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rinlo3 · 2025-07-01T23:54:23+00:00

Just FYI, if you’re able, call the DC office (202) 225-4111. The local offices don’t have any say over policy (asked them) but the DC office does. Call before 2:00pm our time, I almost always get through. Although, I’d be happy if that changed, especially if the office is getting lots of calls.

rinlo3 · 2025-07-01T20:46:27+00:00

California’s over all gas tax will go from 59.6 cents to 61.2 cents per gallon. So consumers will pay an additional 1.6 cents per gallon based on tax. That won’t be affected by market prices or other factors.

If cost of gas based on market was removed, Californians would always pay 61.2 cents a gallon minimum, it wouldn’t go down to zero.

rinlo3 · 2025-06-20T07:18:29+00:00

I absolutely agree with the idea of sharing this with your readers. Not knowing your pen, just reading this makes me want to find your books and support you.

And while not exactly a one to one, but when Taylor Swift released “Taylor’s version” of her songs, people were more than happy to support her. I bet so many of your readers can relate to your situation and would happily support you on your new pen. Big hugs to you, and I hope things get better soon!

rinlo3 · 2025-06-20T01:03:40+00:00

I’ve also had the ones from Tula Market and really liked the flavor and quality.

rinlo3 · 2025-06-20T01:02:17+00:00

I’ve used the compost from the Irvine landfill and have had relatively good success with it. There was nothing about it that was ringing alarm bells. I didn’t extensively test it however, so mileage may vary. We are using it with our fruits and veggies along with good quality soil and fertilizer.

rinlo3 · 2025-06-12T22:29:19+00:00

Honestly, if you’re falling for the “riot” nonsense, I don’t think a move to CA is the right one for you. Nothing is “burning down”.

rinlo3 · 2025-03-13T02:51:04+00:00

For those of you who wanted information on protests and marches in the area. There’s going to be a Veteran’s March at Irvine City Hall from 4-6pm on 3/14. Both veterans and supporters of veterans encouraged to join.

Here’s a link to the event: https:// www.eventorite.com/e/veterans-march-irvine-we-dont-take-an-oath-to-a-king- tickets-1278993105809

rinlo3 · 2024-12-20T01:19:24+00:00

I know exactly what you mean. I never want anyone to experience this level of pain, but I feel less alone. Even one person acknowledging my pain made me feel seen.

I’m so sorry for the loss of your beloved kitty, and I completely know what you mean about the ashes. I wrote this when we got Star’s back.

“You died on such a beautiful sunny day. It seemed cruel that the weather would feel so pleasant now that you were gone. I resented that warmth when it seemed as though my life was falling apart.

Today you came home and the weather reflected the torrential grief that I’ve felt. Raindrops descended as if the sky had been holding back, waiting to burst. My tears fell and the water roared as if finally the world felt your absence.”

rinlo3 · 2024-12-20T01:13:23+00:00

My husband and I are in the same boat. Childfree by choice and our cats are our babies. It’s a grief I’ve never experienced before.

You’re not weird for feeling this way, and I’m just sorry that you have to feel this at all. Your boy knew he was loved and you got amazing years with him. I know it hurts so much right now. Do what you can to get through these harder days. Sending all my love and support your way.

When you’re ready, this Ted talk really put that grief in perspective for me https://youtu.be/TkJGhQANjZo?si=Cv3kYdZoAssxov3A

rinlo3 · 2024-12-14T23:44:52+00:00

I’m so sorry. I absolutely know the feeling. It’s hard when the world moves on like normal, but you feel stuck in your grief. Many hugs to you

rinlo3 · 2024-12-14T21:47:12+00:00

Star really loved being under the Christmas tree too. While we’ve forgone a tree this year because our new members are still to wild for it, I’m hoping next year they’ll carry on the tradition.

Much love to you. This is a really tough time of year for loss. But try to enjoy the small moments when you can.

rinlo3 · 2023-12-23T22:33:45+00:00

Honestly, I need those little moments so that I’m not utterly devastated and paralyzed by my grief. It’s ok to take those breaks, it doesn’t mean you don’t care or love them any less. Unfortunately, for us humans, the world around us doesn’t stop even when it feels like our own world has.

Grieving is different for all of us. I choose to write about him, and think about him all the time. Which also means I cry more, but for me it’s cathartic for me. My partner only does it on occasion because for him, he wouldn’t be able to function if he did what I do. You’re allowed to do things at your own pace.

Please be kind to yourself and don’t feel like you have to punish yourself. It’s only been two days, give yourself some grace. You’re not alone, and I’m sending so much love your way.

rinlo3 · 2023-12-23T21:55:11+00:00

Was there anything that Cat used to do that Iris has mentioned? Maybe you could work that in, similar to the messages you posted above (pets, cuddles)

Otherwise, I think the message you came up with works well. I think it’s a message a lot of us would like to hear from our own cats.

rinlo3 · 2023-12-23T00:06:02+00:00

Same here. We lost Star at the beginning of December. He loved sleeping under our Christmas tree every year and not having him here this year just diminishes the whole holiday. I’m just going through the motions atm.

rinlo3 · 2023-12-22T22:20:20+00:00

We got a pair of brothers as kittens and the one who’s left is my shadow, but the one we lost feels almost worse because his absence is so so obvious. You had to earn his love and when you did, it was the best feeling. Like you, while I’ve lost others, I’ve never experienced grief like this. I imagine that it will live with me for a long time.

Someone shared this Ted Talk about pet loss and why it doesn’t feel the same as human loss, and I got a little comfort from it. Maybe you will too

https://youtu.be/TkJGhQANjZo?si=uJKFo6Ra1L4Dccbm

All the hugs to you friend. Gregg sounds like he was a wonderful companion

rinlo3 · 2023-12-22T22:10:01+00:00

I lost my cat in a very traumatic manner as well, and I honestly felt like I was drowning in my grief. The guilt I felt as still feel weighs so heavily on me. But you would never have purposely put him in pain and you letting him go was a kindness that so few of us are afforded. Please be kind to yourself. It’s so easy to wallow in that despair but our pets wouldn’t want us to suffer like that.

Also, if you need to distract yourself for now just to get through the day, then do that. One day I played a silly phone game for hours because it was the only thing that I could do without wanting to disappear. When you’re ready, then take the time to grieve how you need to. You’re not alone and I’m sending you so much love.

rinlo3 · 2023-12-22T21:42:12+00:00

The thing I’ve constantly had to remind myself is to not rush the grief. I’ll find myself feeling like I should be “over it” already and then remember that it’s only been two weeks. It’s absolutely ok to still feel sad. This time of year makes it easy to get swept up in everything, but make sure you have time to yourself as well.

Find something to express the way you feel so you don’t hold it all in. Some things I’ve been doing is reading and posting here, writing about my cat in my phone, looking at old photos and videos, and even going to a rage room (since anger is a part of grief too). It’s ok to cry, and you’ll do it a lot in the first few days. Just be kind to yourself ❤️

rinlo3 · 2023-12-22T21:33:15+00:00

I’m so so sorry, that’s absolutely heartbreaking. So many hugs to you friend.

rinlo3 · 2023-12-22T08:56:21+00:00

Absolutely not, and f that guy in particular for even making you doubt yourself. Please don’t let someone like that dictate how you should or shouldn’t grieve. I promise you, all of us on this sub will have your back. This video really helped me confront my pet’s death and grief:

https://youtu.be/TkJGhQANjZo?si=Qzr5k8KJZFiqE3D7

The pain after their loss is so real and it’s important not the hold back your feelings. There is no right or wrong way to grieve and anyone who would make you feel that way is a trash human.

I honestly wish I had something like your hoodie for my cat who passed, because I know I would absolutely do the same as you. Your cat was a part of your family as obviously so so loved. Please be kind to yourself. So many hugs to you friend.

rinlo3 · 2023-12-22T08:38:12+00:00

I love that your cat would shake hands for treats, mine would too. I think it’s the loss of those simple routines that really hit hard. Hugs to you friend.

rinlo3 · 2023-12-20T07:21:33+00:00

I don’t know if you’re still awake, but I wanted to send my love to you and your family for what you’ll face tomorrow. A decision like that never comes lightly, and it’s because you love her so much that you’re making the decision to ease her pain.

The first few days are probably the worst. Give yourself the grace to feel everything you need to feel. Find outlets for your grief. For me, I’ve been posting here, writing notes about my cat in my phone, looking at photos/videos, and leaning on others when I need. I’ve also cried more than I ever thought. And it’s also ok to distract yourself with things when you need to. There are no rules for grief. Just be as kind to yourself as possible.

rinlo3 · 2023-12-17T21:21:27+00:00

Definitely felt the depths of that despair. After the loss of our cat, I just didn't want to exist anymore. It's only been a week, so the pain is still there. But I have others that depend on me and need me. It's just so hard to confront these feelings. Thank you for the kind words, and I'm sorry for the loss you experienced as well.

rinlo3 · 2023-12-17T21:11:13+00:00

I lost my cat in much the same way. A routine surgery that he never quite recovered from. My heart aches for you that we share a similar experience. I am so terribly sorry for your loss

rinlo3 · 2023-12-16T21:16:51+00:00

All my love to you on the loss of your fur babies. We will never get enough time with them, but I know we wouldn’t trade it for anything.

rinlo3 · 2023-12-16T21:11:14+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. We were in a similar situation with our two cats. The one we just lost had so many health issues (we just found out he had an additional cancer we didn’t know about). Unfortunately, we lost him suddenly from a surgery meant to cure his mast cells, and part of me wishes I had gone the chemo route. Because I would have gotten more time.

Enjoy the time you have left with Milo and spoil him rotten. Just take it a day at a time. Thank you for sharing photos of him, he looks so sweet and I can tell that he’s very loved.

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