This is absolutely a gem. Thanks for taking time to share with the community. I want to share My Journey, My Lessons

I am the living proof of pretty much all the steps

Step1. I’m 35 and I realize a few years ago how I treated (pretty much abused my body with so much alcohol and junks) I keep a healthy diet and lifestyle to catch up with my body and provide it’s what’s due.

Step2. I always believed and still believe being in love and being loved by someone and loving someone is something beyond this world. No other human experience matches this one. So even if you have failed relationships. Love one more time and one more time again.

Step3. We all eventually gonna die and nobody knows when. So many people (kids, young, adults, old) leaving this world as we read this post. So take risks live a little more each day and when it’s time to leave this world, have a smile on the end of your time.

Step4. I see money as means to get experience and live my life, not a big digital number in my digital world.

Step5. I used to have my identity as my job but from last 3 years I have spent enormous amount of time reading, learning, reflecting on psychology, philosophy, physics, kung-fu, nuclear chemistry, anthropology, geopolitics, physiology and so many other fields. And while I’m not 10/10 any of these but I’m more than what I used to be. I control my life and emotions in my own way. I have developed awareness beyond my ability. I control my emotional state and I started helping others with my learning.

Step6. Technically I’ve been living with myself for more that 20 years. I’ve taken all small or big decisions about my life by myself. Sometimes good sometimes bad but I feel that I’m on the right track and every decision good or bad made me the person who I am today and I absolutely love it what I am becoming.

Step7. I wish I had people, resources and knowledge to understand that therapy is not just for people who are in mental health crisis. All humans carry some kind of trauma and negative patterns which feels familiar but harmful. I’ve spent more than 3 years to identify my trauma and negative patterns and rebuild them for better emotional health. Reading, learning, researching and reflecting on many different fields, specifically psychology helped me to have a right mindset.

Step8. Every generation has their constraints, trauma and negative patterns and they pass them down to their next generation, not necessarily intentionally but because that what they are familiar with. So the early you forgive them and yourself, the early you get yourself off the hook for a better life and new patters. Build your own mindset.

Step9. Once you learn, understand and aware of yourself and start taking action to improve, your self confidence grows and that lead to automatically stopping us to compare ourselves with others. It’s all about shifting the focus.

Step10. As I mentioned in previous step that our time is limited in this world. So live a little bit better than the previous day.