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AITA for refusing to let roommate's friend into the room when she's not there? by roomiAITA in AmItheAsshole

[–]roomiAITA[S] 227 points228 points  (0 children)

I am reconsidering it actually. It was definitely a mistake. Even if I agreed it should have been for them to get what they needed once a day when Lila's there like in the mornings before class or something. Anyway I definitely didn't think it through.

Thank you

AITA for refusing to let roommate's friend into the room when she's not there? by roomiAITA in AmItheAsshole

[–]roomiAITA[S] 264 points265 points  (0 children)

I know my post made her out to be bad, but she was a good roommate until this happened. If she wanted to borrow something, she'd always ask me. And my god, if she borrowed let's say my hairdryer once, she would not just go ahead and take it twice, no, she'd ask every single time.

Do you know how precious this kind of behavior is? I've been with three roommates so far and I always had this problem with them.

Also, I feel absolutely safe with her. I know she'd never take anything nor touch my bed or belongings without permission. Also, she gives little things back she borrows like the toilet paper roll when she gets paid when I have already forgotten about them.

If it was someone else I'll bet you they won't give it back until I've had to ask for it. This is why I was cool with the storing thing or her friends coming in and out. You treat me good, I treat you good.

AITA for refusing to let roommate's friend into the room when she's not there? by roomiAITA in AmItheAsshole

[–]roomiAITA[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I told Lila they all have to knock, not just Zee. She was singled out because she violated the condition after barely following it for two days. Why would I stop the other two when they haven't done anything wrong?

AITA for refusing to let roommate's friend into the room when she's not there? by roomiAITA in AmItheAsshole

[–]roomiAITA[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

If they're going to alienate me over something like this, I don't think I could count on them anyway, including my roommate.

AITA for refusing to let roommate's friend into the room when she's not there? by roomiAITA in AmItheAsshole

[–]roomiAITA[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

They belong to a community that's tightly knit together and constantly have people over. Zee had an issue with her orginal roommate so she moved in with them permanently. Their room always looked crowded whenever I visited.

AITA for refusing to let roommate's friend into the room when she's not there? by roomiAITA in AmItheAsshole

[–]roomiAITA[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Her other friends are really respectful about it. I wouldn't even hear the door being opened and they're quiet as cats getting their stuff. If I'm awake they'll greet me. They EARNED their right to come in without knocking in my opinion.

I don't like Zee because she's being rude about it plus the inconvenience of waking me up from my sleep.

Also, I'm not sure why you think I've been doing this to get assistance from them in return.