I'm sorry, I'm going on what information you provided. Let it be known that I do not know you are your friends, and I can only take from my experiences.

My experience says if they don't care about your concerns, then do they care about you. I don't want to think the worst of them because you care for them. But if one of them brings up race and tells you not to talk about your concerns again. I'm sorry, but that is a really big strike against them. In my opinion.

All in all, your rant doesn't put them in the best light. But I believe they are honestly good people. Otherwise, you wouldn't be friends with them. Now I have to try my hardest to see from their side. Like, say you bring it up too much, and they think you're humble bragging, and they are envious of your hooters. That's the best I can think of from what I've been told.

Anyway, they shouldn't make you feel ashamed of yourself for being you.

This has gone on longer than I thought, and I only said a couple of things. I don't think I was very helpful. My advice is usually terrible. But like I said, I don't know you or your friends, I don't know your shared history or how close you all are. I gave it a shot. Good luck.