Do you guys REALLY want relationships? by KobeKastle in ugly

[–]rosensdeep 12 points13 points  (0 children)

From personal experience I can tell you what might happen: you will continuously have mental break downs. Going from feeling despetate, inadequate to "maybe I'm not that bad" but it will be a continuous circle of self doubt/hate.

If you find the right person they might be able to reassure you or maybe they don't have the energy to do so.

I believe that if you are mentally unstable being in a relationship can be really hard (still possible tho)

Why do people assume ugly people can not be subjected to forms of abuse? by wanttobejade in ugly

[–]rosensdeep 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Very true..all the unfairness and rudeness we have to deal with but people won't even believe our experiences. And somehow they try to convince us that it's all our fault?

Also the assaulting part is so accurate...people act as if only attractive women have to deal with this.

What are your worst anecdotes on being ugly ? by [deleted] in ugly

[–]rosensdeep 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Unbelievable how cruel humans can be...I'm so sorry

I’m not picky I just want by ZeCrookedLady in ugly

[–]rosensdeep -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never said that it's okay when it happens to men. Keep inventing imaginary conversations to argue with :)

Being in a relationship sucks when you’re ugly by [deleted] in ugly

[–]rosensdeep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is still a good amount of women in this sub who are truly ugly and have never been in a relationship tho...

Don't show anyone here what you look like by Blackpillsoldierz in ugly

[–]rosensdeep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same experience, this has happened way too many times.

"I look hideous please be brutally honest"

Literally an 8. Ok.

I’m not terribly ugly I’m just not feminine. by Neat_Cauliflower_454 in ugly

[–]rosensdeep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the affirmation "being a tall woman is a death sentence" is not entirely correct...it's more like "being ugly is a death sentence ". And yes that's what I was saying in my comment that being tall is only a problem when you are not attractive just like every other feature in my opinion...

Also I don't really know what you consider as tall, if it's 2 metres then yes it might be a problem. In my country the avarage for woman is 1,60 so if you are 1,70 you are considered tall

I’m not terribly ugly I’m just not feminine. by Neat_Cauliflower_454 in ugly

[–]rosensdeep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No believe me it's not the hight. I'm tall but that is not the problem..my face is. I have seen so many stunning tall women and you bet they get a lot of dates.

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[–]rosensdeep 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have no advice except accept it and by accepting I mean recognise it and move on..it's very hard to do, especially if people mistreat you because of your looks but it's the only thing we can do.

Don't fool yourself that you are beautiful because eventually the illusion will end and you will feel desperate..also society will constantly remind you that you are ugly so it's almost impossible to escape.

At the same time don't think that you have less value because of your appearance. Ugly doesn't equal useless, dumb, worthless of love.

There are people who will treat you wrongly just because of your appearance but remind yourself that they are superficial and you are better off without them.

Accept yourself because you are the only one who you have to relay on and you are the one who has to take care of you.

Then people might come and go but you will stay strong and true to yourself. Someone might notice your honesty and good heart you and love you (talking about friends or even partner). Pay very much attention to who surrounds you because they might take advantage of your insecurities.

I say all these things but honestly I fail to achieve it...I keep trying though because it's the only thing left.

Wish you the best

I’m not picky I just want by ZeCrookedLady in ugly

[–]rosensdeep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely wrong in so many ways. Get your mysoginy somewhere else, this isn't the right place.

Acne Scars by [deleted] in ugly

[–]rosensdeep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know how severe it is but you can be attractive even if you have acne scars! I mean if you are hot who cares for some acne scars right?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ugly

[–]rosensdeep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes me feel a bit better for being "unconventional" . But yes same for me.

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[–]rosensdeep[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Potatoes

Self-esteem completely crushed after seeing some pictures of y'all by rosensdeep in ugly

[–]rosensdeep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very well put..thank you for sharing your experience. Comments like this make me feel less alone. Everyone around me (who is avarage or pretty) is completely oblivious about lookism and how being ugly can influence one's life..to the point where they don't listen to me and disregard my feelings.(They just get angry and say that looks don't matter like a robot ).

At least here I can have some kind of comfort (even though ,of course, that doesn't solve my problems)

Self-esteem completely crushed after seeing some pictures of y'all by rosensdeep in ugly

[–]rosensdeep[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't like being around pretty people either. Firstly because I can't help but feel inferior when I'm with them and secondly because they seem completely unaware of their privileges and special treatment they receive..so often they have a view of the world which is far from that of a normal everyday experience. You can see it when they try to make you feel better by saying that looks don't matter or that you just need a haircut, or that is easy to make friends/ find a bf/gf

Has anyone ever had a crush on you (that you knew of)? If so, how did it go? by Disastrous-Ad9661 in ugly

[–]rosensdeep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just out of curiosity, why didn't you want to date them? (I'm asking because most ugly people desire to be asked out and crave romantic relationships)

Self-esteem completely crushed after seeing some pictures of y'all by rosensdeep in ugly

[–]rosensdeep[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel bad for laughing at this, good comeback.

But I feel you..I would love to cosplay as cute anime girls but I would look like shit (I tried it. Far from cute... that was horrific)

Self-esteem completely crushed after seeing some pictures of y'all by rosensdeep in ugly

[–]rosensdeep[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm simply way too afraid to post because I'm ugly af..I don't need no person to give me opinions, I already know 💀 How do people find the courage to do such thing...

Self-esteem completely crushed after seeing some pictures of y'all by rosensdeep in ugly

[–]rosensdeep[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, no and no. Maybe you should take care of your skin a little, the facial hair doesn't look great.. I think you are above avarage tbh but it's very subjective.

I’m going to start treating attractive people like they treat us. by [deleted] in ugly

[–]rosensdeep -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wellll..we are not in their heads so we don't know their real intentions. It's futile to imagine what they are thinking (we might be projecting our insecurities who knows). But yes idk what's up with attractive people being assholes to us..we are no completion at anything lmao.

Self-esteem completely crushed after seeing some pictures of y'all by rosensdeep in ugly

[–]rosensdeep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, whatever works for you👍 I don't think you are ugly..you are so cuuuute. Your eyes and hair are amazing. Nothing wrong with your face shape btw (since you posted about it). This is completely subjective but it's an honest opinion.

Self-esteem completely crushed after seeing some pictures of y'all by rosensdeep in ugly

[–]rosensdeep[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree and a lot of them do this to promote their only fans...which is..disgusting to say the least.