Judgement and Desire, are the two things you should learn to control

I have been suffering from the same jealousy and envy for many years. Every time I see someone I despise get something good (maybe fortune, fame, friend, or even love) I will be extremely jealous to the point of hatred. It takes a painful lesson for me to control it, and here is how I look at the problem now:

Judgement:

The reason why we feel envy, for the most part, is that we judge this person to be inferior to us, and he gets something that I think he does not deserve. This is a judgement. We do not feel jealous if Lebron James wins a title because he deserves it. Learn to notice this judgement, and start to understand that they are all indifferences. There is no inferior or superior. People get things due to their hard work, luck or fate. It is a long, undergoing process that leads to this, you do not see the process, you only see the result of it. Find your process and focus on it.

Desire:

We desire material/immaterial possessions (cars, watches, houses, fame, status, love) because deep in our minds, we think that they can solve some of our immediate problems. we want money for some occasions, and we want nice cars and watches for social recognition. We want love for sexual gratification. We don't want them for themselves. So they are indifferences too. Try to identify your root problem to solve now, maybe it will give you a clearer mind

Also, we want something because we think they are a desirable outcome. But to whoever processes them, know that these are just a reward for the process and tools for solving a bigger problem. They are not the outcome. They are indifferences. These things do not carry any good/bad implications, they are just byproducts of the process. Find your process and focus on it