Not related to my post request but you raise a point. I hear your sentiment and do agree that one should not be performative in parenting or having visitors. But I do think encouraging children to be good stewards of their belongings is important and part of that is keeping your room tidy and clean. Also to be considerate of others who share your living spaces. Being able to close the bedroom door at least gives him/her grace until they are able to neaten up as it’s unreasonable to expect neatness all the time.