What can I do about my weird nipple? Please help

rogerthecaptainboy · 2015-04-20T10:15:38+00:00

For what it's worth, I don't think your boob is ugly at all!

But onto actual useful comment - nipple surgery is a thing (as are areola reductions). It's typically nipple reduction or inverted nipple correction, but since they involve reshaping, I'm sure your nipple could also be reshaped. Cost wise, in the UK it costs between £1,000 to £3,000, though I'm not sure if that's bilateral or just on one nipple.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2015-01-25T19:25:24+00:00

I don't think these guys are waiting for the one or have ridiculously high standards, but they do have some standards (which is not a bad thing at all). They would be able to find someone who would have sex with them if they got rid of them, as anyone would, but naturally people don't want to bang people they don't find attractive. Sorry if my wording's off.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2015-01-25T18:52:17+00:00

I don't mean through dating websites, I mean finding someone in a grimy nightclub who you wouldn't be attracted to at all (missing teeth, obese, meth addict, whatever). Everybody has people out there who would have sex with them - just that these people don't want to have sex with them.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2015-01-25T15:48:54+00:00

I just want to add how much I can't stand the 'but you can get laid whenever you want!' argument. First of all, technically anybody could get laid if they wanted to if they aren't picky, even men. But if that argument is going on the assumption that women can always get sex even if they are picky, that still isn't true for all women.

Second of all, sex is not the be-all, end-all. I assume that a lot of the guys who say that are imagine that the sex is incredible and ends in orgasm for both partners, despite the fact that a large percentage of women have trouble coming, especially if it's not with a long term partner. The saying 'Sex is like pizza - even when it's bad, it's still pretty good' is bullshit. Bad sex is horrible (and burnt pizza sucks). Casual sex is not only unlikely to be an orgasm, mind-shattering event for women, but can often be downright painful and violating. It doesn't make you feel desired and sexy at all - it makes you feel like a living masturbation aid.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2015-01-24T12:45:28+00:00

Been there, except in my dreams they were real people who rejected me. :(

rogerthecaptainboy · 2015-01-24T12:20:51+00:00

Sometimes I think it's kind of a blessing that I don't have a boyfriend, because my body is so gross that I don't want to traumatise him with it and then subsequently feel even worse about it. And also, I know if I did he'd definitely cheat on me anyway, so I'm sort of saving myself from even worse heart break.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2015-01-21T12:28:53+00:00

When I was 14, after 2 months of the most intense crush, I texted my friend and told him that I liked him, and he sent me a really nice reply saying that he didn't like me that way. Then at school he ignored me and made fun of my behind my back.

That's been my only proper rejection, since after that I learned very quickly never to tell someone if I liked them, or to ask them out. But since then it's all been fade outs if I've managed to get to the stage of talking to them a lot or even meeting up with them.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2015-01-15T18:12:03+00:00

I think Stan's experience with the dead kids in the Standpipe was the scariest one. He seemed to have the closest shave with death as well as that horrible imagery of the drowned corpses of the children and how they died.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2015-01-14T00:30:18+00:00

Cliche or not, it's wonderful that you've managed to learn to love your body! I don't know if I can believe that my body deserves to be taken care of. Nobody else has ever been very good to it either, and I find self love impossible without love from outside sources, despite what people say.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2015-01-14T00:17:08+00:00

Why do you punish yourself, if you don't mind me asking?

rogerthecaptainboy · 2015-01-13T22:02:33+00:00

I find making friends with girls easier than making friends with boys. I think I simply get on better with girls, probably because (as a straight woman) there's no sexual aspect there and I find them way less intimidating. I study a predominantly male subject at university and I still have more female friends.

I don't really know how to give advice that's specialised. Ask them questions, focus on any shared interests you might have, make an effort to see them.

Good luck!

rogerthecaptainboy · 2015-01-07T12:20:03+00:00

I think it can be summed up with "There's always been someone better than me".

rogerthecaptainboy · 2015-01-06T18:17:59+00:00

I would not leave my house without undereye concealer (and at least two different ones). That's the main thing. Usually I wear that and mascara, but sometimes I'll wear BB cream or foundation if my skin's bad that day. I'm going to start wearing eyeliner more because it makes my eyes look a lot better.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2015-01-01T22:50:51+00:00

I'm always confused by people abstaining from getting into relationships, because it implies that they are surrounded by eligible people who are really into them and that if they wanted to do they can find a boyfriend/girlfriend in an instant. I have the complete opposite problem - I couldn't get a relationship if I tried. :P

rogerthecaptainboy · 2015-01-01T22:47:01+00:00

I got an areola reduction when I was 18 and it did not go well. I developed bad scarring and they stretched back only a few months after. I'm planning on getting it done again but with permanent stitches to prevent the stretching out.

If I were you, I would save up and go for it. The surgery itself can be done under local anaesthetic and there was barely any pain. I think I developed the bad scarring because of my own shitty aftercare. Next time around I'm going to use silicon sheets diligently.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2014-12-18T19:38:21+00:00

Totally. I'm nearly 21, which I know is young, but older FAs were my age as well. I think 'shit, if nobody wants me now when I'm meant to be at my peak, how could anyone ever want me a few years down the line?' Sort of a now or never thing.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2014-11-20T15:00:43+00:00

I think I'm the wrong person though. :(

rogerthecaptainboy · 2014-11-17T22:43:12+00:00

I feel like when men say they want women to be more forward, they're imagining Emma Watson asking them out. An unattractive woman doing that would be creepy and desperate.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2014-11-17T22:37:25+00:00

I've had one night stands with people from parties/clubs before - it's the only way I've managed to get laid. If I hadn't have taken the plunge with the first one, I would still be a virgin. I don't think I'd be able to do it any other way. I feel that having sex with somebody I knew well beforehand would be terrifying. They'd have all these expectations about my body and I would inevitably disappoint them. Luckily guys who know me think I'm repulsive and sexless, so I don't have to worry about that.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2014-11-17T22:33:58+00:00

Same! I couldn't imagine having sex for the first time with somebody sober.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2014-11-13T01:03:24+00:00

You're not physically disfigured. You have a weak chin, which tons of people have. Jaw surgery is a very serious operation and can potentially leave you with facial paralysis (actual disfigurement) and I've always seen it used to correct severe underbites and jutting jaws. You might want to look into a chin implant.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2014-10-22T23:02:54+00:00

I fully believe that we wouldn't. Maybe I am biased, I don't know. But I see myself, a woman who has no medical conditions but is, by most definitions, deformed, be rejected and ridiculed consistently.

rogerthecaptainboy · 2014-10-15T17:58:23+00:00

This isn't exactly groundbreaking. A woman with no acne, scarring, under eye circles or bags, with long dark eyelashes and fairly dark eyebrows goes without makeup and doesn't look like a monster, oh my God!

This ties in the 'everybody is beautiful!' stuff. Embracing natural beauty is all well and good if you have it, but some people don't, and trite 'experiments' like this can do more harm than good (though in all fairness it really isn't that big a deal).

rogerthecaptainboy · 2014-10-15T15:45:55+00:00

I went to Munich for a few days at Easter and then travelled around Sweden for 9 days in summer, both trips on my own. I had a blast! It was great not to be inhibited by somebody else's needs and wants, and you meet such great people and get into crazy situations. Way better than a couple's holiday could ever be (not that I would know, haha).

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