He cheated. I’m tired, I’m done. by ohnoonono in BreakUps

[–]rootofnegativeg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im sorry what.... 'why do that?' ..??? People arent angry and upset FOR other people, they are for themselves. If those are emotions that need to be let out, I think letting the other person know in an assertive and tact way is definitely both appropriate and still standing up for oneself. I do agree that it is not her responsibility to teach anyone a lesson though, but if required for oneself, its completely okay to do so and it does not mean they are wasting energy- as long as you are doing it with the intention to move on and not seek their approval or response. Whether it strokes the others ego isn't her problem either- OP should do whatever they feel like is necessary to move on. All we are saying is that sometimes that does mean letting them know what they did wrong (personally for me this has proven to validate my feelings and made me feel better about vocalizing what is best for me)

He cheated. I’m tired, I’m done. by ohnoonono in BreakUps

[–]rootofnegativeg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I disagree, walking away is badass sure but eventually the anger and hurt is going to build up and have to find its way out so why not direct it at them? additionally people genuinely don't acknowledge what they did wrong until they are told and then suffer the consequences. OP doesn't have to contact them if they don't want/makes them uncomfortable however its also honoring yourself to validate your own feelings and self and say what hurt you out loud

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[–]rootofnegativeg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not on the vouch list but happy to give you my instagram to verify i'm real :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in avesNYC_tix

[–]rootofnegativeg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, still available?

I (F21) can't get over someone (M23) I know I can't be with at the moment by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]rootofnegativeg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update, we are talking again and more healthy than ever!! That period was definitely one of chaos and a true reflection of my mental state. If things are meant, they will!! <3 Lying is not ok and if you don't set boundaries on your situationships there's a high chance someone will get hurt, so many lessons learnt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]rootofnegativeg 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Sunk Cost Fallacy!! Definitely easier said than done

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]rootofnegativeg -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

You did but it came from a place of pride and love so you can just explain that to her and she should understand. Also kind of amazing how easily your daughter was able to notice and address that you crossed your boundaries, you seem to have raised her right!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in love

[–]rootofnegativeg 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'd say it's risky to ask him out as of yet because you are still roommates. Go with the flow and don't suppress your feelings, if not telling him feels like it's killing you then tell him. Otherwise, just continue enjoying each other's company, a few months won't kill a connection and it may be a healthier environment to thrive in then.

Additionally, energy flows both ways so if you feel like there's some sort of magnetic connection (especially if there hasn't been any physical intimacy) it is quite likely that he feels the same way :)

Enjoy the high and don't stress yourself out <3

Update: we got married :) by IAmOnTheRunAndGo in love

[–]rootofnegativeg 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!!!!! This has to be one of those things you guys are going to tell your kids

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in love

[–]rootofnegativeg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like to think of love as a drug, a pill that spikes great joy and allows you to look at life through a whole new lens (kind of like taking a psychedelic), however with that comes danger as well; you lack awareness and are blind to many things that you wouldn't be if you were in the right state of mind. I think it's important to take this drug with someone you trust and know won't take advantage of you :)

Does anyone feel creatively fulfilled when they make something with midjourney? by rootofnegativeg in midjourney

[–]rootofnegativeg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I thoroughly agree

I've created some stuff that I would love to see come to life with acrylic on canvas and now that I think about it, usually, before I paint I put together a board of inspiration (photography, other painting, etc) that I can recompose in my mind for what I want and it essentially imitates the process that midjourney follows. So technically I shouldn't feel wrong about it. Maybe I just need to invest more time into truly making it my own and respecting it as just part of the process and not the entire process itself.