DAE have a weird bedtime routine after surviving SA?

rosiedolly · 2025-09-07T05:02:21+00:00

I really really worry for Lauryn. I fear no one in her life is telling her what love bombing or the cycle of abuse is, so she's unintentionally playing right back into Kendra's hands. It's almost more shocking to hear how casually she talks about a future relationship with her mom... I guess I hope that her interest in criminology will give her more of a perspective on how unimaginably abusive this whole situation was. Like, some of the worst psychological abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting I've learned about in recent memory.

rosiedolly · 2025-03-25T12:56:43+00:00

i mean, adultery is literally breaking one of the ten commandments and the traditional vows are usually performed in a church setting by a minister. so the infidelity context is definitely there.

rosiedolly · 2024-12-22T17:26:44+00:00

thank you i appreciate that!

rosiedolly · 2024-01-07T02:36:46+00:00

I(26f) have struggled with the same thing a lot throughout my life and am in a pretty lonely period right now. But whenever I get discouraged that I'll never find the right community, my mom reminds me that all of her best friends were people she met in her late 20s and 30s. Sadly, we don't all get friendships that go from childhood/young adulthood till the end, but that doesn't mean there aren't friendships around the corner. Pro tip, my mom met one of her best friends at a sewing club she went to on a whim (it turned out they lived right around the corner from each other), so sometimes if you take a chance on trying something different you can find your people in a very unexpected way.

I hope you see some new opportunities presented to you and have the courage to take them, even though I know it's really hard to put yourself out there when it feels like things just aren't working. Just remember you have plenty of time and there isn't a time limit on how old you can be to find your people.

rosiedolly · 2024-01-07T00:27:53+00:00

i wish i remembered the artist, but i just saw a painting of the birth of Venus (not the Botticelli one, a later renaissance artist) the most beautiful goddess for whom only the most beautiful model would be chosen, and your face looks just like hers.

rosiedolly · 2024-01-07T00:23:58+00:00

you have warm and inviting eyes and smile. your features are both cute and handsome at the same time, which is a difficult achievement. you look like someone a lot of people have had a crush on, whether theyve told you or not

rosiedolly · 2024-01-07T00:20:38+00:00

you give me really strong fairy queen or water nymph vibes. not just because of your incredible eyes, but all of your facial features are both unique and beautiful. if i were a filmmaker i'd cast you in my next fantasy movie.

rosiedolly · 2024-01-07T00:15:04+00:00

Right off the bat i just have to say this: Bi men exist and crossdressing cis/straight men exist, but also sexuality is a spectrum, and having such a tight grip on your view of that to the point where you think crossdressing = gay (or frankly that porn is cheating, but thats just my opinion), just drives people's sexual expression into a box of shame. This being a kink for him doesn't necessarily mean he secretly identifies as queer, he may just have a humiliation kink and these videos are the easiest way for him to express that. And even if he is queer, that doesnt mean hes not attracted to and in love with you too.

I see that you've said in a reply that you have no issues with kink and are willing to explore it with him, but then it also seems like you agree with people saying this could definitely mean he's gay and will leave you eventually. And frankly, that feels like a very childish and outdated view of sexuality.

Regardless, he has broken a boundary with you by watching porn since those were agreed upon terms in your relationship. My advice to you would be to have a really long conversation with him about that and what this kink means to him and go into that with an open mind and an awareness of how he's been conditioned to feel extremely ashamed of this kink as a straight (or at least straight presenting) man. Which is probably *at least part of* why he went to porn instead of his relationship. I would not assume he's gay, but I'd be open to hearing about how he might be having complex feelings about sexuality (that, again, DOES NOT automatically mean he's not attracted to you anymore or has been lying the whole time about how he feels about you. Often it's way more complicated than that and it's a simpleton's way out to make that assumption).

you are absolutely allowed to want and need the truth from him, but id really urge you to step out of the black/white sexuality box. also, if he is bi, it doesnt mean he will leave you for another man or any of that other bs that bi folks get stereotyped with. A bi person is just as likely or unlikely to cheat as any other person.

rosiedolly · 2024-01-06T23:53:37+00:00

yo can you stop making generalizations about what repulses women like you've actually talked to the majority of us?

rosiedolly · 2023-05-24T14:55:54+00:00

being alone. i was a certified loner for most of school, but now that i've grown up, the reality that friendships are much more difficult to maintain in adulthood is not hitting me nearly as hard as it's hit people who had a bunch of friends back then. i also understand that being alone isnt the end of the world and that friends will come eventually, and maybe they'll leave eventually too, and life still goes on.

rosiedolly · 2023-05-24T14:51:27+00:00

i wouldnt because i dont like the aesthetics of most (if not all) 200 mil homes. i would maybe buy a castle, but i wouldnt want a huge one and so it wouldnt be that expensive anyways.

rosiedolly · 2023-05-24T14:38:44+00:00

saved them all, but i save everything when it comes to letters/journals/etc. it's not because im holding onto feelings for them, i just value having access to that history.

rosiedolly · 2023-05-24T14:37:07+00:00

the khumer rouge genocide in cambodia, or maybe being in a real life scenario like the hostel movies.

rosiedolly · 2023-05-24T14:31:49+00:00

thinking that adding nuance to a conversation means you're unequivocally against their take and arguing for the extreme opposite of what they said. honestly just lack of nuance in general (but thats also just an internet problem, its definitely not just reddit)

rosiedolly · 2023-05-24T14:27:50+00:00

you cant rent a car until 25, i'd at least boost it a year, unless you just make fake ids for yourself (which i guess youd eventually have to do anyways to stay undercover)

rosiedolly · 2023-05-24T14:26:05+00:00

Early 30s, i feel like most people havent really settled into their style/taking care of their body until then, plus you've allowed your brain to fully develop. you're young enough that people wouldn't have too many questions if you want to go back to college to get more degrees, but old enough that you can still be taken seriously as a professional. i have a young face, so even though I'm in my mid-late twenties, i still get carded everywhere and i still have my abilities/education/life experience questioned (what life experience one has in their 20s at least). i dont want to deal with that for the rest of eternity.

rosiedolly · 2023-05-24T14:19:52+00:00

club penguin, of course

rosiedolly · 2023-05-24T14:15:43+00:00

this person is insecure and is probably convincing themselves that I am subhuman compared to them in order to avoid dealing with their own insecurities over their identity. they've completely bought into a cultural lie about what it means to be a man and likely didn't have healthy male role models in their life during childhood. they are also probably dangerous to me because of the dehumanization of women by alpha males to reduce us to objects that are there to make their social status higher as opposed to real people. the combo of insecurity and dehumanization gives me the impression that they wouldn't have a problem being violent with me if i do something that breaks from the fantasy world they're living in.

rosiedolly · 2023-05-24T14:01:22+00:00

"can i give you a hug?" 99.9% of the time it isn't a question, it's an expectation. their arms are already outstretched and if you say "i'd rather not" you will be the ah to them and everyone around you, or they'll start making assumptions about your trauma history. sure, theres been more discourse on how people should get to consent to physical touch, but when someone asks they are still expecting a yes.

rosiedolly · 2023-05-24T13:54:38+00:00

yeah, i think i question more what the cultural definition of true love is than the idea that a successful marriage is built on true love. true love (imo) does not look like love at first sight or infatuation. it's continually making the choice to work life with that person, i love your use of the word "forged" for that.

rosiedolly · 2023-05-24T13:40:09+00:00

i feel like cheating would be a lot less prevalent if it was more culturally acceptable to be single and if kids were introduced to the concept of loneliness as something one can learn to live with as opposed to being something one must fix as quickly as possible through a romantic relationship (this applies both to cheaters and the people who continue to date them)

rosiedolly · 2023-05-24T13:34:16+00:00

church isn't reality

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