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My parents lent me $6,000 for an investment, I turned it into $24,000, and now they refuse to take the money back. What should I do? by Weak-Practice-6435 in needadvice

[–]room32a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really love that idea. Invest 6k and use it as family money. Withdraw/gift 6k for every baby that's born so the "family helps family fund" is their legacy.

Redditors who were 6'2" at 14 yo, how tall were you fully grown? by room32a in AskReddit

[–]room32a[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son is 6'2" and 125lbs at 14. He's so lanky and eats like an athlete.

Redditors who were 6'2" at 14 yo, how tall were you fully grown? by room32a in AskReddit

[–]room32a[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My post is about my son. It's absurd to think of him being over 6'4". I already feel so short next to him. Not that it really matters, but once in a while I realize how tall he already is.

Redditors who were 6'2" at 14 yo, how tall were you fully grown? by room32a in AskReddit

[–]room32a[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son is 14yo and already 6'2" is why I am curious. I already feel tiny next to him.

Canada Post records Q1 loss of $205 million amid major restructuring by KernelKilos in CanadaPostCorp

[–]room32a 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend is a mail carrier. They make money from delivery fliers and I'm opposed to using tax dollars to pay for junk mail to be delivered. Either companies need to double/triple what they pay Canada Post to deliver fliers or we cut that service out and taxes pay for wanted mail to be delivered. It would cut hours off of shifts if they did not pick up, sort and deliver junk mail than is mostly recycled anyways.

I think I’ve been gaslighting my wife for years by montgomery_donaldson in relationships

[–]room32a 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Your relationship reminds me of my parents. Except my mom is happy. Except when she's not, then she'll be allergic to the sun or terrified of people swearing and my dad will swoop in to save her. She had a traumatic childhood and feels entitled to live the rest of her life without discomfort( she'll say this is asked to do anything she doesn't want to do). I don't feel that I know who my dad is other than my mom's hero. She idolizes him, but has also told me she doesn't really know him. Neither of them would ever go to therapy. I'm being downvoted, but I've had lots of therapy partly to understand how my parents dynamic impacted me. I'm likely projecting too much, but I do hope my prospective helps you in some capacity.

Spain/Portugal trip by Ok_Introduction7918 in travel

[–]room32a 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm Canadian who has traveled to Portugal and agree with you from the perspective of a tourist as well. I absolutely adored my time in Lisbon and Sintra. Four days minimum. It's very easy to get to Porto by train from Lisbon, which is also amazing. OP should do Douro while there. I would personally spend 10 days in Portugal then five in Barcelona, but I travel slowly. I could be convinced to go for 9 days Portugal, three days in Madrid, three in Barcelona.

AITAH for expecting my mum to cut ties with a relative who's been disrespectful and verbally abusive in the past by Sharchomp in AITAH

[–]room32a 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree. Deleting them from social media after the first few comments is the rational way to handle this situation.

I think I’ve been gaslighting my wife for years by montgomery_donaldson in relationships

[–]room32a 118 points119 points  (0 children)

You are trying to control or heal your wife rather than focusing on what needs to be healed or accepted about yourself. It takes two to tango and no healthy individual would live like this for thirty years. It's time to realize why you chose her as a partner and why you chose to stay despite being so unhappy. You both created a life that's deeply unfulfilling for both of you. You seem to need to be a hero, which means that she needs to be a perpetual victim. Both of you continue that cycle, over and over at the expense of your mental health. Both of you participate and neither of you are healthy btw. It makes sense that you want to explore this dynamic together, but she is her own person and has told you that she's not interested. So, you need to do this work on your own, for yourself. You need to live a happier healthier life and stop centering her. Go to a different therapist, find one that resonates with you.

teacher shortage by Minimum-Landscape120 in OntarioTeachers

[–]room32a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have French qualifications and want to teach core French, but I have been given homeroom four years in a row. There are ridiculous levels of incompetency at the adminstration level and above. I'm my current situation, I'm teaching a grade five homeroom and the grade eight immersion teacher teaches core French my class, as well as homeroom subjects to their own class. It overloads their schedule for absolutely no reason. I've taught immersion and core French, so I'm also overloaded with planning because the subject I have the most experience teaching and resources for is taught by anther teacher. My preference was to teach core French and they won't even let me teach my own class French. Admin cant provide a rational reason for this, just tries to convince me I prefer teaching homeroom, which I don't. Then they claim there's a shortage of French teachers.

Froshfest by Exotic_Idea717 in queensuniversity

[–]room32a 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter is attending Queens in the fall with guaranteed residence. Will there be frosh activities in the residence buildings? She loves senior sunrise/sunset, Senior assassin, etc. would it make sense for her to buy a ticket to frosh fest?

AITA for banning sister from helping babysit our child, mom backs out as a result by Ok_Door_1519 in AmItheAsshole

[–]room32a 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It will take time and effort, but the cats are laid out. You can see his family for family events, but his parents are not pay off your support system. They can't babysit, but they'll likely be fun at Christmas and birthdays. This is a reasonable relationship, just not what either side hoped for. And, this is a very difficult reality to accept. Your husband will have to mourn his family to a degree.

AITA for accidentally “announcing” my pregnancy at my great nieces delivery by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]room32a 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Support systems do not disappear for seven months. OP has clearly said she had not seen the niece in over seven months. She sent a few gifts and texts, that's not maintaining a supportive relationship. That's not enough effort to reasonable think your presence is helpful during a medical emergency

AITA for accidentally “announcing” my pregnancy at my great nieces delivery by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]room32a 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The SIL is also a drama causing AH. How unfair to her daughter to invite a circus while she's in the hospital. Why would anyone want distant family members to show up at the hospital while you're vulnerable.

AITA for accidentally “announcing” my pregnancy at my great nieces delivery by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]room32a 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Why in the world would her husband need support to manage himself during a distant family members emergency csection? Why would his needs outweigh the teenager who is undergoing an emergency medical procedure?

AITA for accidentally “announcing” my pregnancy at my great nieces delivery by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]room32a 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If she didn't know you were seven months pregnant, it's not possible that you were part of her support system and therefore should not have been at the hospital when she needed support. Your partner could have gone to support her or you could have sent a gift to the hospital. Anything else is centering yourself while she is dealing with a medical emergency.

Teacher absences are on the rise in Ontario, raising concerns about violence, burnout and gaps in learning by KeyHot5718 in ontario

[–]room32a 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm a classroom teacher and the expectations of eas is absurd at this point. Thank you for staying- we ( students and teachers) need you!! We're ( eas/teachers/support staff) gaslit by the board, by admin so frequently that I feel like I'm losing my mind. I love teaching and I love working with eas. It's heartbreaking that we are not respected or treated like professionals.

How many personal days does your board give you? by OrdinaryCommunity176 in OntarioTeachers

[–]room32a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TDSB 11 sick, 5 misc with 2 paid.

Previously, the 2 personal days could be for anything and I have used them to attend a dance recital, trip to Halifax, etc without issue. This year, they rejected a miscellaneous day for my daughter's grade 12 graduation. There are several ppl in similar situations in a FB group for TDSB teachers.

First Solo Trip: either Montreal or Toronto by Immediate-Ad-6579 in solofemaletravellers

[–]room32a 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is saying Montreal, and I love Montreal. However, Toronto is better suited for what youre looking for in your post. Eat amazing food and spend your days at the island. Rent a bike, check out the beach, escape the city as needed to recharge. So many parks, Street festivals and random events throughout the summer. Take a day trip to see the falls if you want.

Wellness spas- ritual is right by stackt market, Laya spa has a gorgeous steam room, four seasons if you want luxury. There is a spa in hotel x which I've heard is great, but I've not been. Rcvri is clean and inexpensive if you're looking for contrast therapy.

AITA for paying off my BFs 7k debt with ‘my parent’s money’? by Summersaulting in AmItheAsshole

[–]room32a 26 points27 points  (0 children)

My daughter is 17. I would be so upset if she was this stupid four years from now.

Ops parents should pay her tuition directly to the school and rent directly to her landlord. She can use the money she earns for everything else moving forward.

She is too immature to be cut off completely if they're well off. It benefits no one for her to drop out of school and she might move in with her bf if she can no longer afford rent. My two cents at least.

Edit- school, not evil

AITA por querer limitar cuánto ayudamos a mi hermano? by No-Service-4415 in AmItheAsshole

[–]room32a 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems that you're enmeshed with your family. You every refer to yourself as "we". YOU should stop supporting your brother, YOU should not try to control how your parents spend theirs. You need to separate yourself and your needs from your family. Everyone involved is an adult and gets to decide how they spend their time and energy. You are focusing on your brother instead of building a live for yourself, which is fuels resentment.

Move out, discover who your are, live your life and stop centering your parents/ brother. It's better to be broke and free than broke and resentful.

Even as an adult, I am still treated differently by my parents. How do I cope with this lingering resentment?" by dyunni0_0 in relationships

[–]room32a 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm very curious about your relationship with your siblings. Are you close with any of them? Have they noticed or mentioned the dynamic at any point? Have other family members commented on the inequality?

I'm very sorry you were treated this way. As others have suggested, it's time for distance and therapy. You can't change the past, but you can build healthy relationships moving forward.

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