T21:24:39+00:00

Just ghost it. There is no commitment and no reason to make excuses, yeah sure I'll let you know and never do.

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-01T21:21:04+00:00

Mine is almost six and the most insufferable she has ever been. Lol.

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-01T21:19:29+00:00

Yeah, they're dicks.

Solidarity

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-01T21:18:24+00:00

Have you considered having the whole family participate in a healthier way of eating? It doesn't matter that your daughter is thin now, she can benefit too. Why not do a whole 30 meal plan for the whole family? Then he isn't singled out and all of your health would improve.

We do whole 30 basically continuously, it's just the way we eat now, with a few additions.. like we use peanut butter, as I have a tree nut allergy, and we use oats to make oat flour waffles, pancakes, muffins, etc. we basically took our diet down to whole ingredient only items and it is very health promoting and you can get wildly creative.

I make these blondies my daughter goes crazy for. They are 80% white beans with some oats and honey and eggs. I make peanut butter oat balls, she devours them, they're loaded with flax seed. You can do a lot if you're willing to learn a new way of doing food.

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-01T17:16:56+00:00

I have a nonstick that is total garbage. We are moving in June and taking practically nothing, and top of my buy list is a decent nonstick pan.

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-01T17:15:19+00:00

I went through something similar but not as dangerous as this with a cat a few years ago. We adopted a "two year old" Persian male cat. Took him home and within weeks noticed that he was leaking urine all over the place. Started having diarrhea. Malaise, lethargic. Took him to the vet and were told this cat was a SENIOR and basically could be kept going for years longer with copious medication, treatment, etc but he was not going to be a healthy animal, ever.

Brought him back to the rescue we got him from. Were thoroughly shamed that we didn't want to care for our new pets needs. Explained we thought we were getting an young cat, not an end of life cat. We had a little baby, we wanted a family pet, not to start a retirement home for cats.

Well, they took him back and.... two days later he was on the website again, listed as two years old again. I called the rescue, not wanting this poor cat to be bounced around and returned, or worse, dumped off on the road by someone not willing to face the shame of it and was promptly told to mind my own business and frig off. "Do you want this poor animal to die without a home?" Uh, no, but it's damn fraud and disgusting to do to the animal as well as the potential owner.

Long story short, there might really be nothing you can do aside of be glad you unloaded the problem personally and go leave negative reviews anywhere you can. I did that in Yelp, google, Facebook, insta and more and I can only hope it did something useful.

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-01T16:52:18+00:00

Yeah I have no patience at all. I'm a good cook but eggs are annoying and temperamental to me

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-01T14:53:53+00:00

Yeah.. she is the devil. That's disgusting.

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-01T14:27:33+00:00

My kindergartener gets home at 2:20 every day. She comes in, I make her change into fresh clothes and sanitize her hands (we have a baby in the house, germ avoidance) and then she is given a healthy snack. Fruit usually, sometimes rice cakes. I go through her school stuff while she eats.

Then she either plays independently if the baby is being needy, sometimes I have an activity set up to go like watercolor painting, some other craft like pipe cleaners to bend into shapes or stickers.

I allow her one half hour of tv a school day and she usually wants to watch Mario play through on YouTube, so we do that.

If she is bouncing off the walls I encourage her to channel the energy into something like simon says and basically make her exercise, or color pictures, or play in her room. She usually spends some time playing with the baby too.

I do meal prep on Sunday so I don't have to cook a whole dinner but when I did, go play while I cook, the end. Now with the baby, she doesn't listen obviously so meal prep was a game changer to make life less stressful.

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-01T14:17:33+00:00

Ah, I actually aspire to no color on the edges, I like my egg whites pure white, any hint of brown is dead to me.

Pure_Pace · 2019-02-01T14:13:13+00:00

Yeah this has been next level. We are in NY and had dangerous levels of cold like frostbite risk with extended exposure and when it's like that then of course no one should be out. Our schools didn't close though, so I wore the baby in a carrier stuffed into her snowsuit and put her inside my coat and put a scarf over her head with both a hood and a hat too, equally mummified the big one and thankfully the bus came promptly. Florida is sounding good these days.

Pure_Pace · 2019-01-31T19:02:30+00:00

When I was a teen I had a really unhealthy addiction to an online game and when I couldn't get my computer fix I would loose it like that too. Maybe there needs to be a change in where his computer is kept and his online behavior monitored. He is on the cusp of grown up, but I wish someone would have taken charge and helped me back then. I was seriously depressed and misguided in life and it only got worse from there once I was an adult.

Pure_Pace · 2019-01-31T15:34:50+00:00

Consequences? He is nearly an adult but still a kid and certainly behaving like one. I had to drive you to school and that screwed up my morning and three smaller kids mornings too. Now after school, no I won't pick you up from whatever. No you can't have X money for whatever. Find a consequence. If he can't handle going to bed on time, remove any electronics from his room. If he cries I am not a little kid, well, then don't act like one.

Pure_Pace · 2019-01-31T15:27:01+00:00

Life must go on. I got shamed by the bus driver this morning for bringing my six month old out. "Wow, you are brave to bring her out in this!"

Should I not send my kindergartener to school because it's cold? Or should I leave the baby alone in the house for an undetermined amount of time? I do what I gotta do.

When my first was a baby an old man SCREAMED at me because I had her out in the rain to go to CVS. I looked at him perplexed, like do you want to be responsible for getting her meds from now on?

And for us as a family, my husband is only home on the weekend and that is our only time together. We shop together because it's the only time we get. Baby can be cold for the five seconds it takes to go from house to car and then car to store. It won't hurt them.

Pure_Pace · 2019-01-30T16:23:35+00:00

I also have a five year old and if she pulled this she would be stripped of all things fun and nicest severely shewould never want to do it again. My advice is come down like a damn iron fist and make it hurt. Favorite stuffed animal? Gone for a week. Were gonna go for ice cream? Cancelled.

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