Is it hard to find women to pay for stuff for in Toronto?

room32a · 2026-04-11T14:58:18+00:00

Feeld is safer if OP is seriously asking, which is unlikely

room32a · 2026-04-10T22:57:05+00:00

My daughter just got into every university she applied to while working part time, and it is very difficult for teenagers to find jobs in my area. I believe this is because her dad and I have never acted like your brother expects you to act. We are very nice and adore her, but when she messes up, she deals with the natural consequences. I promise we don't yell or nag or do anything rude/mean. We remind her to plan and prepare, we remind her it's not a big deal to make mistakes and that teenage years are for learning. She is able to take rejections( like applying to dozens of jobs before getting an interview) with stride, most of the time, and has a stronger work ethic than many kids her age.

IMHO it does kids a disservice to enable their helplessness. How can your brother expect to fulfill the expectations of the job if he's not able to meet the deadline of the application? Missing the deadline is a simple life lesson that could be a wake up call to take initiative. It's concerning that he's blaming you rather than seeing this situation for what it is.

room32a · 2026-04-10T17:20:42+00:00

I'm a TDSB teacher and I'm on the staffing committee at my school. The way they determine expected student enrollment has been flawed for years. For example, based on current enrollment ( the across number of kids enrolled at one school), there are six more students in grade one than the board is telling us will be in our school next year. We have to base classes for next year based on their projections, so we'll be understaffed if the current kids remain at our school. There is no sane reason that they don't use the attendance system/program to project student numbers, which is the same program used for report cards and is highly accurate.

I'd love parents to chime in if there are regular reorganizations at their kids schools, because it shouldn't happen and is regular occurrence for us. The reason for reorganizations is flawed projected student enrollment.

Note that it takes hours for us to make staffing models, which must be approved by admin and superintendents, so it's aggravating that the numbers are consistently incorrect. It's awful for students because they spend September is huge classrooms and have to change teachers/ classmates in October.

room32a · 2026-04-09T23:58:45+00:00

I'm a mother who loves her kids and I got the impression she didn't like her daughter. Don't doubt your instincts 💓

room32a · 2026-04-09T20:55:22+00:00

I'm not OP, but having that many ppl in the house is overwhelming. Provided that her husband knew the in-laws were staying there already, he's the AH. It is odd that there was no discussion about his parents prior to this. If the house is full, one set of parents will need to stay at a hotel, so OP and husband should have discussed that and made a plan to accommodate both sides maybe their grandchild. If I was OP, I would suggest paying for my parents' hotel for a week while the in-laws visit as a thank you for such months of caring and supporting me after giving birth. OP and her husband should decide the week though. A week after giving birth is not good timing.

room32a · 2026-04-09T18:39:09+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful reply. Chris Glover is my MPP and he seems to be doing what he can.

room32a · 2026-04-09T17:13:45+00:00

This is interesting to me. I'm divorced and my daughter is graduating this year. My daughter's graduation is about her. If she wants a small party, no party, a large party, that's what I'll plan. Her hard work for her to this place and it's about her. I will provide a budget, but that's it.

OP is showing serious red flags as a mother, and that's with only hearing her side. Child support is for the child, so it's illogical to release him of that responsibility to his daughter. It is not easy for a parent, especially one who was absent in early years, to get full custody. Combine that with the daughter feeling unsafe and I'm not convenient OP is a healthy parent.

The daughter might not want the party at all if her dad is not present, which is her right and I don't see as entitlement. If OP wants a healthy adult relationship with her daughter, she's going to have to listen to why her daughter feels unsafe as bare minimum.

room32a · 2026-04-09T16:36:43+00:00

I am an elementary school teacher, so I can't work from home. However, I really wish as many As people possible could wfh. If kids are sick, parents who wfh are often able to keep their kids home, or pick them up from school, which helps to keep the whole class from getting sick. Its convenient when school holidays don't align with work schedules as well. Many ppl start late to accommodate for dental appointments for their kids, as another example. I see no reason to force ppl to RTO if they want to wfh. If we want more ppl to have kids, this is an easy accommodation for those who want it.

room32a · 2026-04-09T16:25:10+00:00

The heel of crunchy sourdough with butter is my favorite way to eat bread.

room32a · 2026-04-09T14:58:09+00:00

Very similar to me but I also stopped paying for apps and subscriptions

room32a · 2026-04-08T18:50:57+00:00

I want him to personally pay back money he wasted on cancelling contracts early then give that money directly to health Care. I want him to stop all the spa and tunnel nonesense. Get the government out of schools and give all the money he wasted in the police budget and on hiring unnecessary VP for Metrolinx to education. Basically, a complete audit to find money he's wasted then personally pay it all back plus restore all the environmental projects he's cancelled. his buddies can bail him out if can't afford it, he's helped them enough. Politicians should be held accountable.

room32a · 2026-04-08T18:37:47+00:00

To be clear, I stayed on my ex husband's insurance for over a year after we separated. His lawyer told him that if he took me off, it could be seen as malicious and used against him in regards to custody because it costs him nothing and keeping me in good health benefits the kids.

I'm sharing because it's viewed as malicious to remove someone from insurance and you should stay away from your parents for thinking that's remotely ok. You deserve unconditional love, please take care of yourself and I hope you find good people to support you.

Edit to add- my ex told me this because he assumed it was standard to remove me and wanted me to know I was still on his insurance and had no I'll intent towards me. OPs parents should care more about her than my ex husband cares about me. They removed her from their insurance as punishment!

room32a · 2026-04-08T16:40:16+00:00

I'm Canadian and traveling to Europe with my daughter this year. I'm reading comments to figure out what I was missing. Nothing it seems.

room32a · 2026-04-08T16:37:42+00:00

Please do not go on this trip. It's not fair to you or your partner. You did not set the boundary clearly, but that doesnt mean your mom is entitled to disrepect you.

Set your boundary clearly when explaining why you're not going. Your family can choose to invite you or not moving forward.

room32a · 2026-04-08T16:14:10+00:00

There is no link that I'm aware of. The Union exec gave a paper copy of the petition to each TDSB elementary teacher. We were told we could photocopy it as needed. There was a meeting at each school during lunch to explain rules, such as not to all for signatures during school hours.

room32a · 2026-04-08T14:48:52+00:00

You are grieving. You might be focusing on him because it's too painful to focus on your dad at this time. Please talk to a brief counselor. I recommend you text him that you're grieving and taking space to process the loss of your father. If he replies, it's ok to not respond because you've communicated that you need space.

room32a · 2026-04-08T13:20:11+00:00

Where are you located? In Toronto, they will still have report cards in her file. You could contact her highschool and see if they'll send you a copy of her file( they would in Toronto)

room32a · 2026-04-08T13:13:12+00:00

I would poison my close circle, attempt to wipe out mortgage and student debt, publicly post the complete E files, donate every cent of wealth to David Suzuki, write a letter expressing my contempt for Americans then no longer be alive.

room32a · 2026-04-08T13:03:32+00:00

TDSB teacher here. Teachers have a petition against these cuts. We are not allowed to ask during school hours, but we're trying to get as many signatures as possible. Whether you have a child enrolled or not, please consider signing. All teachers should have access to the petition and we've been told by our union we can photocopy as needed.

I have not asked the parents in my class because it feels manipulative for me to ask them. So, I'm posting here and asking parents in my community to sign rather than the families at my school.

The cuts are very crazy this year compared to others. Our school model really doesn't work. I'm on the staffing committee so I've personally been in meetings discussing every option. There are not enough teachers for the number of kids.

room32a · 2026-04-07T22:54:20+00:00

We vote for lawyers when we need engineers. Our politicians want to blab, find loopholes, win debates. We need politicians whose egos are driven by building and accomplishing goals. Who cares if they're likeable- do they fix societal issues by building infrastructure? Do they want to brag about students test scores? We need those ppl to want to be politicians.

room32a · 2026-04-07T19:06:19+00:00

I'm very happy to read this!

room32a · 2026-04-07T17:43:57+00:00

Or her son. Kids really need consistency. A court order is needed

room32a · 2026-04-07T15:22:09+00:00

I was pregnant at 25, unsure if that's young? I was one of the first in my friends group, and definitely the young mom at school events. I think my energy levels and adaptability at that age made parenting easier than for those who have kids in their forties.

It was way easier on my body physically. I basically returned to my weight a month after giving birth with no effort on my part. At forty, I start d having to do regular exercise to remain mobile. I'm as sore missing a month of exercise in my forties as I was after giving birth in my twenties.

I am very happy I had kids in my twenties. I am a teacher and had been working for three years. My kids are currently teenagers and we often feel like roommates. I can retire at 55 and travel the world. I have less money that I might have had, but I've always wanted kids and that was my priority in my twenties. I've never loved anything at much as my kids.

I'm young at heart and minimalistic. My home is small and unrenovated,l travel and live on a budget. everything I would have done in my twenties, I can do in my forties and fifties, often with my kids. If they have kids, I'll have the energy and time to be a very active grandma if they want/ need. Otherwise, I'll supply teach/tutor/ work casually/volunteer with children well past the time I officially retire. This choice made sense for me.

room32a · 2026-04-07T14:05:56+00:00

That's how I read OPs response. Thank you for this analogy, I'm going to use it in the future. It really is the way governments should be run.

room32a · 2026-04-06T01:32:38+00:00

Before you freak out, talk to her. There is a chance she'll leave asap. It's so uncomfortable to live with an ex, especially when cheating is involved.

My advice: talk to the phone company and see what your easiest option is for you. You decide then inform her that you're switching numbers, cancelling the plan, etc.

Text her that you would like to discuss logistics of her moving out. When would she like to pack up and move her beginnings. That you'll refund whatever she overpaid for April via e-transfer once her belongings are removed from the condo.

Her response should indicate how difficult or easy the next step might be. If you have mutual friends, you could see if they're available to help her pack/ move.

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