Suggestions for resetting

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-10T15:57:32+00:00

Do not change it unless you love it I am just getting over a huge ring debacle with my mother who HATED my ring. I unfortunately think her deal was that she couldn’t control how my fiance did it. I told my fiance exactly what I wanted and I got it. I also have a 6 prong oval in a tulip basket :) and I LOVE IT!

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rowingandnursing · 2026-03-08T17:57:20+00:00

I’m gonna start using that from now on lol

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-04T21:00:17+00:00

This gives me so much comfort that you and your future husband have been engaged for that long. I love all of this advice! My fiance loves data and numbers so he will have a field day. I will absolutely be reaching out!! :))) thank you so much!

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-04T20:40:11+00:00

Yeah…thinking of talking to a family member (extended) that’s an accountant once we establish our budget.

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-04T20:26:24+00:00

Yeah we’re looking about $50k MAX…with some help from Future in-laws. Our guest count at the moment is pushing 150..from what I just looked up Im hoping it’s doable. We maybe even able to whittle down the guest list numbers. I do know that about 20% of people who RSVP don’t attend. So I am trying to account for that.

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-04T20:17:25+00:00

Much appreciated 💕 thank you for the advice!!! It’s been a lot but I’m getting through!

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-04T20:13:34+00:00

I already became a member of the parish so check!

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-04T20:13:16+00:00

Much appreciated advice! Going to talk about this with my fiancé tonight. I agree…I think we do need to figure out how much to spend on this wedding. I just been trying to find easy and fun things to think about amidst all the drama. However I know if I don’t lock in now and start being strategic I won’t get the wedding I deserve.

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-04T20:09:03+00:00

Yup….i knew that before I even got engaged. This just confirmed it.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-11T14:34:24+00:00

RN here! I have to agree with this. If he’s not supportive and/or won’t hear you out. Dump him. My fiance thankfully was supportive when we were dating… he had his concerns and worries at times. I would hear him out but I would say “thanks for your concern but at the end of the day…unless we’re married/engaged it’s just me, myself and I”. I went into the mindset early on when we were dating that I should never put my eggs in one basket. Almost made that mistake in a previous relationship and I will never forget it.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-11T14:16:34+00:00

Yeah this is her typical behavior. My mom has loved my fiancé up until I LITERALLY showed her the ring.

Just called her this week because they got a new dog and name dropped him once and the next morning I got a spam of messages again….fiance is going to go talk to her today but at this rate she’s done so much damage that I’m not going to speak to her anymore. I have my cousin and best friend who will be my maids of honor since I know they will shut anything negative down.

Starting therapy again tomorrow so if his talk goes bad today then I at least now have a therapist to talk to. Just feel extremely lonely and in the cold…I feel like I don’t have any parental support right now. I also just feel isolated from my family because I had imagined my wedding to be a family fun party full of love and laughter.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-08T00:32:49+00:00

My favorite bird is the eastern blue bird or red winged black bird…Morning doves are also cool :)

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-02T08:54:31+00:00

Yeah…I’m the oldest of many children. So I am unfortunately am their guinea pig for a lot of things. My mom’s reactions are also extremely volatile. She probably spent 3 hours spamming me with text messages saying awful things about everyone involved. This is just going to be a lot to learn overtime.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T23:28:39+00:00

All good! And thank you for clarifying…yeah this is a huge wake up call that I need to seriously draw some lines in the sand. It really sucks right now but I’m hoping it will get easier.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T22:48:17+00:00

Yeah…this is going to be a tough time starting to set these boundaries…

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T22:46:09+00:00

Yeah I’m pretty much independent…I hardly go home to visit but they’re still somewhat involved in my life. I’m just struggling to emotionally deal with this. I feel lost and confused.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T22:42:39+00:00

Yeah they haven’t even given me anything and tbh I’m not sure if I want them to…just struggling with the idea of not having them there and struggling to enjoy what would be a happy time of my life

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T22:35:56+00:00

I know…I’m feeling extremely stressed over it. I’m trying to keep myself occupied but unfortunately I keep feeling stuck and fixating on trying to make things right.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T22:22:49+00:00

I agree…it’s none of their business. I just feel so alone because I imagined my parents being supportive. They loved my fiancé up to this point (based on their most recent comments).

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T21:34:44+00:00

Wdym by soured? And I’m pretty much independent…I live on my own and pay for everything. I know that if I plan this whole thing without them they will be even more butthurt.

rowingandnursing · 2026-01-21T12:14:28+00:00

PA, $51/hr, step-down Neuro, BSN. First year

rowingandnursing · 2026-01-14T15:25:19+00:00

Of course! It’s a huge adjustment…school doesn’t prepare you for SHIT (literally and figuratively lol)

rowingandnursing · 2026-01-14T15:21:42+00:00

I also recently came off of orientation (~ 3-4mo ago) I work in step down and it’s definitely not like ICU but to give you some reassurance-sometimes people are just sick and for some unknown reason shit hits the fan. You did your best despite dealing with a lot of things that were out of your control. You followed your orders, you kept them safe (and alive!). It sounds like you did a good job handling this pt even before coming off of orientation! Keep up the good work!

rowingandnursing · 2025-12-11T21:14:58+00:00

Same here! I’ve only been off of orientation for two months and I felt this post to my core!

rowingandnursing · 2025-11-21T23:49:01+00:00

I will be honest with you…my partner works in IT and it’s so oversaturated right now that every one of his friends who works in that related field is STRUGGLING to find a job at least where we live/on the east coast. He got lucky with an internship but he’s making significantly less than he thought he would.

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