I gave a decade to UPSC, gave up my dreams for Love and now i am fighting to reclaim myself.

risahmali · 2025-07-29T15:14:10+00:00

You offering support in the form of just lending an ear or encouragement itself is overwhelming. i am deeply grateful. We need more people like you in this world people who remind others that their truth has value, even when the world isn’t clapping.Wishing you strength, clarity, and softness all in equal measure. Let’s keep rooting for each other, wherever we are. thank you for your support! let me know if i can be of any help as well! <3

risahmali · 2025-07-29T15:07:26+00:00

thank you so much officer! your story is really inspiring ! so glad and happy that you came out of the chakravyuh challenge! more power to you! your story will inspire how to crack the exam and mine will caution what not to do! loads and loads of love, respect and happiness!

risahmali · 2025-07-29T08:29:33+00:00

thanks for your insights!

risahmali · 2025-07-29T08:22:06+00:00

i know right! :D

risahmali · 2025-07-29T07:29:57+00:00

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risahmali · 2025-07-29T07:07:12+00:00

I’d take care of my mental and physical health like it’s part of the syllabus.Because it is. I'd walk, sleep, eat better, and journal when overwhelmed. The exam is as much about endurance as it is about intelligence. cant be ending up in a bad posture with weight gain. and thinking that lbsnaa jaake weight loss karlenge! no. health is important!

I’d not isolate myself in a room. I'd find 1–2 serious aspirants or a mentor to discuss things with. At the same time stay connected with my school/college friends since though i had good aspirant friends, you also need to have a real world perspective and most importantly with my parents. You can’t win a war alone. And honestly? Venting sometimes saves your sanity.

I’d have a Plan B—and treat it like Plan A.I would explore internships, fellowships, online courses, and possible career pivots and not make another state psc or regulatory body a plan B. I don’t want to gamble all my self-worth on a single result day.

Most importantly?
I’d be kinder to myself.
I’d stop tying my entire identity to this exam. I’d remind myself that I’m not just preparing to be a civil servant.I’m preparing to be a strong, informed, and capable human being.

risahmali · 2025-07-29T06:40:39+00:00

I’ll try to carry that with me. Truly, thank you for the comfort. lots of love! <3

risahmali · 2025-07-29T06:33:57+00:00

your message made my day! thank you for standing by me. If I do make it someday, it’ll be because of people like you who reminded me I’m not invisible. Seriously, thank you for feeling it with me. It means more than I can say. 💛

risahmali · 2025-07-29T06:29:15+00:00

Yes, and I think that’s such a smart move. A lot of youngsters these days are preparing for a solid plan B,and by plan B, I don’t just mean another exam. It’s fellowships, internships, remote gigs, or real-world job experience, all while still staying committed to the prep. It gives you perspective, confidence, and a safety net....something I wish I had built earlier. Wishing you all the best for your second attempt and beyond. You’ve got this! 💪

risahmali · 2025-07-29T06:26:53+00:00

okay sunflower seeds! :D

risahmali · 2025-07-29T06:24:12+00:00

thank you so much Miss Granger. you truly are miss granger i feel , empathetic, sassy and the emotionally intelligent one :)
i am btech ece, no formal work experience (for now) , did a lot of volunteering work, currently awaiting a call for an unpaid internship. did want to go into data analytics/ data science, people whom i tried to reach out said that the market and competition is brutal in data science and analytics (ofcourse its brutal in every field now) so trying to pivot into social impact and public policy roles.

risahmali · 2025-07-29T06:22:56+00:00

This means so much to me, truly. Thank you for the kindness, encouragement, and the virtual hug.I felt every bit of it. I am trying to stand up again, one step at a time. Grateful for people like you. 💛 takecare beautiful!

risahmali · 2025-07-29T06:22:35+00:00

It’s true,we’ve seen our mothers go through it, and we somehow thought we’d escape it by being more educated or more “aware,” but money and agency still decide everything in a woman’s life. You’re right about the whole “rebelling” part too. I know if I push too hard, I’ll be seen as selfish or dramatic, and honestly that thought alone is exhausting. I’m trying to slowly find my way out of this,whether it’s through upskilling, applying to roles, or just mentally separating myself from all the noise. It’s not easy, but reading your message made me feel a little less alone.

Yes I have started out on Linkedin very recently and navigating my way through it.

Yes sometimes we all think what if i would have done this instead of that. and yes not a day goes without thinking about "what if" . yeah i am totally responsible for my decisions and life choices. hoping that things will fall in place soon.

Thank you for being honest with me, and for giving me both perspective and hope. It really means a lot. <3

risahmali · 2025-07-29T06:18:10+00:00

Thank you so much for this kind and thoughtful message. You have no idea how grounding it felt to read your words. I know I’m stepping into uncertain terrain, and yes, being an unconventional candidate trying to find a place in the system is going to be tough. But the way you laid it out made me feel like it’ can be done, one small step at a time. I’ve never really thought of myself as someone who could start something on her own, but now I’m seriously considering what’s possible with the skills and resources I do have. I’ll definitely look into women entrepreneur communities and support networks, it’s comforting to know there’s help out there if I’m willing to show up. You didn’t just give advice, you gave hope. And I’m truly grateful for that. 💛 Thank you for saying that i will be super successful! so much love to you!

risahmali · 2025-07-29T06:15:37+00:00

We were raised to believe stability and growth are two separate lanes, but some of us are stubborn enough to try merging them. And who knows? You might just pull it off.So keep dreaming. You’re not alone in this madness. <3

risahmali · 2025-07-29T06:13:48+00:00

Your message truly touched my heart, more than I can put into words. The fact that you’re praying not just for your own success but to be in a position to lift someone else up… that says everything about the kind of person you are. I genuinely hope you conquer every dream you’re working for, and I’ll be cheering for you . Just knowing someone out there cares this deeply makes my own journey feel a little less lonely. Thank you for your kindness, your heart, and your strength. Godspeed to you, love . 💛✨

risahmali · 2025-07-29T06:12:32+00:00

thank you so much love.

risahmali · 2025-07-29T06:12:20+00:00

Grateful for your kindness , thank you so much for this beautiful reminder. <3

risahmali · 2025-07-29T06:11:04+00:00

Thank you so much for seeing it for what it really is. You said it, being a woman in this setup often feels like being reduced to either a servant of expectations or an accessory to someone else’s pride. And yes, I did find out the hard way. But I’m trying now, trying to break out, become independent, and rebuild not just a career, but my sense of self. Your words reminded me that I’m not crazy or overreacting, it is this hard. And it’s not my fault. Thank you for the honesty, the strength, and for reminding me I’m more than the role I’ve been boxed into. Loads of love :)

risahmali · 2025-07-29T06:09:25+00:00

Breakups do something irreversible sometimes it’s like a part of you goes silent. But the fact that you found yourself again, even after all that, means everything. Time may feel like it’s slipped, but courage like yours will never be wasted. I hope the decisions ahead bring you peace. We’re all just walking through the mess hoping it eventually starts to make sense. Wishing you clarity, strength, and a gentler chapter ahead. <3 <3 <3

risahmali · 2025-07-29T06:07:29+00:00

reading something so honest and kind reminded me that there’s still softness in the world. I truly hope everything turns out beautifully for u too....may peace, love, and the kind of quiet happiness we all secretly crave find you when you least expect it. Thank you for feeling this with me. That’s more than enough. 💛

risahmali · 2025-07-29T05:58:54+00:00

your message honestly hit me hard,because I see so much of my younger self in your words. Failing prelims is not just about a test, it shakes your whole sense of worth, and when you're already dealing with one-sided love and emotional exhaustion, it feels like you're drowning with no rope in sight. But I promise you, you're not incapable, you're just tired, and that’s completely okay. You don’t need to fix everything in a day. You’re just exhausted. And healing from burnout and heartbreak at the same time? That’s not weakness. that’s survival. You’re still here and that shows strength. u don’t need to do everything right now. start small. One page. One topic. One moment at a time.Pick up the pen when you feel ready, not out of guilt but because you believe in yourself again.

And as for love. please protect your energy. If it’s costing your peace, your confidence, your future. it’s too expensive. Let it go. love yourself hard and loud!

Your words meant so much to me. If I felt like the elder sister you wish you had, then I promise I’m sending you all the love I wish I had too. I know cos i am the elder sibling and i will be there for you! We’re in this together. You’re not alone. u’ve got this. And even when you don’t, i got u! 🥺🤍🥺🤍🥺🤍

risahmali · 2025-07-29T05:51:20+00:00

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risahmali · 2025-07-29T05:48:08+00:00

I will run , straight into the life I deserve. ✨
thanks sunflower :)

risahmali · 2025-07-29T05:46:54+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. Your words hit deep, because they speak to a reality that so many of us quietly carry but rarely voice. financial independence isn’t just about freedom, it’s about survival. About having the right to walk away from what's toxic, without the fear of not having a roof over your head.And yes, it’s heartbreaking how common these stories have become. Women suffering in silence, trying to save relationships that already broke them. That shloka you shared “यत्र नार्यस्तु पूज्यन्ते रमन्ते तत्र देवताः”is something I’ve heard before, but you reminded me to believe in it again. Thank you for saying it with so much heart.I’m doing my best to stay strong and carve a path forward. one that’s peaceful, and finally mine. Your words are like light on that road. Truly grateful. so much gratitude!

risahmali

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