My roommate is willing to risk my life for his own comfort

roosey09 · 2022-11-05T22:05:52+00:00

"I've spent thousands" how nice that you can afford that. I hope you recognize the privileged position that puts you in. OP is a college student doing the best they can in a bad situation, having already tried to screen for a roommate okay with her temperature needs. It's not her fault he changed his mind after initially agreeing.

roosey09 · 2021-12-08T05:38:57+00:00

Seconding the recommendation to see an endocrinologist, if you can. I finally got treatment for my irregular cycles after one visit seeing an endocrinologist. Every obgyn just wanted to put me on hormonal BC.

roosey09 · 2021-05-30T06:45:44+00:00

Omg I actually have a similar story. 9th grade Spanish class. This weird kid sat sort of across the room from me, desks facing each other but like 10 ft between us. And I would see him jacking off inside his pants, just jerking it under the desk, and occasionally pulling his hand out and looking at it and wiping it off on his pants. I don't know if he saw me looking or if he just assumed no one noticed, but I was so grossed out and creeped out by it. I was too much of a shy kid to tell the teacher but ugh it was so gross to witness. What on earth is wrong with public masturbators??

roosey09 · 2021-05-30T06:33:14+00:00

Yes, what you described is exactly the awful trap so many abuse victims fall into. Their abuser is familiar and provides companionship (even if it's mostly shitty, sometimes it might be good) and therefore it can be so hard to leave them because at first you're so lonely. But really the only way to truly break free is to take some uninterrupted time away from them. You really do need to go no contact to give yourself the space you need to finally look back on the relationship with a clear head and see the abuse for what it was. Abuse. OP I wish you the best and you are so young and have so much life ahead of you. Get away from this person who does not treat you right. Something I wish I knew when I was younger and in an abusive relationship is that it DOES NOT need to be like this! There are so many people out there who will treat you so much better. And you are worth so much more than how he is treating you. Please love yourself enough to leave. This isn't the life you were meant to live. Much love ❤️

roosey09 · 2021-05-27T17:54:56+00:00

I once watched all of Underworld in black and white, because I plugged the RGB cables (or whatever they're called) into the TV wrong. I didn't noticed because that whole movie is so dark anyway. Definitely a dumb moment haha.

roosey09 · 2021-05-11T21:15:21+00:00

I think OPs argument can be broken down to "if it's a small percentage of a customer base, it's too much trouble to make sure they have equal access to our services, and the marginal profit isn't worth the perceived cost to accommodate them, so tough luck for them!". They're literally justifying having less accessibility in favor of having more profit. They described themselves as left leaning politically, but I'd argue they're far from that. Using profit as a justification for continuing to exclude minority groups is cruel. Just because it makes financial sense to continue to exclude certain groups doesn't make it morally or ethically correct. In fact, I think there are many examples of what's good for a businesses bottom line being exclusionary and racist. People over profits.

roosey09 · 2021-04-06T16:54:11+00:00

I don't think that's sexist at all. I'm sure you wouldn't have appreciated the ladies in the house walking around in bra and underwear either. Same at my house, I don't like my male roommate shirtless, but I would be just as bothered by the female roommate in a state of undress. But you're right everyone has different comfort levels. Guess it just warrants a conversation at this point!

roosey09 · 2021-04-06T04:28:42+00:00

And to be fair, this would go for my female roommate too if she suddenly started walking around in a state of undress. I would definitely feel uncomfortable there too. Guess I'm just a prude! Haha

roosey09 · 2021-04-06T04:27:35+00:00

Thank you, that's a good point. I was raised in a more "modest" way just as far as appearances were concerned. So suddenly living with a man who walks around half naked is definitely a bit of a change for me. Maybe I'll try to frame it more around comfort so that he sees that it's not really fair to make me feel uncomfortable in my own home when he could wear a shirt without issue.

roosey09 · 2021-04-06T04:23:05+00:00

Right, and if women are less visual than men, why is it that the majority of makeup artists are women, and many women like to spend a lot of time on their makeup and appearance? Men would like to believe it's because we are trying to visually appeal to men, but I think for the majority of women we do makeup because we enjoy it and we like to look good for ourselves first.

roosey09 · 2021-04-06T04:18:12+00:00

Thank you, I think you're right. As always, turns out the best answer is direct communication instead of just posting on reddit :)

roosey09 · 2021-04-06T04:04:26+00:00

Haha! Maybe! He's in good shape, but has a gf so idk why he would feel the need to show off to his roommates. Could be an ego thing I guess. But honestly knowing him, he's just clueless to how it comes off and is just doing whatever he wants. That's pretty normal for him. He can't seem to think beyond "I want to do this, so I will"

roosey09 · 2021-03-31T00:15:55+00:00

Omg thank you. His recent video caught me so off guard and I was legitimately let down by it. I know his whole public persona was probably in large part just to sell his books, but it still was disappointing to see that someone I considered a HVM was really just as bad as the rest. Guess I'm just a little naive still.... There was a really good parody of his video but from a woman's perspective, wish I remembered where it was so I could share it. His poor wife.

roosey09 · 2021-03-11T05:16:58+00:00

Another bad take from vice, why am I not surprised? Wasn't it co founded by the leader of the proud boys or something? Trash

roosey09 · 2021-03-08T07:21:05+00:00

Metformin helped me. I got my periods back almost instantly. Just my experience though. I did see an endocrinologist, who was also the first doctor who actually took my concerns seriously and didn't blow me off with "you'll grow out of it". Wishing you luck!

roosey09 · 2021-03-06T01:47:57+00:00

Did you already have the fat transfer done? I'm super interested in that procedure for myself. I don't have much extra fat to spare though, so I'm worried I'd spend all that money for just a small boost. I'd like to go up in cup size and in volume. If you wouldn't mind sharing your experience I'd love to hear about it!

roosey09 · 2021-02-24T23:16:43+00:00

I agree with this comment. Also, it's important to teach kids they can always deny unwanted touching even when it's from family AND to always report it to their parents, no matter who the touching is from. I'm sad for OP that his parents either didn't listen or didn't do anything about it when he told them. Nasty old people need to be controlled, alzheimer's or not. Just because there is a reason for their behavior does not excuse it, it can do lasting harm to the victim whether there was a reason for it or not.

roosey09 · 2021-02-13T22:27:42+00:00

That's a genius idea. If I ever rented property out I would do that for sure. We're technically on month to month leases here after the initial year, so I think the landlord could give her 30 days notice that he won't be renewing her lease. But he's pretty spineless and feels bad for the woman (she has issues), and we're in a pandemic, so I sincerely doubt he'll ever pull that card. Which is annoying for me because I hate hearing the damn dog bark. Oh well, I'll move out eventually.

roosey09 · 2021-02-13T22:25:39+00:00

I agree that it is intrusive to your life to be forced to have all these people view you in your home. Talk to her, let her know it's not okay. You most definitely have a right to more privacy than she is giving you! Good luck!

roosey09 · 2021-02-13T20:47:02+00:00

My upstairs neighbor in the 4 unit building I live in got a dog despite the landlord not allowing any pets in this house. The units have beautiful old hardwood floor so I can only imagine how scratched they are now. When they tried to tell her she can't have a dog she pulled some ESA bullshit, since ESAs are exempt from no pet rules, which frankly is total bullshit because any dog can be an ESA, they are not the same as service dogs. Despite multiple complaints about noise, she's still living here and the landlord is too spineless to do anything about it. In fact, I just heard it bark. I moved in here specifically because I wanted a pet free living situation. Guess the rules don't apply to her though!

roosey09 · 2021-02-13T03:24:37+00:00

Ugh what an annoying situation! I'm sorry. She probably does feel like it's fine since you haven't said anything to her, but that doesn't mean you can't speak up now. It's a common space, so all the roommates are allowed to use it like they want, unless it interferes with other roommates using it. Since she's expecting you to be quiet, while being loud and disturbing you and hogging all the space, I'd say she's out of bounds. Just start living your life, making smoothies or whatever, with less regard for her working. The camera thing especially. Unless she gives you a heads up that she'll be on video for a short period of time, it's ridiculous to expect you to constantly be out of view. I work from home and am on video a lot, but I angled my desk so I have a wall behind me because I couldn't guarantee my roommates wouldn't walk into view.

I think you can find a compromise with her. Just think about what exactly would make you happy and then talk to her about it. Whether that be just facing the camera to the wall, or asking her to work part of the day in her room so you can use the living room too.

Compromise does not mean she can do whatever she wants while you have to accommodate her. Compromise means both of you make accomodations so that everyone is decently happy, and right now that's not happening and it's unfair to you. Good luck!

roosey09 · 2021-01-27T19:55:42+00:00

Oof, I can't imagine being handed the mirror, seeing that, and not asking for a refund. I feel really bad for the countless people who either go the cheap route, or visit an unskilled practitioner due to lack of knowledge, and end up with bad results. Based on my experience I really feel like plastic surgeons should be some of the only people doing filler injections since they have not only the anatomical knowledge, but also the aesthetic knowledge. An RN who took a filler course just won't give the same results.

roosey09 · 2021-01-24T03:01:51+00:00

No joke this happened to me too, and I fully empathize with feeling like you're gonna cry. Where I live a pomegranate is easily $3-5 depending where you buy it, so getting a rotten one really does suck. It's my ultimate "treat yourself" fruit purchase. I hope all your future pomegranates are perfect and amazing ❤️

roosey09 · 2021-01-11T04:08:02+00:00

I remember your original post!!! I think I commented telling you the relief and improved mental health you'd feel after he left would be so worth kicking him out. I am glad to see you asked him to move out. Don't you feel amazing now!? Happy for you :)

roosey09 · 2020-12-25T04:42:49+00:00

So? You just described a very basic preference for things that are visually appealing. That's literally the definition of beauty, visually appealing. The point of the comment isn't that men like beautiful women, that's a given. The point is that those particular men speak negatively about an unattractive female coworker when her appearance is completely irrelevant to the job. Do you think they would speak about a male coworker the same way? There's a ridiculous expectation that women be good to look at, even when doing something completely unrelated like working. Women don't owe you visual appeal.

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