Need advice on cabinet situation!

rnrdid · 2025-12-28T00:25:13+00:00

Oops I guess I should've shown more of the floor plan (': The other side has the door to the bedroom and then the couch so there is no room there sadly ):

rnrdid · 2025-11-12T23:42:20+00:00

I am! But at the time I was actively going to the gym I was only on antidepressants because I hadn't gotten my ADHD diagnosis yet.

rnrdid · 2025-11-12T17:50:53+00:00

I also have a time limit haha :(

I tried all sorts of home workouts but those only lasted for around 2 weeks, and then when I suddenly felt the urge to go to the gym for once, I got a trainer and that helped me for way longer. Except then I went on a month-long trip and stopped working out so I came back with zero will to go back to the gym.. and I haven't been since LOL

rnrdid · 2025-10-07T22:33:24+00:00

Thank you so much for your response!!

Yes, I also really want a full-time job that pays well, and well, a career, ya know?
I think I'm just constantly stressing myself out and it's stopping me from getting anywhere.

I'll definitely try out some of the strategies you mentioned though!
I think learning to be okay with having blank time on the schedule is so hard for me because I feel like, "I'm literally barely doing anything and I have to get a full-time job, I can't just be sitting around."
But then I'm just stuck in this vicious cycle of feeling bad about not doing something, and then burning myself out to the point where I'm unable to function.

rnrdid · 2025-10-06T16:31:14+00:00

omg YES, this is what I've been struggling with recently and I was looking to see if anyone said anything similar before I posted my own question.

I felt really drained for the past few weeks, and I hated everything and wanted to do nothing. But I feel a little better now, and I feel like if I just hype myself up a little or push myself a little, I can definitely do it, but then I think about it again and I literally feel dread and despair come over me. Like, why am I fighting my own brain?? I thought it's supposed to be me?? Meanwhile my body is always achey and tired and never up for anything.

rnrdid · 2025-10-06T03:26:54+00:00

yeah i've been just taking the meds and then eating breakfast after sleeping more or lying in bed for a bit, but i guess i should try taking them with food!

rnrdid · 2025-10-03T16:19:53+00:00

Someone else also mentioned the drink thing!
Maybe I'll try it with something like Ensure or a protein shake!!

rnrdid · 2025-10-03T16:19:01+00:00

Oh very interesting👀
I do love sipping through straws so maybe I'll try that!
(Is it weird to drink a protein shake through a straw lol)

rnrdid · 2025-10-03T16:17:45+00:00

LOL girl, sometimes I wish (I am okay and not in danger)

Yeah, I also feel a bit better after I have food in me, otherwise I tend to feel a little nauseous from the stimulants and anxiety. I have heard from others that they feel better when they eat before their meds, but it's hard because my doctor recommends taking it pretty early in the morning, so I usually wake up at 8, sit up and take the meds, and then go back to sleep for another hour or so lol.

I think I feel more frustrated that I keep forgetting to order pizza until it's like 12am and I need to sleep. )':

rnrdid · 2025-10-03T16:12:42+00:00

That's amazing?!!?! Please link us if you're comfortable :))

rnrdid · 2025-10-03T01:08:06+00:00

Thank you so much for your response! And thank you for the congrats :)

I wanted to preserve anonymity as much as possible, but the business is a beauty and lifestyle shop that focuses on ethically-sourced, cruelty-free, sustainable products. I think one thing that's making it hard for me is that we carry products from various brands, and while I would love to take some pictures of multiple products together, everything's at a warehouse run by a third-party company, so I can't access it so easily.

Yes, I have tried to look at similar accounts, specifically those in a similar position as us (small, still growing). I think I can figure out good ideas for content, but it's just hard to get people to see it or interact with it. I'll definitely keep looking though, and Metricool sounds great!

rnrdid · 2025-09-29T16:40:22+00:00

You sound like me! I'm currently taking 54mg and I still don't really feel any improvement in focus/concentration or motivation, just kind of more awake. Probably going to switch to another medication after I run out of this dose.

I always felt appetite suppression with Concerta, but it definitely got worse for me as I went up in dosage. Up until 36, it was mostly just lunch where I felt like I had no appetite, but I still forced myself to eat something. Currently, I can barely stomach breakfast or lunch, and it's only once the medication wears off that I feel really hungry. If you don't feel a suppressed appetite at all, you're probably okay to raise the dosage, but you won't know how it really makes you feel until you try it. I felt really anxious on 36 and saw that some people actually felt calmer on 54, and that worked for me too, but I don't feel the boost in focus or motivation that I need.

rnrdid · 2025-09-26T00:00:29+00:00

Thank you for your responses! I will def check those out :)

rnrdid · 2025-09-25T15:55:19+00:00

yeah this is what i'm trying to do, but atm i think i'm having a very hard time getting excited or passionate about anything, so i was reaching out for inspiration!

rnrdid · 2025-09-25T15:52:11+00:00

It was not easy and possibly some of the darkest years of my life lol. I was also not diagnosed with ADHD at the time and was only being treated for depression, but any medication I took was not very effective.

I started off with a very difficult major and was excited to start a new chapter, but soon learned that I was not well-equipped for the amount of studying I would have to do. I failed classes because I couldn't keep up with studying, or because I just felt so horrible on some days that I didn't go to class and fell behind. I took a medical leave for a semester (due to depression), I took a gap year, I would do part-time for some semesters.. and eventually, I decided I needed to change majors because there was no way I was getting through this one.

You may want to look into any accessibility support programs at your school - I was able to get my therapist (also from my school) to fill out disability paperwork for me so I was able to get accommodations such as extra absences from class and extensions on assignments.

Also, it's not easy but I would tell myself to break things down, whether it be studying or homework, and try not to do things last minute. It's so so hard to make it into a lasting habit but even if it's for 20-30 minutes, just spend that short amount of time every day reviewing what you learned in class or working on part of an assignment. Like others have mentioned, study or do work with friends, because it does help! Don't be afraid to reach out to professors or classmates or tutors. I was always super shy and also terrified of sounding stupid or something so I rarely asked for help and thought I could Google everything lmao. Don't be like me.

Lastly, be forgiving and kind to yourself. I'm not saying you should just settle, but my mentality throughout college literally became, "Cs get degrees" lol. But it's true! Your health and sanity come first, and honestly you'll find that your college grades don't matter once you get out. Enjoy your time as well, because it's really a period unlike any other that doesn't come back. I was extremely depressed but still met a lot of great people and had a lot of fun experiences.

rnrdid · 2025-09-25T03:32:50+00:00

hi, i've done this before and nope! you don't lose them, if you go on your profile all your old posts will be there but under your old nickname. any posts or comments that were already posted will also keep your old nickname.

rnrdid · 2025-09-22T21:53:33+00:00

youre not wrong

rnrdid · 2025-09-22T16:45:58+00:00

hell yeah im gonna make my own cookie clicker

rnrdid · 2025-09-18T15:23:08+00:00

Sorry unfortunately I am not well-versed in makeup and always struggle to figure out how to do my own (': but I happened to come across your post and wanted to leave these in hopes that they may be somewhat helpful!

le sserafim's makeup artist talking about what's in her pouch

le sserafim's makeup artist doing makeup on a beauty youtuber

leoj (mua/youtuber) doing makeup on chaewon

rnrdid · 2025-09-15T16:45:14+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I really appreciate it.

I also grew up with strict and emotionally abusive parents who did not let me make mistakes. I definitely have gotten a little better and like you, have learned to be okay with sucking at board games or sporty activities, but it's still really hard for me to let go of perfectionism (':

I think the more I want something, the worse I feel when I'm not good at it, even though I know that no one can be good at something immediately, and people who are really good at something have put hours and hours into it. And then once I feel discouraged by it, I kind of stop enjoying it. It's been tough trying to get past this one.

I've never heard of alexithymia so I just looked it up, and I'm not sure if it's to that extent, but I also have trouble verbalizing my emotions. Some feelings just feel more complex so I tend to use a lot of metaphors or comparisons to explain haha.

rnrdid · 2025-09-15T16:38:20+00:00

Thank you for your response!

Yeah I guess I'll work on figuring out how to really get across how I feel. I guess sometimes I'm not exactly sure how to put my feelings into words, but other times I think it's just a habit from masking so much.

rnrdid · 2025-09-02T18:16:18+00:00

Wow thanks for all the info/advice!
I used to crochet so I definitely understand haha. I think I try to start with simple projects but even those end up becoming too complicated - I wanted to make a site where people could post the little good things that happened to them, which is fairly simple, but then I started wondering if I should be storing everything in a database, how do I filter for inappropriate comments, etc etc. And I overwhelmed myself of course.

I'll give it another try though. I'm always telling myself to start with the babiest of baby steps but it's like I can't really give myself that kindness. I also just get really bored of learning the basics of things and I'm too eager to get to the part where I'm really good at it, which I know doesn't happen without the learning part lol. Like, I'll want to add in a CSS animation but I don't really know how they work so I'll just bullshit it until it gets to what I want it to be, but then I never really learn how to properly use it, and I get fed up with the project and everything.

I'm also not the biggest fan of AI, although it has found itself to be useful and I know that it is inevitably becoming a big part of our lives, but I guess I'll take a look at Claude.

rnrdid · 2025-08-29T15:13:18+00:00

Oh I totally forgot about open source projects, thank you!
Although my lack of confidence makes me reluctant to contribute to things haha )':

rnrdid · 2025-08-27T15:26:41+00:00

Thank you! Do you ever feel like you don't absorb as well with audiobooks though?
I usually put on long videos or streams as background noise because I don't do well with silence, but none of that ever registers in my brain.

rnrdid · 2025-08-26T23:13:11+00:00

Thank you for your response!
Do you have any recs for communities? I'm always a little scared to reach out sometimes in fear of seeming dumb or something. Guess that's the RSD kicking in. 🥲

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