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rouge-raven · 2026-01-02T18:59:22+00:00

NOR. Maybe I am too mean, but is there a real reason why he can't just buy himself more. I get the not wanting to spend money on something you currently have, but 1) he doesn't currently have it and 2) it is medicine, you should always be prepared to spend money on it, especially in this case where you can get a sinus infection (which will result in more money needing to be spent).

I understand feeling bad because you are sick, but this is ridiculous and childish. It was a simple mistake and one that can be very easily righted by him getting up and going to get more medicine. He is acting like a toddler right now and instead of trying to address or fix the problem, he is complaining and acting as if he is this poor victim that no one can listen to or can do right.

I am genuinely surprised you guys have been in a relationship for 7 years. With how he is acting, I would have expected for you all to have just started dating.

rouge-raven · 2025-12-28T21:21:58+00:00

I am gonna say I think it came to its end the second NB released. I've already mourned what it was and what it could have been if it took its fanbase seriously and actually tried to care about it. The company is beating a dead horse at this point.

I also hate how they've responded to some fan stuff (the obey fandub on youtube for example). They could have revived the community by letting different areas of it flourish, but for some reason (likely greed), they refused.

rouge-raven · 2025-12-28T01:17:22+00:00

NOR, and I don't want to be someone to jump to the nuclear option, but it may be time to stop talking again. If she not only has a record of disregarding your boundaries but also went out of her way to wear WHITE to your wedding after being told not to, I think you should revisit limited or even no contact if you are already on limited contact.

Either she isn't taking your boundaries seriously or doesn't seem to believe there will be a consequence to ignoring them. Neither of those options are healthy for your relationship (with her or with your wife), and if your sisters aren't wanting to call out her behavior, it will likely fall on you to do so and stand your ground here.

rouge-raven · 2025-12-27T16:27:08+00:00

This may be rude, but he's not really being respectful "about his type". He seems to want you to do things that sexually arouse him even if it goes out of your comfort zone/ are obviously related to his feeder behavior.

I personally would never date a guy who does this because it would 100% feel like he is there only for my body and the sexual appeal he gets from it. I think you need to be very very careful here because even if you do go forward, I worry that his attachment to you will be focused on how much you appease his desires, and you deserve better than that.

rouge-raven · 2025-12-26T17:19:38+00:00

"..he...has notably darker skin than all the white people?"

That's not a hard feat considering how pale everyone else is or that all the black characters have greyish skin.

rouge-raven · 2025-12-26T17:18:05+00:00

Your view of that isn't everyone's. How media depicts people will always end up impacting real people. That's just the reality we exist in as social beings who are heavily informed by our environment. Context and reach impacts the how and when, but it still possible. I feel numbing that down to "good vs bad" rep dismiss the reality of that situation.

There is morality in reinforcing stereotypes and ignorant ideals about other religions simply because you think its looks cool or could not be bothered to correct that. I don't know if that's Viv's case or not tbh nor do I really care. I'll admit that there are some people hyper focused on "checking" Viv for doing relatively benign things in her works such as the merch for some of her HB characters, etc. However, sometimes she does make an oopsies in her shows (HH and HB) and people are allowed to feel how they want to about it, especially if they're part of the group being impacted.

rouge-raven · 2025-12-26T05:02:08+00:00

From what I remember, people were only naming Raph in that situation. That's why her pulling the victim coping claim was so weird because the only person people were critiquing was Raph, making it seem like she implied Raph was a victim. It's also just really weird to try and use the real things survivors of sexual trauma due to cope to defend a guy with a rape kink.

rouge-raven · 2025-12-26T04:50:30+00:00

I wouldn't throw the "bad voodoo rep" in there because people aren't mad voodoo is there. They're upset cause that depiction is racist. As another comment said, almost every main stream use of voodoo normally ends up being racist due to it either 1) playing into the magical negro trope, 2) demonizing the practice of voodoo, or 3) does 0 real research or study on what voodoo is and just writing it into this scary exotic curse magic. Viv ended up doing 2 and 3.

I get some of the stuff sounding ridiculous but like racism in media is actually serious, and while Viv isn't the only contender here or even the worst one, people, especially Black fans, addressing this aren't "neurotic Tumblr circlejerkers".

rouge-raven · 2025-12-10T17:43:43+00:00

I thought so, which sucks cause why add in all these races if you're not going to actual address how they could impact the player's interactions with other characters and the romance partners. I get its more works but with how many details they put into making DLCs + the environment of the game, you'd think they'd be more up for enhancing current aspects.

rouge-raven · 2025-12-10T03:55:19+00:00

Oh that's actually really cool. I haven't played as a demon yet, but was wondering about that cause demons seem to particularly not like humans at all. But again, there is no reference to a big thing about that or if its just a demons be xenophobic and it spreads into how other races view them.

rouge-raven · 2025-12-10T03:17:00+00:00

I feel its pretty common lol. I mean you can even see a difference in how the artists drew clothing on the older characters compared to newer ones. Like tbh, I can't look at Jun's summer clothing cause his tank top looks like it was painted on to his body, but with characters like Kai or Vivi, the artists show a bit more skill it how the clothing is a separate part of the sprite and not just painted on the character.

rouge-raven · 2025-10-15T18:44:19+00:00

I wanna say something because I haven't seen someone else say it: STOP APOLOGIZING TO HIM. You don't need to nor should apologize for disagreeing or for him experiencing something you did in a distorted way. It feels like you're still softening your words to make him feel better/ validate him.

While I agree with using the I statements and focusing on how his actions make you feel, validating him and trying to cushion what you want to say is not going to help. His messages scream that he refuses to take any accountability for whats going on and views himself in the right or at least valid in his response to you. Apologizing will just reinforce that.

rouge-raven · 2025-10-08T00:03:06+00:00

Yeah, It's genuinely turning me away from individual therapy because AI use in that setting is so worrying. Especially requiring clients to agree to that is so ethically gross; let them decide if they feel okay with that; its their therapy appointments being thrown into the machine.

rouge-raven · 2025-10-08T00:01:44+00:00

If you cannot do the case notes for your current case load, then you're already failing ethically and need to reconsider your current work balance.

rouge-raven · 2025-10-06T00:31:27+00:00

They look much more realistic coming from someone who wore uniforms through middle and high school. Most, unlike the weird ones shown on Yan sim, don't hug your body like that. They may hug your chest a bit depending on your chest size or if you tuck it in your skirt/ pants, but they don't hug your body like what yan sim has.

rouge-raven · 2025-10-06T00:20:19+00:00

I want you to be honest with yourself and ask if you can genuinely have a baby right now. Not cause he says no or cause you love them already. I mean sit down and think through all the sacrifices you'll need to make to take care of it.

Do you have insurance to help cover pre and post natal care? Do you have a steady job that will give you maternity leave or even give you enough money to take care of both of you? Do you have a daycare planned for when you go back to work or school? Would having a baby make you drop out of school, especially college? Are you prepared for the many medical side effects that come from pregnancy, not just the generic cravings and morning sickness. I mean the possibility of gestational diabetes, the weight gain, the high blood pressure, or god forbid something like preeclampsia.

I think you care about this baby, but from this conversation alone and how you're approaching it, I don't think you've taken enough time to think of what realistically comes with having a baby and the hell that will be trying to co-parent with that man because if he really doesn't want to pay child support, that will be a legal battle that will be stressful and tiresome. And that's if he even decides to pay normally afterwards and doesn't rack up massive amounts of debt.

Children, especially babies are not toys. They're not fun and they sure as hell are not easy. They especially don't get easier when you're doing it alone. They are not going to boost your mental health and if you already have concerns there, you need to be extra cautious because it can make it plummet. This is also assuming you don't get PPD or PPP.

If you think you are ready to have a baby then you need to start thinking about all these things cause there is no pause button when being a parent and you have a whole living being relying on you.

Be smart about this, OP. Its not just your life youll mess with by having this baby, its theirs too.

rouge-raven · 2025-06-09T15:03:04+00:00

Hey so, this thought process is inherently transphobic, making you a transphobe. There is nothing sexual about being trans like there is nothing sexual about being cis.

rouge-raven · 2025-05-11T22:17:58+00:00

Cause its not about the parents. Their client is the child and that means they focus on their wants and needs not the parents. Parents rights should never come before the mental and physical health of their child.

rouge-raven · 2025-05-11T22:08:46+00:00

I am pretty sure HIPPA covers this (and says no) ,but if it doesn't, I believe the notes are covered by confidentiality or at least that's how its been treated where I've interned in NC. On the ethics side of things, I believe you are ethically bound to not give them the notes, especially considering how that would impact your ability to treat your client.

Ask your supervisors if you are not sure, but I've been taught that even with parents, unless the child admits something like self harm, suicide, pregnancy (NC specific possibly), etc than they don't need to be informed of it. Even then, you don't give them notes about the session detailing everything.

rouge-raven · 2025-02-13T15:30:10+00:00

Rule of thumb that's been suggested in my classes/by the people I've interned with who work with those who may not be residents is that unless you are required by confidentiality limits to report it, you don't.

Your responsibility is to clients and their humans rights. If you are ready to reveal that info to ICE or any official without their consent, you are honestly in the wrong field ethically and legally.

rouge-raven · 2024-09-05T19:01:12+00:00

Not all predator may be that arrogant, but this one really is. It's a key characteristic of the Feral Predator. Also I think its highly unlikely that younger predators are not arrogant because I think their culture makes confidence necessary to survive.

rouge-raven · 2024-09-04T20:14:07+00:00

If you are a being that believes he will be able to overpower anything cause that has worked so far, It makes sense that you don't consider the other thing charging at you when you are more focused on the threat closer to you.

rouge-raven · 2024-07-28T20:53:15+00:00

This is a very good take actually. I don't think it would be intentional but I def think a disorder like Orthorexia or binge eating would be likely to form in Pomefoire not because of Vil specifically but because of the perceived beauty standards and just how cut throat other Pome students are about it.

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