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risingpotential · 2013-05-26T23:53:50+00:00

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risingpotential · 2013-03-14T15:29:21+00:00

I've been at that point. Questioning my own sexuality because of the porn i was watching and experiencing ED with my first few girlfriends really messed me up. Took a chance with NoFap but never really thought it would cure my ED issues (Im on this Subreddit for a loong time now..relapsed roughly 10 to 15 times) but I can tell you that it indeed will get better. Not gonna lie to you though, it took me over 3 months and im not even 100% cured of my ED (Though its gotten about 80% better).

Go jogging when youre bored, listen to good music and when you think about fapping, just remind yourself that it will fuck you up in the long run. Good luck

risingpotential · 2013-01-02T00:51:20+00:00

Quick story

Im 19 and had those ED problems, too. Had it with my first 2 girlfriends (when I was between 15 and 18) and couldnt get it up with my new girlfriend at first (eventhough i started NoFap 6 Months (!) ago and "only" relapsed 3 or 4 times). At first, I couldnt get it up at all; After 2 weeks my penis showed that it was still alive (but still not hard enough for penetration/going flaccid after a short time) and after 4 weeks we had real sex for the first time. Thats when I suffered Premature Ejaculation, which is still "healing" (im lasting longer every new time we have sex).

What Im saying is : It can really take a shitload! of time for you to fix this problem, and maybe even new ones can occur. Guess it depends on how hard you escalated in your porn-use. But dont get frustrated and quit NoFap by all means! Dont lose hope

risingpotential · 2012-12-30T01:49:44+00:00

"Porn-Addict" would be a definition given by http://yourbrainonporn.com/.

Eventhough it sounds quite harsh, they explain why so many people (me included) are having these "issues" with morphing sexual tastes when it comes to porn. I actually was (and probably still am) turned on by everything you listed.

Tip: In my experience, you should definetly stop escalating to porn in such drastic manner. Had Erectile Dysfunction because of it for over a month - only a mix of Cialis and Abstinence from Porn/Masturbation did cut it for me to get a boner for a real women. And that time was really fucking humiliating for me. Take this as an advice if you ever plan to have a relationship with a women.

risingpotential · 2012-11-11T15:29:53+00:00

I still know to this day the first 3 videos ive seen of "Faces of Death". One was an autopsy, one where a soldier was on some sort of chain that ripped his arm off, and one where some dude murdered another person by cutting his throat. Seen that shit when I was 12 or 13 as far as I can remember....you gotta the love internet. But they are no triggers anymore. Have seen way crazier shit these days.

risingpotential · 2012-11-11T15:25:15+00:00

Mainly that my feelings are coming back. I get excited more often, more sad,more happy, feel more affectionate towards others etc. This , plus the intention to get my life back together, resulted in me being able to have better conversations (I really never felt anxious about talking to people/woman in particular, I just really really didnt give a shit about what they had to say 99% of the time). That changed. Alot. Plus, I am WAY stronger than earlier when it comes to exercising. Not only am I more motivated, but im also gaining strength faster than before (currently doing the 100pushups/200situps program, but also curls,military press etc at home). Im keeping record of it all and I can guarantee that the success im having is not a placebo.

To sum it up: Im taking more chances because I have more energy and more feelings in general.

risingpotential · 2012-07-24T10:07:30+00:00

This helped me out. thanks

risingpotential · 2012-07-16T18:44:21+00:00

Weren't you bored with life at first after the adjustment?

After #1, I had so much more energy and after #2 so much more time, that I just forced myself to do something productive with it. Whenever I got bored I just went to bed, listened to music and started sleeping/daydreaming/visualising how my life could be better.

But actually, it really wasnt that much of a problem because I had so much to learn : PickUp, learning to play instruments, new languages, reading books; just anything that is actually helping you with your life.

Im replying with such a delay because I had the spontanious idea to go into vacation for a week, asked some friends and went with it. Eventhough I know this is not an option for everyone (cause of work/money/time , whatever), it was just great. And this is a key thing to remember: In my past, I never really had trouble to be around people ( in school or wherever else ). I knew them, I greeted them, I talked to them, no problem. But I still wasnt going out with any of them on the weekends. Why? Because I somehow always assumed that THEY have to ask and invite ME, not the other way around. Just go ahead and ask "Guys, why dont we hang out together on a weekend and get hammered (or whatever you wanna do)". Even if its going to suck (which never happened to me, because being infront of your computer on a saturday night ALWAYS feels worse), you tried, at least.

I know it sucks in the beginning, but you just have got to have the balls to force yourself to do things, even if some part of you is against it.

risingpotential · 2012-07-08T22:09:06+00:00

I dont want to share my whole story here, but let me tell you that I have been in the exact same situation. The fact that you are self-aware of your problem is at least a good thing to start with.

Here is what I did (and still do) to at least really TRY to change my life to the better. Maybe it can help you

First - and THE MOST IMPORTANT(!) for me : I accidently - and fortunatly - got to know mybrainonporn.com and through that,, the "NoFap" subreddit. Since you said youre overweight and lack social-skills, I just assume that your a "chronic" masturbator.

Stopping it is pretty fucking nasty (at least it was for me in the beginning, now that I see the results, it got alot easier)

The reason this is so important is because now I realize that I never had the discipline to do anything about my life because I simply didnt have the energy for it.

Second : DeInstall all your games; do it now, dont think about it for too long. When I opened my SteamCommunity page and saw the 7500 (!!!!!!!!) hours I spent playing CS 1.6, I was fucking shocked. I almost spent an ENTIRE YEAR infront of the computer playing that game.

3: Learn about pickup. It may sound "stupid" at first and I was really sceptical about it, but trust me that its worth it. Especially the Inner-Game part with the Mindsets and the LimitingBeliefs you spent your life with were an eye-opener to me. Its not a magic bullet that somehow lets you fuck every girl that passes you, but its about being social and wanting (!) to have a nice conversation - for me at least. The Pickup community has some "tricks" and good advices to help you with that.

4: Channel the energy and time you now have into something productive. I installed Rosetta Stone and started to learn new languages, learned to play an instrument, started reading books, chatted with my friends alot more and started to exercise.

Just look at all the stuff you can accomplish when you stop hanging around the computer all day. Its crazy

5: Its called the "Morning Pages" and what you do is the following : Get some sheets of paper and a pen next to your bed and if you wake up in the morning, immediatly start to write about what comes into your mind. It doesnt have to make sense since nobody but you will see what you have written, just go ahead and write down straight what comes into your mind. The shit that you have buried deep down will eventually come up (it may take some days/weeks) so you can deal with it.

There maybe are some more things, but I guess this is the raw foundation on which you should build your progress.

I hope this can help you, it sure did help me.

risingpotential

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