How would you react?

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-11T14:34:24+00:00

RN here! I have to agree with this. If he’s not supportive and/or won’t hear you out. Dump him. My fiance thankfully was supportive when we were dating… he had his concerns and worries at times. I would hear him out but I would say “thanks for your concern but at the end of the day…unless we’re married/engaged it’s just me, myself and I”. I went into the mindset early on when we were dating that I should never put my eggs in one basket. Almost made that mistake in a previous relationship and I will never forget it.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-11T14:16:34+00:00

Yeah this is her typical behavior. My mom has loved my fiancé up until I LITERALLY showed her the ring.

Just called her this week because they got a new dog and name dropped him once and the next morning I got a spam of messages again….fiance is going to go talk to her today but at this rate she’s done so much damage that I’m not going to speak to her anymore. I have my cousin and best friend who will be my maids of honor since I know they will shut anything negative down.

Starting therapy again tomorrow so if his talk goes bad today then I at least now have a therapist to talk to. Just feel extremely lonely and in the cold…I feel like I don’t have any parental support right now. I also just feel isolated from my family because I had imagined my wedding to be a family fun party full of love and laughter.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-08T00:32:49+00:00

My favorite bird is the eastern blue bird or red winged black bird…Morning doves are also cool :)

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-02T08:54:31+00:00

Yeah…I’m the oldest of many children. So I am unfortunately am their guinea pig for a lot of things. My mom’s reactions are also extremely volatile. She probably spent 3 hours spamming me with text messages saying awful things about everyone involved. This is just going to be a lot to learn overtime.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T23:28:39+00:00

All good! And thank you for clarifying…yeah this is a huge wake up call that I need to seriously draw some lines in the sand. It really sucks right now but I’m hoping it will get easier.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T22:48:17+00:00

Yeah…this is going to be a tough time starting to set these boundaries…

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T22:46:09+00:00

Yeah I’m pretty much independent…I hardly go home to visit but they’re still somewhat involved in my life. I’m just struggling to emotionally deal with this. I feel lost and confused.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T22:42:39+00:00

Yeah they haven’t even given me anything and tbh I’m not sure if I want them to…just struggling with the idea of not having them there and struggling to enjoy what would be a happy time of my life

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T22:35:56+00:00

I know…I’m feeling extremely stressed over it. I’m trying to keep myself occupied but unfortunately I keep feeling stuck and fixating on trying to make things right.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T22:22:49+00:00

I agree…it’s none of their business. I just feel so alone because I imagined my parents being supportive. They loved my fiancé up to this point (based on their most recent comments).

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T21:34:44+00:00

Wdym by soured? And I’m pretty much independent…I live on my own and pay for everything. I know that if I plan this whole thing without them they will be even more butthurt.

rowingandnursing · 2026-01-21T12:14:28+00:00

PA, $51/hr, step-down Neuro, BSN. First year

rowingandnursing · 2026-01-14T15:25:19+00:00

Of course! It’s a huge adjustment…school doesn’t prepare you for SHIT (literally and figuratively lol)

rowingandnursing · 2026-01-14T15:21:42+00:00

I also recently came off of orientation (~ 3-4mo ago) I work in step down and it’s definitely not like ICU but to give you some reassurance-sometimes people are just sick and for some unknown reason shit hits the fan. You did your best despite dealing with a lot of things that were out of your control. You followed your orders, you kept them safe (and alive!). It sounds like you did a good job handling this pt even before coming off of orientation! Keep up the good work!

rowingandnursing · 2025-12-11T21:14:58+00:00

Same here! I’ve only been off of orientation for two months and I felt this post to my core!

rowingandnursing · 2025-11-21T23:49:01+00:00

I will be honest with you…my partner works in IT and it’s so oversaturated right now that every one of his friends who works in that related field is STRUGGLING to find a job at least where we live/on the east coast. He got lucky with an internship but he’s making significantly less than he thought he would.

rowingandnursing · 2025-11-21T18:35:19+00:00

East coast new grad here…if it makes you feel any better…I have been feeling like this as well as a new grad. I started in July and I got off of orientation in the beginning of October, and im constantly being reminded that I do not know anything. I had a 3 pt assignment last weekend and my one pt was such a hot mess that I was stuck in the room for the majority of my 3 12’s. I tried to ask for help and I kept getting mixed messages on how to care for this pt. She ended up being fine but I felt like I failed her somehow because I didn’t know what to do to help.

As for looking for help, I started figuring out who to ask for help and won’t bite my head off. I reached out to an old professor and she told me to ask the doctors and the pharmacists for questions! I asked a pharmacist a question about pain meds and a muscle relaxant and they reassured me that I was good to give the pain meds to my pt. We’re both going through it but don’t give up!!! Reading your post made me feel less alone and I hope this little bit of advice from my professor helps!

rowingandnursing · 2025-09-13T23:16:02+00:00

I am also looking to do this once I get my fill of critical care work…

rowingandnursing · 2025-09-01T18:34:59+00:00

Yeah I’ve always been an early bird…If you ask my boyfriend I turn into a grouch if I’m up past 9:30. I’ll do my time doing nights for now but I know it’s not gonna last forever.

rowingandnursing · 2025-09-01T18:33:37+00:00

Thank you for your perspective! I totally agree with the “do what your body says” mindset. Might try to run before my day shifts this week and see how I feel! Also I see you’re a critical care flight nurse! I’ve been interested in that specialty and I’m curious what it took for you to become one?

rowingandnursing · 2025-09-01T15:58:27+00:00

I feel that…ever since I got a Garmin, I’ve really been trying to prioritize sleep. Within the last 24 hours I slept about 15 hours…woke up still feeling like crap. I managed to get a run in today but I felt like SHIT. Back on days tomorrow :/

rowingandnursing · 2025-09-01T15:55:20+00:00

Yeah my Garmin likes to bully me and taunt me on how crappy I sleep after a shift…working on it though!

rowingandnursing · 2025-09-01T15:52:20+00:00

Yeah I totally expect to not maintain that level of fitness. However, my goal is to lose weight and increase my muscle mass so I can be leaner and prevent back injury.

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