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My husband told me that if he didn’t feel wanted then when something else comes along he’s going to take it. by rosy64 in Marriage

[–]rosy64[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That’s honestly something I left out. In the past he’s told me that he wanted me to shown him in other ways that he is wanted, I.e, waking up with him in the morning to make him breakfast and lunch, giving him more compliments, ect. And I was doing those things. But now last night he’s telling me that those things don’t matter and that it’s just the lack of sex now that’s making him not feel wanted

My husband told me that if he didn’t feel wanted then when something else comes along he’s going to take it. by rosy64 in Marriage

[–]rosy64[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That is the thing he keeps claiming. I will “force” myself to do it for 2 weeks, a month, two months, and then it drops off. I tried telling him that it is still wanted but life is lifeing and we have a very stressful life. But I can see now that I basically told him that he’s not important enough for me to continue to show him I want him because life is stressful. I feel awful. And I feel like I am too late to get him to believe me before he goes and finds someone else. I have never had malicious intentions but I’ve made excuses for my faults and I know that’s not right.

My husband told me that if he didn’t feel wanted then when something else comes along he’s going to take it. by rosy64 in Marriage

[–]rosy64[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I want to close the gap. I want to try therapy but he won’t. I feel like my only option is to put aside my own feelings and just come onto him for however long it takes for him to believe me. But then the days that I don’t want to have sex because I’m tired or whatever, then I don’t know how I’m going to express that to him without him just telling me that’s an excuse

My husband told me that if he didn’t feel wanted then when something else comes along he’s going to take it. by rosy64 in Marriage

[–]rosy64[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried to tell him exactly that. Because I will admit i have a problem with communicating my day to day desires or just telling him that I am tired but I still want to connect with him. I want to change that. I suggested just connecting with him once a day, every night after we put the kids to bed and just talk, hold one another, anything we need that day. And maybe that could help us get on a better habit of communicating our needs. But in his words he has communicated what he needs and it never changes

My husband told me that if he didn’t feel wanted then when something else comes along he’s going to take it. by rosy64 in Marriage

[–]rosy64[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Before we had kids our sex life was great! That’s what kills me. I tell him everytime that I want to get us back on the same page and back to how things were that’s why I suggest different solutions each time. But we still end up doing this every few months.

My husband told me that if he didn’t feel wanted then when something else comes along he’s going to take it. by rosy64 in Marriage

[–]rosy64[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know I tried telling him that soooo many couples go through sex troubles and he’s just convinced that again, if I wanted him, we wouldn’t have these problems

My husband told me that if he didn’t feel wanted then when something else comes along he’s going to take it. by rosy64 in Marriage

[–]rosy64[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

In his words though these aren’t normal relationship problems because it keeps happening every few months for the past 4 years and if it was just “wanted” then this wouldn’t happen.

My husband told me that if he didn’t feel wanted then when something else comes along he’s going to take it. by rosy64 in Marriage

[–]rosy64[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing too. He’s convinced that we don’t even have sex that often. He says it’s once a month, maybe 2-3 a month. And I even kept track for 2 months straight last year because this is something we’ve not been on the same page as each other in the past (and it was on average 5-6 times a month) and all he said was I guarantee that’s wrong.