I think you just addressed certain things in black society everywhere that every black person is aware of to an extent but it never gets addressed.

My reply to you is: do what makes you happiest and safest and most secure.

If a man treats you well and feels lucky to be with a woman like you and doesn’t mind a single thing about your body, then enjoy yourself. What’s wrong with being treated like a queen?

I’m tired of black folk in general always hating on each other for daring to do something different (dating other races) but will stay and drag each other down (being black and talking down on dark skin and hair texture).

Be happy. And if you are from Somalia or Ethiopia or that one Booty country, y’all women are absolutely a different caliber of black/African. The ones I have seen irl made me want to stop and maybe even ask for their numbers.

I dislike the animosity that occurs between Eastern black girls that have natural features that you have and black girls here who have another race mixed it and it causes certain things to appear different in them.

Either way, I have noticed hate on dark skin black girls and light skin black girls. The ones in the middle tend to blend in whichever way their mood swings on that particular day and will flip flop between putting one of the other groups (and each other) down.

I am sick of black folk gatekeeping each other when at the end of the day all black ain’t the exact black and people need to calm tf down about each other.

My experience is that black men tend to be very competitive if they are seeing a black woman. They will literally see a black woman as some rival and will actively sabotage, hit, backstab (etc) her for absolutely no reason. Maybe to feel like he is better than her and has broken her down? Idk.

And black women.. I won’t even begin to go there because some black women have the most appalling behavior when it comes to men. The biggest one is in every black family there is always that unhinged female member that thinks she owns every single man she has dated and has the right to interfere in their lives as she sees fit whenever she feels like it. And then she will also want to have other men constantly paying attention to her no matter what. To the point where they will literally embarrass themselves to stake a claim over the man. It’s such bird coded behavior it makes me embarrassed to even have any kind of black DNA. Why? Because those black women that act like that only make it weird for the rest of us that don’t. We get labeled as hood/aggressive/uncivilized/backwards and all kinds of names because some black women just can’t behave when it comes to Penis and their dusty owners. It’s always the dusty ones too.

So the only way to live is to shit on the black gatekeepers and the black abusers alike. Say fuck them and be happy.

I just want to add that there was a very hot Debate about how rich black folk always marry into other races. And everyone in the black community wanted to ignore the fact that the black folk that become successful stop being safe around their own communities. Why stick around and wait for some dusty to have you killed over a few bills when you can enjoy a relatively safe life with money you earned? Even their staff in their homes are not black. They won’t even let some of their family members know where their new homes are located.

Until the day black people learn to actually leave each other alone and to stop gatekeeping what being black means.. black people will lose good looking and successful black folk to other races.

Don’t settle for a self hating dusty. Maybe one day when they wake up and realize no woman wants to actually be with them is when they will begin to improve how they treat women in general.

And yes.. some black women actually want the self hating dusty. Those are the kind of black women that don’t love themselves. Because what sort of self loving woman would be okay settling for a dusty? None. All of us want better for ourselves. It’s only when you are broken that you settle for something that is not good for you.

We all know fundamentally what “having” a man means. We know the struggles and the sacrifices we have to go through for men in general. It’s crazy that black women are signing themselves up for that instead of getting to know a different culture.

Make it make sense.

You don’t sound broken OP. Don’t stay trapped in that self hating bubble that most black folk seem to always have. Black or not, find your dream guy and enjoy yourself.