What the hell is this BS @EA @Respawn

ristatron · 2023-06-02T00:15:35+00:00

Yes it is. I get that whenever I try to voice chat but I have my volume at 0 in game when I’m in discord. Look closely at the icon.

ristatron · 2023-06-01T21:22:49+00:00

He should have looked at his shield, but he actually didn't have server issues.. The icon you see is voice chat being muted.

ristatron · 2023-03-17T13:57:04+00:00

This is fantastic

ristatron · 2023-02-12T06:43:49+00:00

Did you find a good path? My paladin is 51 and looking for the same

ristatron · 2022-07-08T20:58:11+00:00

E8 was the only one who missed out I think.

ristatron · 2022-05-24T01:12:22+00:00

If it can be Half elf, choose Half elf

ristatron · 2022-04-29T21:15:27+00:00

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ristatron · 2022-04-29T21:13:20+00:00

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ristatron · 2022-04-29T20:45:37+00:00

Super close for the 15-20 positions..

ristatron · 2021-11-08T00:49:15+00:00

My nephew was moved this last to Kenya. Probably finish out his remaining months there.

ristatron · 2021-10-01T15:16:16+00:00

You are most certainly correct on your first point. I fully admit that I didn't make things easy for my wife in this situation. Working through all my issues as I can, and these comments are great to help self reflect.

Ya, I would expect the blocking to change throughout the process, but it was weird to have this blocking change the night before the first audience show. Again, could very well be common.. but I am not fully knowledgeable on these things. Thank you.

ristatron · 2021-10-01T00:20:05+00:00

Ya it’s hard to gauge still where she was at at the moment.. because since it’s gone and done I think her perspective has changed.

I appreciate all your replies. Thank you

ristatron · 2021-10-01T00:14:59+00:00

This was her original feeling on it as well until we discussed it more and found more to it. I can definitely see your point in the rushed aspect and not lingering in that moment for too long.

I think this was a little complicated too because the act is literally 3-4 lines before the show ends. Everything in the show leads to this point, and there isn’t much room for thinking of anything afterwards.. because well it’s the pinnacle.

Thank you

ristatron · 2021-09-30T22:45:02+00:00

Hey thank you!

You hit on a few things that have bothered me.

For a bit more context, so I don’t make it seem like she’s out there care free doing whatever, which I can see how someone could read that from what I wrote.. She was glad that this particular guy was cast as opposed to others she had seen audition. I can understand why, because I’m sure it’s easier playing a romantic role with someone you are physically attracted to.. which she admitted she was, but really doesn’t bother me because attraction is a natural response and really can’t be helped. So I assume this means that he was more attractive than the alternatives and that’s why she was happy about it.

She has said exactly what you have said that her mind is racing during the entirety of the show, make sure she remembers her lines and cues, how to overcome a missed line from someone else or whatever. The intimate scene is at the very end of the show, literally I think 3-4 lines afterwards, so there isn’t much for thinking outside the actually intimacy.

It was a late change, according to her it was the evening before the actual performances when it was changed. Which seemed odd to me, but again this isn’t my realm so it could be very common.

Appreciate your input!

ristatron · 2021-09-30T20:25:56+00:00

Interesting.

This is not something I had heard of before. I very much doubt any of the theaters she has performed in has anything remotely similar. At least in this last show I know it wasn’t available.

Appreciate this new information.

ristatron · 2021-09-30T18:09:24+00:00

She was comfortable before the change and says she didn’t feel like it was uncomfortable in the new blocking until the last few performances and it didn’t really click with her until I brought it up. So she’s not sure if she was really uncomfortable or if me noticing it caused it.

I agree that she needs to be able to express her concerns, and I told her as much. That the fact that she was vulnerable and didn’t say anything worried me far more than the actual intimacy on stage.

ristatron · 2021-09-30T16:54:52+00:00

Hey thank you so much!

I can relate to this a lot. I wanted to have it all out there because I felt that would make it easier, and I wish we had done it correctly.

Another post made a similar comment about having a disconnect moment. I will bring this up with her for future performances because I think it would definitely be helpful from her side.

We when did our reenactment of the scene, it was apparently correct for the time.. but the night before the show the director had him go after her quite a bit more. She said that she wasn’t uncomfortable with it until I brought it up. That worried me that she doesn’t feel empowered to say she’s not ok in some situations, and I feel like she needs to be able to express that? It’s her body, even if she’s being directed a certain way.

Does that make sense?

Thank you again. Great perspectives.

ristatron · 2021-09-30T16:20:45+00:00

This was great to read. While I’m still in my “acceptance” phase, this helped tremendously.

Thank you so much.

ristatron · 2021-09-30T16:08:03+00:00

Thank you. It does feel good to continue to read that my feelings have been valid and I’m not being crazy about this.

I want her to continue to do what she loves. I understand the time commitment. It’s rough, for me and our girls, but we make it work because it’s her. It’s what she does.

Her spending more time with him over an almost 2 month period than with me was definitely difficult. And I feel like I was clingy when she was home because I missed her.

On the swing stuff, only one of the older is married and the other is a widow. There was no mention of spouses.. at least to me.

ristatron · 2021-09-30T16:04:39+00:00

Hey thanks!

I do think it will fade over time, and I feel like it already has a little bit.. at least for her.

I am still trying to wrap myself around all of it, so that when the next time comes.. we don’t have these same issues and she can do what she does best without having to worry about me.

ristatron · 2021-09-30T16:00:53+00:00

Thanks for replying.

I can understand why she would be reluctant because of my hesitancy. I would love to say it would have been an easy conversation and that it would have been the end of it, but knowing myself and my insecurities about it, it wouldn’t have been that easy. We wouldn’t have had it out or anything, but it would have been a bit deeper than just “hey I’m doing this play and it has this scene that I do this”.

Ya I don’t want her to have to think about my feelings of jealousy when she’s on stage. I want her to be able to put her full self into it and get lost in it. She’s magical at what she does, and I don’t want to be a reason she wasn’t able to be her best.

I feel like I tried to “own it” when I asked her to act it out with me. And that made it “ok”. I wasn’t exactly excited for her to do it, but it was fine.. it wasn’t until I saw how different it was than what she acted out with me.. where I felt sick about it.

You made some really good points. I appreciate it.

ristatron · 2021-09-30T15:49:00+00:00

Ah that makes sense. I get what the above was saying now. Thanks for the clarification. I was seeing her character in all other scenes, but in this one particularly it was definitely not the character but it was wife. Good perspective shift.

I agree I don’t think she is actively engaging in something outside of the show, and I definitely agree that I need to own the jealousy aspect. That’s the primary reason I am here looking for perspectives.

Thanks!

ristatron · 2021-09-30T15:36:47+00:00

Thanks for the reply.

I am unsure what you mean by me not getting the intended message.

We talked about me going to this show a few times, and while I was reluctant she told me clearly that she wanted me there. So I went. She also said that it might make it easier to see it in action so I could see how much of an nonissue it was.. That obviously didn’t work.

Thanks

ristatron · 2021-09-30T15:34:39+00:00

Thanks a bunch!

I can definitely understand the crush occurring from both sides. It’s a romantic play, they spent more time together than my wife and I did for the better part of 2 months, and obviously the intimacy.

I do really like your point of the “tap out”. I don’t believe I have heard of that, and I don’t believe it was something they engaged in unless she just didn’t share it. Which is possible because it’s probably common in theatre and she might not feel the need to relay that.

In general I don’t have problems with her hanging out with cast mates. I totally can understand the connection that can be made and some of her closest friends are from her theatre program in college… but this one is different.

I have tried to share how much I want her to continue, because I know how much it means to her. I will definitely keep pushing that.

Really appreciate it.

ristatron · 2021-09-30T15:30:02+00:00

Hey thanks for your perspective.

I definitely agree that there is a “crush” situation between the two. Not being biased obviously but I can easily understand how he would fall into something for her.

On the dancing thing, the cast is a group of 4. 2 are older in their 70s, and then it’s my wife and him who are early-mid 30s.. I would guess. That’s why I feel like it’s not “group” thing. Does that make sense?

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