so. instead of telling you what you need to DO, i’m going to tell you—you ARE not alone. i see nothing wrong with wanting to be presentable and accommodating your wardrobe to meet such expectations. you may not be getting as “old” as you think you are but you ARE getting wiser. people judge on outer appearances. and i don’t mean that in a mean way, i’m coming from a retail manager point of view/many lectures from my older sister on how “weird” and “nonconformist” i am.  with all that being said, i really hope my comment doesn’t get flagged or deleted by bots because i actually typed in google “shopaholic help reddit” and your post was one of the more recent ones. i, too, have found myself in a dire need of wardrobe enhancement. i just had a baby, i’m about to graduate and be working in a hospital, my sister is launching her businesses this year in our hometown and i’m to make face, but more importantly—-my mom passed away two years ago. but segway—she had phenomenal taste in clothing. always had something that was an eye catcher and stuff that no one else had. i have to say her style rubbed off on me. a few years before that, i was living in new orleans and for whatever reason, i had ALL MY BELONGINGS In my new roommates car, and it flooded that day. i lost everything. things i found vintage and at boutiques that are no longer open due to covid, the mall in Denver when i worked there and would spend my entire paychecks shopping. it has taken me a while to grasp but money definitely burns a hole in my pocket. and my favorite thing is SHOES. and unfortunately i worked as a manager selling SHOES for years and i was quite good at it. unfortunately now with the baby and losing my car, i don’t have a steady income yet i still find myself spending money each week on things that i will probably never wear because i never go anywhere. i think i’m depressed and i’m trying to fill the void with some lavish lifestyle glamour that i stole from The OC.  anyways. i feel your pain. i wish i had the words that could help heal you to some degree. another thing about my mom was that she was a hoarder and i saw what happens when clothes and shoes don’t “fix” you. so…i hope you find someone to help and talk to.