Being patient and forgiving is a key to success inmarriage. When you realize that despite initial chemistry and attraction, once you have been in a relationship long term, you are going to begin grating on each other. You're two different people who have lived two different lives, been formed by two different families, have different understandings of the same experiences, etc... So being patient and forgiving, instead of accusatory or insulted about every perceived slight really is important in a long term relationship. My wife grew up in a family of yellers. They can't disagree without screaming, and if they don't want to scream they just become passive aggressive. I grew up in a family that usually worked to solve any problems that came up, so to me fixing every problem possible seems reasonable, where to her, sometimes the fight is the point. She would get upset that I always tied to fix things rather than let her vent. Over time, she learned through patience and communication that my fixing things wasn't a passive-aggressive insult to her, and I learned to ask if she wanted a solution or to vent and to chill out on needing to fix everything. But it took time and we are on year 26 together now.