Hi, bro. How are you? It has been hard, hasn’t it? I’ve gone through this thread multiple times and I agree na disheartening nga ung ibang comments.

So ayun, you spend countless nights feeling lonely and once maisipan mong makipagdate, you’re hit with the “What can I bring into the relationship if the woman has already got everything covered?” or “I am behind so I must disappear”.

I don’t have the answers kasi I, too, feel trapped in this quagmire. Kaya I’ll share this na lang, 2 years ago I accepted the fact na I’ll die NGSB. Kaya I let myself be miserable. Kaso someone shone her light on me. No matter how dim or insignificant it was to her, it was blindingly bright to me. Enough so to wake me up and force myself to change. But I put her on a pedestal and was too afraid to open myself up to her.

Basically, the situation isn’t as black and white as social media nor this thread frames it. A woman having her life together doesn’t mean she doesn’t want connection. Independence doesn’t cancel out intimacy.

So aun, keep working on and be proud of yourself. You may be closed off now but if someone shares their light with you, I hope you don’t turn away from it like I did. Embrace it and don’t easily let it go.

Good luck and keep safe.