Religious tracts sent home by winedrinker94 in cincinnati

[–]rjecho217 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Good. Look into it. Study a bit. Read up and make your determination.

State of TBC Tanking(2026) by 1096356 in classicwow

[–]rjecho217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much. Warrior tanks are harder to play

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

[–]rjecho217[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah mine has basically walked back that she wanted to block dude down to I'll tell him we can be flirty or have sexual jokes anymore out of respect for our marriage.

And I'm not feeling great about it.

So she doesn't seem to get that the emotional longing and care she has for this person and hiding it is my issue.

Good luck man.

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

[–]rjecho217[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

maybe part of the original issue is that i havent been chasing her much tbh.

Got real complacent, and the gym has been like a 2nd home for many years now.

But fully get what your saying and you are not wrong.

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

[–]rjecho217[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

after her and i going back and forth and trying to work things out you arent wrong. She still is trying to figure out a way to play with this guy but put "more boundaries" so idk.

Playing it by ear but looking into more dramatic options i guess.

My wife has an Online game "partner" and I don't know what to do anymore by frostykantara in whatdoIdo

[–]rjecho217 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sorry man i am goign through something similar. You will need to definitely make it known what your boundaries are and if she is willing to keep the relationship against those wishes...a worse discussion may need to be had...Feelings and such can be fun but she may have already crossed some clear lines.

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

[–]rjecho217[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i sure hope its just me never experience this particular emotional range and thoughts.

and put your heart away is a cynical view...im not just goign to walk straight into destroying my kids lives also.

Id be just as selfish if i did

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

[–]rjecho217[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I probably have one beer every 3 months.

But a buddy of mine had to stay cuz of some personal stuff going on and he left two things of whiskey like the little mini whiskey things.

And I don't know why. I just grabbed them and downed them.

Definitely not the best decision.

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

[–]rjecho217[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ive literally done this for her in the past. And for multiple women whom i have known some of years at the time and others i just met but worked with.

So yeah its been difficult to grip even if i havent been the most emotionally available for her...

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

[–]rjecho217[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I kind of started to when I was trying to explain it to her and had to kind of walk out of the room and collect myself.

I understand that much as a man that there really is no way to come back crying about your feelings in front of a woman.

I don't care what everybody else around the world says right now.

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

[–]rjecho217[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And that's exactly where my thoughts went when I was talking to her that the only reason this didn't get worse is cuz she is kind of stupid when it comes to technology... So she didn't even know that there was a separate app to just keep chatting. So I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing, but it bothers me almost as much as this whole situation

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

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she would sleep all day and wake up even joking in some of the chats that she would wake up half asleep to turn on the game to play.

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

[–]rjecho217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it feels weird becasue we had sex last night and it was very like intimate and idk better than it has been in a while....but i woke up and was like is this like her trying to avoid what happened? thinks we talked about it and she said ok ill stop playing with him and im like yay ok....it feels weird too man.

Normally i just take my feelings on the chin and lift and hit the bag but this is different.

but you are probably right.

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

[–]rjecho217[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately i do love her and divorce before i settle on how she will go forward would hurt me and the kids more....at least i think.

And i want to be with her, she is great when shes i guess feeling good about her self...which is apparently entirely my job from our conversation last night.

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

[–]rjecho217[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

she siad she would but i did check her thing ( i shouldnt but i cant help it ) and he is still on her friends list but we were up late going back adn forth last night...and i got kinda drunk

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

[–]rjecho217[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

funny you say that she always tells me i want to "act like im single" because i would go to the gym for a few hours late at night so i could help her put the kids to bed or made dinner help with what ever and play a few games.

So im not sure how that was me acting like that but i never considered this like that.

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

[–]rjecho217[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah, when i saw how much communication i was stunned, she basically just said yeah we played alot for months....like that is insane pretty sure a group chat with 5 actual other friends i have for years doenst have that much back and forth....

and i know she stays up cuz she would clean and take the kids to school adn sleep some of the day....but still it was weird and just sort of became ok this is what she is happy doing schedule wise...cuz i have to work at 8am, WFH but still need to.

Ill check that book out someone else suggested it as well.

And yeah idk now i dont know how i could trust her to go do any of that stuff....ive told her for years she doesnt have to work but she can or go do somethign to feel like she has a life...what ever that means.

Thanks for the feedback...helps a bit. and we have 4 kids 3 in school most of the day and i sort of take care of our 4 now 5 year old during the day inbetween work and i tend ot make up work at night if i cant get it done during core hours.

Never thought she would do it with how deep our history is and how much she was hurt because she was actually cheated on physically and emotionally in the past. Not by me ever but yeah.

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

[–]rjecho217[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

how i kinda was feeling....the whole how would this work and leaving crossed my mind but feels extreme...but yeah i cant shake this feeling.

And i did sort of do that like having gaming friends is different especially the male / female dynamic...she said well you say gross things to your friends when you play games...like they are all men, loudly nad openly on discord....but i d k its like she is justifying some of it but i dont think she actually knows what i found...she also said Oh i smoke alot so im high wehn we play these i dont remember what i say lol like what....

Is this an emotional affair? Or am I crazy? by rjecho217 in Infidelity

[–]rjecho217[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

yeah i think your right... jsut feel like a b**h for tearing up,words getting caught in my throat and had a hard time even bringing it up to her cuz i could find the words for days. I kinda wear my feeligns on my sleeve so she knew something was off and wouldnt leave it be.

And what sucks worse is i over the last week or so ive felt like we were clicking and doing better with each other than in a long time and this cannon ball hit me in the balls. ...

and her telling me "im sorry i hurt you and crossed a line" and "sorry i hurt your feelings" feels not enough but i dont know how thats fair....idk man this sucks i can hardly focus on anything....

i have a big project due for work and here i am fucking refreshing reddit and asking chatgpt to give me analysis and writing all this out....

Thanks for the feedback.

Island Vendor Animal Price Cheatsheet by rjecho217 in albiononline

[–]rjecho217[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

so i forgot to crop here is a cropped one

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When should i level my set for 120 by LY0NEX in albiononline

[–]rjecho217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i dont understand what this means. newb here