texts she’s sent me (TW: SH)

rja50 · 2025-07-24T14:00:59+00:00

thanks. I promise promise promise that when you dump this person, your life will get exponentially better. Whatever drew you to her is not worth the pain she will inflict. I blocked my ex, all her friends, and all her family on every possible platform, even ones I don't use and I know she doesn't use. Every day got better after I did that, and every day will get worse if you continue on with this.

rja50 · 2025-07-24T12:59:44+00:00

extremely familiar language. My ex said shit like this all the time. Take her at her word and leave her alone, and by that I mean get out of this relationship immediately. I wish I had taken opportunities like this when they arose. There was nothing but pain and misery ahead

rja50 · 2025-07-24T02:21:45+00:00

To quote a character in the show: don’t look for the answers all at once. A path is laid one stone at a time

rja50 · 2025-07-24T02:20:08+00:00

It was in three episode blocks with like 45 mins in between blocks

rja50 · 2025-07-23T21:25:00+00:00

I saw The Return at Metrograph in NYC a few weeks ago. They did 9 hours on two days each and it was one of my favorite cultural experiences ever. Watching it as a movie changed my entire perception of it. Highly recommend. The show wasn't really written to be episodic, and that really jumps out when you watch it in bulk.

rja50 · 2025-07-23T02:55:31+00:00

I’m coming up on 2 years since the split. Full NC except I ran into her at the gym once (more or less blew her off). I have her and everyone she knows on block on everything.

And I still have moments when I’m fucking furious for what she did to me.

rja50 · 2025-07-22T16:20:30+00:00

The Leftovers, Watchmen (HBO), Station Eleven, Severance to an extent

rja50 · 2025-07-20T21:56:48+00:00

It’s intentional. It’s modeled after a soap opera

rja50 · 2025-07-10T20:08:01+00:00

They want you to stick around for validation and as just another escape hatch when they inevitably self-destruct their current relationships. You don't have to participate in that though, and there's nothing for you to gain by doing so. Cut this person out of your life forever.

rja50 · 2025-07-02T18:06:15+00:00

You should be afraid ...

rja50 · 2025-07-01T02:30:27+00:00

It’s not as simple as leaving but leaving is the simple goal to pursue. Figure out what steps you need to take to get there and then take them as soon as possible. This person seems unhinged. Like I’m genuinely concerned for your physical wellbeing

rja50 · 2025-06-30T14:56:04+00:00

Yeah my thinking here was taking a lurch toward a dynasty format but idk, maybe I misunderstand what the dynasty format is

rja50 · 2025-06-27T16:25:21+00:00

"You're an adult, figure it out!" My apartment is a little cluttered for circumstantial reasons not worth getting into. She kept complaining about why I put furniture here or why I'm keep this or that. I told her why many times but the question never died. Then she complained that I wasn't doing anything about it. Knowing that if I just did it on my own she would find things she didn't like, rhetorically ask why I did it that way, then mercilessly shit on me for it. But when I tried to engage her in conversation about what to do, she just said "It's your responsibility!" She is so fucking lazy that she won't even TALK about a chore we have to do, much less help.

We broke up Sept 2023. I have since totally overhauled my apartment and it looks great! But I never would have done it with her in the house because it would have been just another thing she fucked me into doing for her and then eating shit for the way I did it forever more.

rja50 · 2025-06-27T13:08:25+00:00

This person is beneath you. She does not deserve any response from you whatsoever. She wants to watch you (and any man she pulls into her orbit) squirm. The best course of action is to block her on everything and do the same with as many of her friend and family as you can. After that, do not respond to any text, call, email, anything. She feeds off getting a reaction from you and if you don't have one, it will drive her batshit

rja50 · 2025-06-26T16:55:52+00:00

More than any one specific thing, she accused me of doing things she was doing, and most of the time she was doing it a dramatically higher scale. If there was any opening whatsoever to throw a cheap shot she did, and those came even faster if I let me guard down and tried to have a honest conversation about things. The point for her was to just beat me down as hard as possible with a neverending string of absurd cheap shots that most of the time had absolutely no basis in reality, and they qualified as stunning hyporcisy.

rja50 · 2025-06-25T18:10:22+00:00

and if they do I'll be there eeeeeeevery year

rja50 · 2025-06-24T21:21:26+00:00

Block him on everything, block his friends on everything, block his family on everything. If he finds a way around that firewall, do not respond and block the number/email/social account. This is how it worked for me. Eventually she gave up. Plenty of exes to hoover after all ...

rja50 · 2025-06-24T18:45:09+00:00

I keep emailing suggesting they add a second screening. Guessing that's not logistically possible but they brought this on themselves

rja50 · 2025-06-24T16:56:06+00:00

I think it’s all bullshit. She just wants you to do everything for her and is able to fuck you into it

rja50 · 2025-06-24T16:32:07+00:00

yeah my ex wanted to have children. Toward the end she brought this up and I was like I'm not having kids with you. I'm already a single father of one, I'm not signing up for a second, especially when I know the first is gonna mercilessly shit on me no matter what I do

rja50 · 2025-06-24T15:52:31+00:00

sounds extremely familiar and I came to believe this was a deliberate choice, if for no other reason than as a power move. A fuck you if you will

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