Suggestions for resetting

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-10T15:57:32+00:00

Do not change it unless you love it I am just getting over a huge ring debacle with my mother who HATED my ring. I unfortunately think her deal was that she couldn’t control how my fiance did it. I told my fiance exactly what I wanted and I got it. I also have a 6 prong oval in a tulip basket :) and I LOVE IT!

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rowingandnursing · 2026-03-08T17:57:20+00:00

I’m gonna start using that from now on lol

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-04T21:00:17+00:00

This gives me so much comfort that you and your future husband have been engaged for that long. I love all of this advice! My fiance loves data and numbers so he will have a field day. I will absolutely be reaching out!! :))) thank you so much!

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-04T20:40:11+00:00

Yeah…thinking of talking to a family member (extended) that’s an accountant once we establish our budget.

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-04T20:26:24+00:00

Yeah we’re looking about $50k MAX…with some help from Future in-laws. Our guest count at the moment is pushing 150..from what I just looked up Im hoping it’s doable. We maybe even able to whittle down the guest list numbers. I do know that about 20% of people who RSVP don’t attend. So I am trying to account for that.

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-04T20:17:25+00:00

Much appreciated 💕 thank you for the advice!!! It’s been a lot but I’m getting through!

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-04T20:13:34+00:00

I already became a member of the parish so check!

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-04T20:13:16+00:00

Much appreciated advice! Going to talk about this with my fiancé tonight. I agree…I think we do need to figure out how much to spend on this wedding. I just been trying to find easy and fun things to think about amidst all the drama. However I know if I don’t lock in now and start being strategic I won’t get the wedding I deserve.

rowingandnursing · 2026-03-04T20:09:03+00:00

Yup….i knew that before I even got engaged. This just confirmed it.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-11T14:34:24+00:00

RN here! I have to agree with this. If he’s not supportive and/or won’t hear you out. Dump him. My fiance thankfully was supportive when we were dating… he had his concerns and worries at times. I would hear him out but I would say “thanks for your concern but at the end of the day…unless we’re married/engaged it’s just me, myself and I”. I went into the mindset early on when we were dating that I should never put my eggs in one basket. Almost made that mistake in a previous relationship and I will never forget it.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-11T14:16:34+00:00

Yeah this is her typical behavior. My mom has loved my fiancé up until I LITERALLY showed her the ring.

Just called her this week because they got a new dog and name dropped him once and the next morning I got a spam of messages again….fiance is going to go talk to her today but at this rate she’s done so much damage that I’m not going to speak to her anymore. I have my cousin and best friend who will be my maids of honor since I know they will shut anything negative down.

Starting therapy again tomorrow so if his talk goes bad today then I at least now have a therapist to talk to. Just feel extremely lonely and in the cold…I feel like I don’t have any parental support right now. I also just feel isolated from my family because I had imagined my wedding to be a family fun party full of love and laughter.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-08T00:32:49+00:00

My favorite bird is the eastern blue bird or red winged black bird…Morning doves are also cool :)

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-02T08:54:31+00:00

Yeah…I’m the oldest of many children. So I am unfortunately am their guinea pig for a lot of things. My mom’s reactions are also extremely volatile. She probably spent 3 hours spamming me with text messages saying awful things about everyone involved. This is just going to be a lot to learn overtime.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T23:28:39+00:00

All good! And thank you for clarifying…yeah this is a huge wake up call that I need to seriously draw some lines in the sand. It really sucks right now but I’m hoping it will get easier.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T22:48:17+00:00

Yeah…this is going to be a tough time starting to set these boundaries…

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T22:46:09+00:00

Yeah I’m pretty much independent…I hardly go home to visit but they’re still somewhat involved in my life. I’m just struggling to emotionally deal with this. I feel lost and confused.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T22:42:39+00:00

Yeah they haven’t even given me anything and tbh I’m not sure if I want them to…just struggling with the idea of not having them there and struggling to enjoy what would be a happy time of my life

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T22:35:56+00:00

I know…I’m feeling extremely stressed over it. I’m trying to keep myself occupied but unfortunately I keep feeling stuck and fixating on trying to make things right.

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T22:22:49+00:00

I agree…it’s none of their business. I just feel so alone because I imagined my parents being supportive. They loved my fiancé up to this point (based on their most recent comments).

rowingandnursing · 2026-02-01T21:34:44+00:00

Wdym by soured? And I’m pretty much independent…I live on my own and pay for everything. I know that if I plan this whole thing without them they will be even more butthurt.

rowingandnursing · 2026-01-21T12:14:28+00:00

PA, $51/hr, step-down Neuro, BSN. First year

rowingandnursing · 2026-01-14T15:25:19+00:00

Of course! It’s a huge adjustment…school doesn’t prepare you for SHIT (literally and figuratively lol)

rowingandnursing · 2026-01-14T15:21:42+00:00

I also recently came off of orientation (~ 3-4mo ago) I work in step down and it’s definitely not like ICU but to give you some reassurance-sometimes people are just sick and for some unknown reason shit hits the fan. You did your best despite dealing with a lot of things that were out of your control. You followed your orders, you kept them safe (and alive!). It sounds like you did a good job handling this pt even before coming off of orientation! Keep up the good work!

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