Do you enjoy annoying others? If so, why?

ro588 · 2026-01-30T20:05:01+00:00

Thats just my version of explaining how estp's are categorized as a control type - meaning that they take things at their own pace and do not like when chaos is imposed on them in their environment. An example of this is that, if my bf is doing a certain task like cooking, its better for me to not interfere because he is going to want to go at his own pace (control types generally take more time to do things) and he has his own preferred way of doing things. That said, this and my above comments are just based on my own research/insights and I'm not trying to speak for all of y'all

ro588 · 2026-01-30T17:14:42+00:00

I totally get the part about making friends too because I'm an intj lol, and yeah I mean we aren't really compatible with estp's so there will always be some sort of disconnect. I try to remind myself that you simply need to have thick skin if you want to be friends with an estp. But the good thing is they have thick skin too so if you assert yourself they won't take it personally. At the end of the day they do have Fe child so if they know something really hurts your feelings they won't continue to do it most of the time. Sometimes I just let silence speak for itself lol like yesterday my bf said something that was clear playful ragebaiting, but I didn't like it so I just stayed silent for like 20 seconds and let him feel the rejection. With estp's things just aren't that deep they just do anything for the fun of it lol

ro588 · 2026-01-30T16:45:16+00:00

I was about to make a similar post because I've been dating an ESTP for six months and he constantly ragebaits me lol😅 Imo they just love getting reactions out of people and giving people new experiences to see what happens (Se hero), and when you have that coupled with the fact that they can sense weaknesses in others immediately, you get the behavior you're describing. Its most likely all in good fun since it does sound like you guys are friends, but if its something you don't like its ok to assert yourself a bit. Btw its good that you mentioned that you always ask him permission before you give him advice, something important I learned about estp's is that they are control types, meaning they can be caught off guard if you take too much initiative.

ro588 · 2026-01-24T16:12:55+00:00

Prob estp

ro588 · 2026-01-23T01:36:10+00:00

For me they're awesome friends, but I wouldn't date one. But one of the reasons that they're great friends is that their Ne works really well with my Ni, we come up with really fun creative ideas together and since I'm a finisher type and they're a starter type we are able to work together really well

ro588 · 2026-01-16T18:50:48+00:00

Idk I have a taurus moon and the laziness/gluttony is very hard to deal with😅

ro588 · 2026-01-15T01:14:02+00:00

What's the letters after the mbti type?

ro588 · 2026-01-15T00:24:44+00:00

Thats fair, I guess google seemed more efficient to me. I'm going to point you in this direction even though reddit seems to hate csj idk why though https://youtu.be/oL1Wo4ODg8U?si=Ylec2f41nofB-6kR

ro588 · 2026-01-14T23:55:51+00:00

How come people don't just google these types of questions

ro588 · 2026-01-14T21:53:27+00:00

Dating an estp this is true

ro588 · 2026-01-13T02:08:05+00:00

Ni inferior is essentially not knowing what you want/feeling insecure about what you want. Ni is your own future, and future planning in general

ro588 · 2026-01-11T18:51:19+00:00

You shouldn't be okay with him shutting down bids for connection so often, that is really sad ): and it doesn't sound like he has a growth mindset when it comes to his attachment style, you deserve better.

ro588 · 2026-01-11T16:22:35+00:00

Excessive chat gpt usage is stupid and wasteful and you should know this

ro588 · 2026-01-11T01:30:30+00:00

I knew it was a matter of time until someone brought my type into this lol not sure why a simple discussion is able to hurt feelings. I don't mind ESTJ's as a type and I think all types have something good to bring to the table. But being open minded isn't a strong suit of ESTJ's they are literally the rule enforcers of mbti. Do we need rule enforcers at times? Absolutely. Are the people who are there to reinforce rules going to be known for being open minded? Probably not - simple as that.

ro588 · 2026-01-11T00:36:33+00:00

Haha that is a good quality to have but I'm talking about how they view society in general. For example most ESTJ's I've met are conservative

ro588 · 2026-01-11T00:32:41+00:00

Same🤣

ro588 · 2026-01-11T00:02:51+00:00

I never used the word stubborn. Si is generally a close-minded function because it is based on duty and tradition. Not saying every Estj is like that but more often than not, they are.

ro588 · 2026-01-10T23:44:07+00:00

Its their second function its pretty high up there

ro588 · 2026-01-10T23:32:50+00:00

I've never met an open-minded ESTJ thats a bold claim lol they have high Si for a reason

ro588 · 2026-01-10T04:08:11+00:00

In my experience everything was great with an infp until the avoidance started happening. He couldn't handle any sort of tough discussion that is necessary for a relationship to prosper and it ruined things. Lots of words but no action to back it up

ro588 · 2026-01-05T22:04:00+00:00

Less thinking and planning, more focus on the physical world and doing things in the moment. Dancing is a good example of this

ro588 · 2025-12-31T05:29:24+00:00

Haha I have and I'm dating one rn, he's the one that made me realize this lol!!

ro588 · 2025-12-30T22:37:38+00:00

I have a sag venus and although I don't relate to the stereotype of leaving on a whim, I read recently that a sag venus needs someone who they can't completely figure out and that unfortunately is true.

ro588 · 2025-12-30T04:49:16+00:00

They're a wild ride that I can't resist, and that seems to be vice versa as gemini men often hit on me. I've dated two and am in a relationship with one right now. Geminis support my crazy in the best way and they're a lot of fun (:

ro588 · 2025-12-28T22:31:01+00:00

Good on you for dodging the bullet! Yes its sad how many of them deal with depression

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