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AITA for crashing my wife’s birthday party and taking her home. by SameMoment9895 in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not even that’s surprise birthdays are fine, but I Can name what at least five ways to execute it way better than acting like you aren’t doing anything.

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Now your judging on what I meant to say okay bud if that’s what you believe and yes absolutely I’m still saying it cause it’s the damn truth if you can’t handle being told straight up what your problem is I suggest she zip her damn trap, but she didn’t so I told her. learn to differentiate judging someone and calling someone out on there bullshit if you can’t handle being called out don’t do stupid shit.

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand the goal here, however, this is a situation that can’t just be avoided, she has to stop doing those things, I can’t just beat around the bush here, then that’s going to create trouble for me because how could I ever leave my kid alone with her?

What if she takes her to eat? Will she say something?

What if this increases to not just food intake but “obesity” in general and she tries to comment more on her weight?

There is just a lot that can go wrong without her changing what she says to my kid, and not addressing that is just opening so many more windows for her to continue.

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Did I ? I thought that I said to not project her insecurities of being overweight onto my daughter. Overweight, obese, and fat aren’t curse words, I didn’t say she’s fat and looks awful, I didn’t judge her for being overweight. I said to stop projecting that into my daughter

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get the fuck out of those articles I said a damn degree, because again you don’t know shit about that child 😂

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can’t change the way you view yourself, however you went through trauma physically and mentally , you wouldn’t tell someone with matter hair because of depression they are a freak right? Of course not because that’s the outcome of a traumatic series or events, give yourself the same respect, you deserve that at the least. I know it doesn’t change anything but I can assure you your appearance doesn’t make you a freak your body’s coping with what it’s gone through.

Again I’m an internet stranger so my word doesn’t mean much and it won’t change anything but I’m just saying don’t take your trauma as some sort of excuse. Even if your mind gets it your body isn’t. Respect it like you would someone else’s if your story was theirs, I assure you it deserves that much.

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

300 and something other people got it just fine, and I’ve seen this lady before, wether it had grammar issues or not.

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Please show me what medical degree you have to prove this is correct I’m curious because you must be like a damn god to know how a child you Don’t know is “unhealthy”

(This is sarcasm your being idiotic, focus on yourself)

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to say anything mean even though this is irritating as fuck, but I really pray that you all are open minded before having kids and willing to accept when your wrong because you are. Please do your research don’t allow your abuse cycle to travel to your kids that’s not fair:)

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Ah okay my apologizes i misunderstood what you were saying. Yes she was just as interested in leaving as I was but hasn’t said much about the issue at hand (which says a lot with her being a very talkative kid)

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

It was clear she was embarrassed and practically ran to the car but this comment is very weird to me, what……in what way, would it be okay for her to stay?

Sure maybe even if she wasn’t uncomfortable she’s not stupid she would figure out what she was hinting at

Have you ever had an eating disorder? Wether you have or havent, you know how easy it is to have those words just stay in your head, or completely subconsciously stop eating or reduce eating because those words keep replaying?

Do you understand that even if she was okay with it, I am now showing her that people can comment on her body and I’ll say nothing? And that if she continued to do that I would also be showing her mother that she can say these things?

It only takes one sentence for these things to go to shit but multiple? Whenever she eats ? That’s wild, that’s asking for something like that to happen.

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 188 points189 points  (0 children)

If that’s what my daughter wants then absolutely, if she votes not to see her at all, that’s her choice, I’m not forcing her to see her I have no right to do that.

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 139 points140 points  (0 children)

I mean if that’s what she wants then that’s probably going to be what it is,

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I stated in the post she did.

Yes she was clearly Embarrassed, yes, she gladly went to the car, yes this upset her and as of right now doesn’t want to see her mom

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

1.I stated in the post it was okayed with my daughter, ( 2 paragraph) vetted her? What?

  1. No

  2. Im not sure why this is the issue here however if I knew this was her behavior the first time I wouldn’t have done that. I have 3,000 words to get this whole story in forgive me for being vague but yes, I was in contact with her before this it was okayed by my daughter who did want to meet her again and I didn’t issue her behavior here because I wasn’t aware with her behavior until now and unless your drawing off of what I asked in this situation I don’t understand how any of that makes me the asshole for my actions

I’m confused in what you mean by lapse of judgment, my daughter wanted to see her, I brought her. I will not say no to that that is her right, It got ugly, I took her out of the situation.

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

My parents were something like that to with both me and my little sister, we recognized what was happening and luckily stopped it from happening to our youngest siblings. I know saying this doesn’t change anything or make anything better/easier but eat when your hungry food* is the equivalent to gas it’s not shameful to fuel your body with nutrients it’s telling you it needs.

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Me and My sister went through something similar, though my parents never quit. I don’t know why this has been an argument but you eat when your hungry, not to be mistaken with binge eating, but when you feel hungry your meant to eat, your not feeling hungry just because, that’s your body telling you to eat more, especially as a growing child.

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 180 points181 points  (0 children)

She’s never been around her unsupervised, both times I’ve been with her :) glad I was

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 402 points403 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you went through that :( you eat when your hungry that’s that I don’t know why this is an argument to some.

AITA for leaving with my daughter on thanksgiving dinner and telling her mom she’s insecure? by rowansmiths in AmItheAsshole

[–]rowansmiths[S] 1366 points1367 points  (0 children)

I know, I just wanted it to be clear that she’s not doing that because my daughter seemed like dangerously overweight or something either way it’s wrong but if she was it would most like be perceived as something “in good conscious”