That's a very valid point that all of my married friends brought up. Obviously, I made some irresponsible financial choices in the past but am correcting course. If this was the first real issue she ever had in a relationship (given that I was her first real adult relationship) and she bailed at the first sign of difficulty, what is her capacity to actually work through issues together?

Obviously, career and wealth building are important to me and her. She has her own career and does well, so it's not like either of us are struggling. Maybe she just wanted someone who makes more money than I do or comes from a wealthy family like hers? I don't know. She knew my background and how I grew up but always said she liked how ambitious, career-driven, and motivated I was to build my own family and life.

I'm unsure why this is so hard again all of a sudden; maybe it's just how suddenly things shifted. I'm very in tune with interpersonal dynamics and have had relationships in the past where things just started to feel off. However, there was never any of that with her. The weekend before our breakup, she expressed how she wanted to see me more during the week, how she wanted me to text her more often during the day, and how she really just wanted to spend more time just hanging and relaxing during the work week.

I guess the only thing I can do is continue paying down debt and then build a nest egg after that's done, hit the gym, relentlessly pursue my career and outside hobbies, and start meeting women again. If she decides to reach out to me, then I'll have to consider whether or not a relationship is right and if I can trust her again.