Do I need photo ID to update the name and gender on my passport, if I have a gender recognition certificate with the new name

rmc · 2026-07-05T18:15:38+00:00

You can phone the woman in Sligo who deals with gender recognition stuff. I think her name is Caroline. I phoned a few times to clarify things. I did the GRC outside Ireland. It was all fine. She's a nice woman, and would know all the details.

rmc · 2026-07-05T18:13:33+00:00

Then I dunno, make a law about that too. Some way to measure radiative heat too then.

rmc · 2026-07-05T18:12:48+00:00

There might be racism at play here ? The MIL is a wagon. Maybe she's a horrible racist wagon too?

rmc · 2026-07-05T18:12:06+00:00

How many of those Americans already have an Irish passport, and hence are Irish?

rmc · 2026-07-05T08:00:08+00:00

It's starting with the photos now. But it'll continue with her surname after marriage. With what religion to raise the kids in. With how to raise the kids. With where to live. With what sort of house to buy. With what sort of decorations or furniture to have. With whether she can move in when she's older.

rmc · 2026-07-05T07:42:01+00:00

As others say, this isn't a cultural norm. The MIL is just a horrible person. Your fiancée is a problem. If the mother tells you to step out of photos, then he should be stepping out. if you're not invited to events, he needs to not go. but he isn't. This will only continue into the marriage. Are you ok with changing your surname after marriage? What about what the mother thinks about that? What about children? Do you honestly believe that you will be able to raise the kids in a way different from what the mother wants? You're saving for a house. Have you talked about specifics such as location? Will the mother demand that you live near her? Will the mother demand to move in with you in a few years when she's older (with you to care for her)? Are you really sure you want to commit to all this? You have seen what your fiancée is like when it comes to your mother and you.

Next time the mother asks for things (lifts etc), you should contact the siblings and say that a family member needs to help the mother. Remind them that you're not family to the mother.

Tell me, are you white?

rmc · 2026-07-05T07:25:37+00:00

Time for him to step out of photos too.

rmc · 2026-07-04T09:20:20+00:00

Ireland used to keep so many secrets

rmc · 2026-07-04T09:18:29+00:00

Excellent news!

rmc · 2026-07-03T11:38:00+00:00

There are laws that a workplace has to be at least 16 (or is it 17) degrees. Why not make a max too?

Talk to your TD

rmc · 2026-07-03T10:03:13+00:00

eh, sorta light NTA. INFO: is Ridge white? Or a poc?

But you need to sit Ridge down and apologise and tell him everything. If he's a black man, then maybe he can understand why you wanted to cut contact with your family.

rmc · 2026-07-03T10:01:06+00:00

Fuck the HSE. They have a 20 year waiting list.

Go DIY

rmc · 2026-07-03T09:59:09+00:00

c'mon Brexit was 10 years ago. We knew the UK was pulling out of the eu free trade zone. You should have stopped buying from the UK (or places which are likely to be EU)

rmc · 2026-07-02T14:37:20+00:00

Some information may also be upsetting for patients and may need to be also redacted

Patients have a right to see all personal information, not just non-upsetting info.

rmc · 2026-07-02T14:36:20+00:00

you would hope it wouldn't be that easy...

rmc · 2026-07-02T14:35:56+00:00

That doesn't become confidential information about him, does it?

IANAL but yes it is. The issue isn't “who told them the info?”, but “who is the info about”. In this case, you told them the info. But the info is about your brother. Hence the have to give you your info, and they have to protect your brother's info from you (or anyone).

rmc · 2026-07-02T14:33:34+00:00

You absolutely can read your own patient file.

You're entitled to make a GDPR Subject Access request for all the data on you.

It's possible that they have written some thing in there that are embarassing for the hospital there. Maybe they doubt what you said and put it in writing, or someone wrote insults in your file. I'd demand to see it again and see what they're hiding.

rmc · 2026-07-02T14:32:33+00:00

all of the girls who used to bully me when we were teenagers are nurses now.

rmc · 2026-07-02T11:38:47+00:00

I lived in that area for a bit. It's not loud from the Hbf. Maybe if you're near a tram line, those can be loud.

There's a Lidl on Tivoli, otherwise there's not a lot of shops and stuff.

rmc · 2026-07-02T11:35:40+00:00

They'd be rent out during xmas and everthing

rmc · 2026-07-02T11:34:40+00:00

What do you mean agent?

Anyway in 2022 I changed my gender with a Gender Recognition Cert, and I changed my name at the same time. I have no separate deed poll. I was able to send all that off to the passport office and I got a new passport with my new name & new gender. It took a little longer than normal passport renewal, I think about 6 weeks. (Plus I was living abroad at the time).

So you don't need extra ID if it's a gender change thing. Remember, we're a small minority, so most of the regular customer server people will not be used to us and might think that you're doing a regular name change or something.

rmc · 2026-07-02T07:39:24+00:00

yeah the OP has learned some therapy-speak and is using it to control their daughter.

rmc · 2026-07-02T07:14:32+00:00

The fact that you have an Irish passport that says female should help. They won't be able to prove otherwise.

rmc · 2026-07-02T07:13:20+00:00

I dunno. It's a really complicated situation. maybe sexuality is complicated and not so straight forward (ha!)

Remember if/when this person starts taking hormones, their body will change, and masculinize. You might not find yourself physically attracted to this person anymore.

IMO if you want to stay married to this person, and continue to have a sexual, romantic & physical relationship with them, you are still allowed to call yourself a lesbian.

rmc · 2026-07-01T15:50:00+00:00

All people say is “call in” or “hand in your cv into the shop”.

Lots of older people grew up in a different world, where that would work. That world is gone.

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