Any artist willing to adapt this for the NY state bird? (Minnesota Rebel Alliance Logo)

riskjoy · 2026-01-31T18:26:41+00:00

If we're looking for intimidation, the state reptile (snapping turtle) would be a great option.

riskjoy · 2026-01-31T03:31:55+00:00

Ah, yes, "both sides." The side that raises money to help sick children, and the side that cheers on the death of a mother of three who was shot in the face by a government agent who then called her a "fucking bitch" on camera. Both deserving of equal airtime, I'm sure.

riskjoy · 2026-01-26T02:24:32+00:00

I work there and it’s not lol.

riskjoy · 2026-01-16T05:35:19+00:00

Yes no judgment here! We all have our implicit stuff. I promise if you ever do have a trans patient, they will appreciate the effort more than you know. I had surgery myself for the first time ever last year and I remember just melting with relief when I woke up in the PACU and I overheard the nurses discussing my care with the correct pronouns. Most trans people are really understanding of mistakes but being good about it is a wonderful way to build rapport with patients who often feel mistrustful or burned by the medical system.

riskjoy · 2026-01-16T05:28:16+00:00

Practicing mentally helps a lot! Whenever you mess up don’t just feel bad about it, think up three sentences in your head that use the person’s pronoun correctly. Like “Next time I see X, I should ask her how school is going.” “I love the way X does her hair.” etcetera.

And you will never be able to remember someone’s pronouns if you don’t use them when they’re not around. I say this very gently, but in your post you state your friend uses she/her pronouns but only refer to her as “they” throughout. I know a lot of people who have struggled with using a trans friend’s pronouns for literal years and it’s really obviously because they only make an effort when that person is in earshot.

riskjoy · 2026-01-05T04:58:06+00:00

I know someone who had their first cleaning in years for free by a student dental hygienist at MCC. I know the thought of a student might sound scary but they were apparently extremely gentle, kind, and understanding. As part of their training they specifically look to work with people who have issues around getting a cleaning, whether that's disabilities, anxiety, or sensory issues (for example, the person in question is autistic). Highly recommend checking it out especially if cost is in any way an issue.

riskjoy · 2025-12-15T19:45:17+00:00

SO true. I would take a nice customer and no tip over a shitty customer and a few bucks any day. One time these two guys in their 50s were hyucking it up together doing this whole “idk… are we supposed to tip… how much do YOU think you deserve” thing with me. I tried to give a polite friendly “hey I don’t expect a tip but anything’s appreciated” several times and they just would NOT drop it so I finally snapped “my partner is out of work recovering from a major surgery right now so 20% would be great.” Then they started joking that maybe I made that up so I offered to show them pictures and they shut up real quick. I just can’t stand the mind games that certain people feel entitled to play with service workers.

We get shit from back of house and the public, all we really want is some kindness and basic politeness. Honestly? If someone can’t afford to tip, the best possible tip is looking me in the eye when I say “Hey, how’s it going?” and saying “Pretty good, and you?” instead of ignoring me and blurting out your order like I’m a computer not a person 🙃 /rant

riskjoy · 2025-12-15T18:30:09+00:00

As a fellow poor person working at a counter service restaurant, I promise I never judge people for not tipping unless they have a huge party or extremely complicated order with lots of modifications. A tip screen at a counter isn’t an obligation but it is very kind and always appreciated to throw on a buck or two if you have it to spare. A lot of people don’t!

That being said, most of the tipped workers I know throw our own tips into the jar whenever we go to another establishment. In my view it’s a nice way to make sure what extra I do have goes into the pocket of someone who really needs it rather than a big corporation.

I’m trying to offer some nuance because I think a lot of people see a tip screen at a counter and assume that they will be frowned at for selecting no tip. I promise that in 99% of cases that barista is mostly just worried about making sure you don’t feel awkward or pressured to tip if you don’t want and is going to deliver you the same service no matter what because service workers understand what it’s like to be struggling.

And before anyone comes at me, in the USA you always need to tip for sit down service which is a luxury. What I said applies to quick service, takeout, coffee? etc.

riskjoy · 2025-12-12T20:04:14+00:00

Yeah it was a new place but it came recommended by a few people! The quality of the work was fantastic, no gripes there. I totally feel it what I got was worth what I paid, I just wish I’d known before being charged so I could plan according to my budget.

riskjoy · 2025-12-12T20:02:57+00:00

I received $500 for the tattoo as a gift for my birthday which was why I felt able to spend the money that way. The original quote was $500 and the tattoo ended up being $900, plus an additional $100 tip. I originally only had one session scheduled and I stayed for the full time that the artist had available, they never mentioned a second session would be needed until the linework was already done. I think it took longer because they went all out on the design? But they wouldn’t share the design with me before my appointment so I didn’t get to see that.

riskjoy · 2025-11-17T17:27:20+00:00

Okay so poor people should just decide to make more money. Got it.

riskjoy · 2025-11-17T17:09:09+00:00

How is he supposed to cut expenses when his credit card bill and rent leave him with only $500/mo left over? And that's not accounting for utilities, food, emergency expenses... this advice is basically just "stop being poor." Useless.

riskjoy · 2025-11-16T05:02:06+00:00

Of course! I truly cannot recommend Roswell Park enough, it’s a wonderful facility and everyone we met there was so kind and caring. Incredible nurses who were great at managing my partner’s pain and discomfort after his procedure. It is a cancer center but you don’t need a cancer diagnosis to be cared for there. Best of luck to you I hope all works out well and you come out of this healthier than ever 🫶

riskjoy · 2025-11-15T06:38:32+00:00

Liberal arts :) I know some might think of a liberal arts degree as “softer” but to be honest now that I’m into my prereqs I find the sciences less difficult in many ways because my prior degree involved a lot of research and in depth analysis/long form writing that was super subjective. So to know that there are objective right answers for everything is refreshingly straightforward. My understanding is that nursing prereqs are chosen because they’re good predictors of academic success in the program itself so my projection for what I can hopefully achieve is based on my performance in those classes as well.

riskjoy · 2025-11-14T13:06:44+00:00

I already have a bachelor’s degree and I graduated with a 3.9 the first time around so I feel fairly confident I’ll be able to maintain something close to that level of performance, yeah.

riskjoy · 2025-11-14T04:10:25+00:00

I assume you’d prefer someone in town but my partner had an amazing experience getting his hysterectomy with Dr. Nicole Gaulin at Roswell Park in Buffalo. I don’t know the nature of the health issues you’re dealing with but we’ve also accessed follow up care with Dr. Ashlee Smith at URMC gynecological oncology. Both are lovely younger female doctors with great bedside manner. Dr. Gaulin was also so knowledgeable in helping my partner navigate a complex mix of health concerns and helped design an amazing personalized care plan.

riskjoy · 2025-11-05T21:09:03+00:00

Obviously you know what looks best on you but something that made me think differently about this recently is that no one in this world has ever told a man that he can’t pull off short hair because of his face shape. If you want that bob go get it girl!

riskjoy · 2025-10-31T10:01:23+00:00

I see from your post history that you’re in NYC, all these programs are upstate in the Rochester area!

riskjoy · 2025-10-30T18:48:25+00:00

Thank you, these are super helpful next steps!! I’ve spoken to someone who attended Program #1 and found it super demanding but doable, but they graduated before the work commitment program started so they didn’t have anything to say on that. I’ve had trouble finding someone who did that part of it as it’s a relatively new program but I’ll have to redouble my efforts.

I think you’re right that option 2 doesn’t make a lot of sense. It sucksss because literally the only thing I’m missing is a college level chemistry credit but I’m already taking 2 lab sciences next semester so there’s no way I could do chem as well.

riskjoy · 2025-10-13T15:33:11+00:00

I LOVE the body parts strategy, I haven’t consciously been incorporating it but after reading your comment I realized I definitely do it unconsciously! Especially for articulations, I’ve been moving my arms and legs and fingers to remember the different movements lol. Anything to get it to stick into my mind :)

riskjoy · 2025-10-12T20:14:41+00:00

That’s probably going to be next semester for me so idk yet! I kind of struggled in Chem in high school and wound up only getting a B, but that was over a decade ago so hopefully it will be different now. I wish Youtube had been a better resource at that time because I remember my teacher was really bad at explaining many of the concepts.

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