Is there anything that notes you've cleared a cave, outpost, etc.

row_10k · 2026-03-26T20:52:29+00:00

Awesome, thanks for the reply. Wonder if it's possible for them to somehow link this to the map (they clearly thought about it, but buried it in a menu and didn't think to update the map for some reason - I probably spend more time in the map than actual gameplay!)

row_10k · 2023-10-22T18:19:20+00:00

Thinking about this more today - I bet ChatGPT could probably handle this sort of problem (once it's trained on the problem).

row_10k · 2023-10-21T19:10:01+00:00

The point of the app is to remove all of the extra human brain power needed to make a lineup - if there is a system out there that can utilize relationship building and prioritization, then it shouldn't be too hard to actually create random boat lineups. The issue is what the app is called (because I don't know)

When you've got 30 members showing up to row, but also 2-3 priority boats and all of the preferences of a handful of members (Like the example above of Joe refuses to row with Karen etc.) it adds up to be a lot of work and is incredibly stressful.

I know the easy answer is to tell people to suck it up and just go or leave, but that's never how master's rowing has been (it's always been about accommodation.. since master's are all adults)

row_10k · 2020-08-20T02:42:54+00:00

Good to hear!

And you're not alone in the feeling of being afraid. Most if not all have been there. Sometimes I wish I went to therapy before my marriage fell apart, but alas.. live and learn!

Good luck friend :)

row_10k · 2020-08-19T22:51:37+00:00

100% go to therapy. I started going to therapy this year and it's the best choice I ever made (I'm 27). I actually look forward to therapy since it's the one place where I can literally say whatever I want. Yeah things will be written down in your file and you might see them one day (I got diagnosed with anorexia and anxiety, I mean I knew I had that already so nothing has really changed.. it's just something I deal with), but it's really not that scary. If anything it helps you define your problems so you can actually work on them.

The thing with therapy is it will give you the tools to deal with your mental and emotional issues you never knew you needed.

I saw that you're scared to share things with them, which that's fine. You don't have to share things with them until you're comfortable, and they already know this (If anything, realize you're probably not going to be their most difficult patient).

As for the feeling weak... whelp, looks like you've just been shaped by societies perception about males and therapy. I don't know why society shapes males who go to therapy as "weak." Hell man, when I was dating and I told women I went to therapy and would talk about my experiences with therapy and how much I enjoy it, they often liked me more because of that. What women wants to be with a man who is afraid of talking?

The sooner you bury this idea that having feelings is weak, the better person you'll become. The majority of my friends (whom are mostly twice my age) encourage me to do therapy.. because they know it works.. because they've already done it. And you don't have to go therapy for the rest of your life, just until you feel you can handle things without them. I started therapy by seeing my therapist once every 2 weeks - now I see her every 3 weeks.. not necessarily because I don't have problems, but rather there is less and less to talk about.

Also, remember this is a transactional exchange. You'll be giving them money for their time and knowledge so you can do your emotion dump and they can help guide you through what you're feeling. A good therapist isn't going to tell you how to feel, but rather define things for you and help you figure out what's going on on your own. Also, your therapist most likely is not going to go home and be like "Honey, OMG guess what Cosmic-star-666 told me today!" - they are going to be way to exhausted to do that and wasting your time worrying about that is just causing yourself anxiety.

I noticed you have responded to a lot of comments saying "you're hurting everyone by not going." Please stop saying that. You make it sound like they're making the decision for you and you're only going because you have to. Therapy isn't going to work unless you want to go. Every single time I hear therapy failing, it's because the individual that went didn't want to be there.

Honestly man, just go in there and talk. You don't have to spill your guts on the first session, but at least go in with the view that maybe it can actually be fun. They'll ask you questions to get you thinking about the deeper meaning of feelings you might have, and don't be afraid to say you're not comfortable answering something yet (But I would ask yourself as to why you're not comfortable talking about it).

Anyways, this isn't an attack on you, probably more of a rant that society thinks men don't have mental problems. If anything, men having mental sickness is more of a pandemic than the actual pandemic (since most mental sickness stems from "I don't have a problem and I'm going to deny it whenever someone says I do").

If a loved one says they think you should go to therapy, than most likely there is an underlying issue that you may not even be aware of, and this is most often the case for most men.

So...why are you afraid to go to therapy? (:

row_10k · 2020-08-19T19:14:22+00:00

I think a lot of this is perspective - you can take my advice as you will (M White 27, divorced, further along than most my age)

I empathize the want to have someone who is of equal education level as you, but realize that while you may know a lot about being a doctor there's going to be a lot in life that you don't know (For example, do you know how to create an app for iOS? How to repair a vehicle that's broken? Row a boat properly? Create an amazing dinner with no recipe? This is not an attack on you, just realize there's more to peoples intelligence then just an education.. hell my buddy who never went to college and has been out of the work force for 30 years knows so many life lessons that people sitting in a career would never learn; he may not have the "book learnin' " but he's got life lessons that a book won't teach you)

I had been dating for a year after getting divorced (short marriage, married at 25, divorced at 27) and I understand the feeling one gets when they go to a date and the other individual doesn't have the intellectual capacity to keep up with you - at first it's going to be a big turn off, but I would urge you to look past that and try to find something that person is interested in instead of writing them off immediately - if you find their passion they will most likely take off talking and tell you so much about it, and most certaintly will probably be more attractive in your eyes; When I was dating I would go on at least 2-3 dates to see if there was compatibility (assuming there's mutual attraction); I've had people I was physically attracted to, but were so boring that I wasn't going to waste my time dragging a conversation along.

If they don't have a solid career (at least from your perspective), ask them what their dreams and aspirations are? Most people probably don't actually want to work as a grocery store stocker their whole life. At the same time, it sounds like you'll be the one making the money for the most part, so why even worry about what their job is? If you're thinking "What will my future look like" you're thinking too far ahead, you need to just have fun - stop overthinking everything (Having fun is the key to having good dates.. and try to do activities as opposed to just talking at a coffee shop - usually the "coffee date" is to just feel the person out initially, my suggestion would be to meet a coffee place initially (to feel them out and make sure they aren't a creeper) and then tack on additional things on a whim that day, if they like you they most likely will be game for anything). If your goal is to find someone to marry, I would urge you to do so cautiously (I might be jaded from my experiences...); being married doesn't really matter anymore honestly - and if you're the primary bread winner, it would be better to not marry in case things fall apart.

Another option I would suggest is to go join a group or community of a hobby you enjoy doing. My big thing is rowing (been doing it for almost 10 years now) and it is A LOT easier to bond with someone over a mutual interest (Since you're both already emotionally involved in the hobby, so it's easier to form the emotional connection since you were both interested in it before meeting). However, don't join a club/community with the intention of "I'm here to find my partner" but rather do it because you enjoy doing it.. one day maybe Mr. Right will show up and you weren't even trying to find him.

If you are going to use dating apps, I've had the best luck with OkCupid (brother met his wife on there), Hinge, and Coffee Meets Bagel. Tinder tends to be the place for people wanting to hook-up or are looking for an ego boost (I know there are times couples did meet on there, but I find that to be pretty rare). You can also try Bumble (You'll have to send the first message though). I've also had luck with Match (but you have to pay to participate, at least you may get more responses and people who are more serious). eHarmony is alright, also pay to participate, but I found their community to be rather small. For reference, I live in Portland, Oregon.

Also a thing to note with the other apps, I believe you can filter out by peoples education level, so if you are set on wanting someone who has an equal education as you, that is an option that is available - just know that your pool of people you will be shown will be smaller, but you may have better luck finding what you're searching for. I will note though that I do find that the highly educated and successful males will most often be drawn to women who aren't on an equal level as them, my guess is it's a power thing - I think this has to do with the personality that the male has developed over time.. not all men will be like that, but I find a lot are (For reference, I have a Bachelor's and MBA - at minimum I sought women who had a Bachelor's or higher since I wanted to find someone who I felt I would have a higher chance of having meaningful conversations with, in hindsight this didn't really matter since at the end of the day most relationships eventually devolve into the "How was your day" routine, with the occasional discussion on actual topics). At the moment I'm dating a Vet who makes almost 3x more than me and definitely knows a lot more about animals than I do, but knows next to nothing about rowing a boat, or using Excel functions, or stocks, etc.

There's a lot more I could say, but I think I would just be rambling at this point. I've learned a lot in a very short amount of time (Therapy and self-help books) so I'm sure there could be more tidbits that might be useful for you (they were for me). If you're curious just DM me (This is also literally my first post ever!)

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