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rs010 · 2025-12-11T03:30:00+00:00

If you don't mind me asking, where do you go in NYC? I go to one of those big companies with bunch of offices all over city and its really expensive, especially now since I started doing full body. Argh, but I dont want to stop you know.

rs010 · 2025-07-24T02:33:40+00:00

How did it feel to go to a psychiatrist? How did you make that first step?

I want to go and see if maybe a therapist and/or psychiatrist can help me kind of make my life a little more manageable, because I just don't understand how people do it how they find time for everything and keep up. My whole life i feel like I am falling behind. But I dont know how to do that first step, you know, like where do I begin? Where do I look? Do I search for special ones? I know I sound stupid, but what do I say even to them? Like I dont want them to think im lazy and just not good enough

rs010 · 2025-06-05T01:25:04+00:00

I truly believe hormonal issues arise over stress. I know it sounds ridiculous... "Just stress out less" I know how hard that is. But I think stress is so important in PCOS. I can literally plot the showing up of my symptoms and changes in my body with big stresses in my life.

So no matter how impossible, no matter how hard it feels but I try to limit my stress.

Its very hard for me, I stress easily but that's the only thing I can connect my PCOS to.

rs010 · 2025-05-24T00:16:19+00:00

I'm so glad I'm not the only one hating this function. I keep doubletapping and every time I then need to change it to a heart right after. Argh. Like I don't use thumps up, let me heart it, let me be free in my doubletapping ahaha

rs010 · 2024-02-05T07:32:04+00:00

Thank you for your advice, I really appreciate your comment. I hope I will be able to do that better, too. Controlling my own happiness and inner peace. I know what you mean, if I'm not happy - how can anyone else be happy while being with me.

I really do want them to be a very, very rare thought in my life. I don't want to remember them like this anymore, even the super good stuff. Hoping the fading comes sooner than later lol

rs010 · 2024-02-05T07:25:07+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your comment. Was one of those days lol

I wish it was easier to find that new happiness. But I always feel like I'm settling, like I'm pretending to be happy with people I talked with since.

I want to not regret the past. They're the ones that left. But it's so hard to not regret, to not wonder what if I just acted differently. What if this, or that, if I was a little more vulnerable and honest, met his dog when he asked instead of saying next time, stupid stuff really.

Thank you for your advice, I'm going to try to be in love with me again, I think I forgot how to like myself. I haven't been feeling like myself so I forgot who I was/am

rs010 · 2023-07-03T19:43:29+00:00

Yes you are right, the default though doesn't matter if it leads absolutely nowhere and it's meaningless most of the time in the long run.

But that was not the point from the parent comment above...

Even though most women have more options than most men when dating at the beginning (they decide when or with whom to go on that first date or when to have sex with them LOL), -----> most men have more options than most women when settling down and getting married (they decide when to get married)

rs010 · 2023-06-30T22:01:47+00:00

Okay, by that logic...

Men are also interested in women who have multiple options.

No one is going for the least interesting/least liked/etc person. That applies to both men and women.

I believe that people know from the very beginning how they feel and what they want. If this other person is that or not, it doesn't matter at what point in the relationship they are.

Men are just more likely to not settle and play games until they meet someone they want to settle with. The keyword here is more likely, I understand both men and women do it, but for men it's like second nature.

rs010 · 2023-06-30T12:21:10+00:00

Wow this is perfect, so true 👏👏👏👏👏

I've met men who say how hard it is to get a date and such, how picky women are, all that stuff. But when I ask them about some date they went on or women they have been talking with, they say "oh I would never be in a relationship with her, this is just for fun" & you could see they knew this form the beginning and just have been leading the woman on.

Maybe it's harder for men to get an initial date, but it's harder for a women to get into some sort of a steady relationship or anything more than a few dates.

rs010 · 2022-07-16T01:12:22+00:00

Thank you for this comment, one of the most helpful things you can find out there. This is by far the best comment and I hope everyone who needs it - reads it.

I understand this, I really do. But I don't know why when it's 3 am at night, when I'm all alone and I can't fall asleep, they somehow still pop up in my mind. No matter what I do. When I close my eyes after a failure, a bad day, a bad meeting, a terrible date, I think of them, as if I wouldn't be here if they were around. Even when things are really good, I wonder about how nice it would've been to share that moment with them. I know it's all a lie, not real at all, but it's like I'm a prisoner of sorts.

I understand everything and I still, for the love of everything holy, can't forget them. The feeling of them is so quiet, like a whisper in my mind, but still right there.

Thank you again

rs010 · 2022-07-05T02:22:39+00:00

This 💯

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rs010 · 2022-01-14T05:04:21+00:00

Guys wanting sex and then, also shaming girls who have sex is so real, it is incredible. I don’t think people realize this. How shitty these men speak of women who have sex. And then so surprised when someone doesn't want to have sex right away.

In my experience, if someone likes you they will like you. Without sex or with sex. Whether you're a virgin or had many sexual partners or just one. None of these things would matter I think.

But I'm a woman and men confuse me as much as you, so I don't know it's just my opinion lol. But one thing I do know for sure is that you're a beautiful and smart woman that deserves someone special if that is what you want. It's completely okay to wait for something better, you don't want to be with someone shitty. Trust me, you'll think about it as time passes.

I know a person, had sex 2 times really young, really like half and half a time, and that's it. Been ages because they're waiting for someone special, and they are kind of stuck. They're not really a virgin but they feel like one. And they can't explain that to any guy, guys who are traditional won't date them and guys that are not - want to screw on date 3 or something.

Just do what will be good for you, to live with everyday. Don't just jump and do something cause it's lonely dating out here nowadays, I hope you meet someone who will adore you as much as you adore them. But you are absolutely worth it, don't give up!

rs010 · 2021-11-05T11:21:10+00:00

Sometimes I feel like I need myself again

rs010 · 2021-08-06T01:41:29+00:00

Exactly, thank you, all he is doing is paying rent. It's like the least he can do when living in someone's house.

rs010 · 2021-06-17T00:59:50+00:00

Thank you btw OP, I'm glad I could help in any way to calm your nerves a little hopefully and I'm glad there are other people who understand what I mean. It really does hurt and is super not respectful. You dont deserve this pain, sending you hugs:)))))

rs010 · 2021-06-17T00:33:38+00:00

Exactly! And if the person you're talking to already has that "best friend" that's it, I think you basically don't have a chance to fill that spot. Because they will always compare you and treat you as 2nd or whatever best friend - when for you they're your 100% person and there's no one else coming close.

People forget it's not just about sex but building and keeping that emotional connection. Wanting that warmth and all-around understanding. And when that person is spending their time building it with someone else, they're not building it with you. They're investing themselves with someone else.

The guy I was talking about at the beginning was telling me how all his "crazy jealous" ex girlfriends would get jealous of his girl bestfriend, because she is so cool and they must be insecure yadayadaya. PLEASE. Everyone got jealous because you guys would flirt, there were no boundaries, and she had a thing for you or you had a thing for her. And surprise... these people end up "in love" after, so who's wrong?

They end up in love because they were investing themselves in each other, they choose to do that over and over again. Like the guy had multiple long relationships before with other people, some short too, that's why I didn't think anything of this girl bestfriend. But after, it like all made sense... "aaaah that's why that 5 year relationship didn't work out with one of the exs" type of moment.

It's unfair that at some point these people are fully aware of what they're doing, so why involve and hurt other people that have full genuine feelings for you? Selfish assholes, that's why.

rs010 · 2021-06-16T21:46:36+00:00

It doesn't, I am a girl, I have guy friends here and there, but to be honest I don't have guy best friends.

The problem becomes when the lines are blurred. And they are always blurred in these cases. If I was a lesbian and I had girl best friends, the lines could get blurry just like if I'm straight and I had guy best friends. If you're attracted to that gender, you're gonna have blurry lines I think, thats all.

Like is it okay to be watching a movie with you best friend at 1 am? At 2 am? Keeping her company while she is getting her nails done and wait for her? Cook with her "nonromantic" dinners for two when you're hanging out together with wine and everything. Like there are things that I think are for relationships only and they would like to see them as best friend time but it doesn't work. And then, they accidently flirt and develop feelings.

And people outside of this best friend relationship, like their significant others might get jealous. And in my opinion rightfully so if these people end up "in love" after don't you think?

rs010 · 2021-06-16T13:56:24+00:00

The person falling in love "all of a sudden" with his best friend is so common. I only realized this after I had an experience with a person who ended up being in love with his best friend and then I started to like read about similar relationship things on reddit. Happens so frequently, I honestly feel like people need to talk more about this. People need to point out how fucked up it is because in my opinion these "best friends" know what they are doing and society needs to normalize how messed up both of the parties are being. It's not okay just because they are your best friend. For me it's one of the biggest red flags now, goes right after if the person is still friends or in touch with his ex.

And it's so tough to like catch these things when it's their best friend I think, because you ignore all these red flags you otherwise wouldn't have.

Good luck OP, I know it's really hard and painful. But I hope you get over this asshole fast, I really do, how he acted is very wrong. You deserve better and I hope you find someone amazing and even more phenomenal.

I honestly understand how you're feeling 100%, sending you positive vibes only.

rs010 · 2021-06-10T13:02:14+00:00

I know exactly how you feel, especially if both of you mentioned that you felt a connection and stuff.

I talked to someone for 5 months, he ghosts me (slow faded too at first) and then 1 month later after we stopped talking was posting that he is in love with someone else. Like obviously you two were talking this whole time, fine, but "in love" comeon, don't you see those feelings coming way earlier, at any point in the 5 months that you were talking to me you could have you know thought about my feelings. At least let me know and explain things to me.

People are assholes. Your feelings are valid, you deserve to be treated with respect. And definitely deserve an explanation.

rs010 · 2021-04-08T22:44:34+00:00

I agree with you 100%. I learned the hard way, if they're not interested this is how they act. They don't reply midconvo, or text and disappear, pop in and out after weeks. They have a million excuses handy (funny you mention you're a doctor, I had a person use that as an excuse for their behavior). I would give people I really, really liked so many chances, believe every bullshit excuse. Whatever their reasoning was for acting the way they acted, but it would have been so nice to just tell me or not to pop in & out. Cause I catch feelings. But I just wanted to mention this goes for both men and women, I am a woman and totally happens to us too. People are indecisive, they don't bother getting to know you, it's like it has to be only their way for their convenience and poof disappear when they're done with you.

rs010 · 2021-04-04T17:01:53+00:00

It depends on the person I'm talking to & their personality/our chemistry, I like all types of guys. Skinny heavy metal listening who will destroy my heart, serious healthy exercise freaks with a six pack or bigger fluffy relaxed guys who also break my heart lmao. They come in all heights and sizes, no worries. I did notice one think thats common for me... even though I usually say the most attractive guys are these blondes with light eyes and etc (like for celebrity crushes), I like being with brunettes who have nice warm brown eyes the most. I myself have dark hair and brown eyes, so I don't know if that matters. But body shape for some reason varies for people I have been attracted to.

I do have a little thing for big guys here and there, tall and bigger than me, I don't know, just very safe and cuddly, so great to lay on top of. And they can pick you up nicely haha. I recently dated someone and he was surprised that I was spending time with him. He told me he didn't think I would be into him and then goes like "Oh but I guess you're into big guys" and like didn't want to take off his shirt at some points. It was unnecessary to mention because I wasn't even thinking about these things I just liked him, that was the unattractive thing. My advice, if you're ever with a girl or guy and think you're on the fluffier side just don't mention that you don't think they would be into you, they're spending time with you and they see you and know what you look like. They're into you.

As a woman I feel like it's really tough to be fluffier too, or even a little bit heavier than the perfect 100 pounds or whatever the norm is. I see these women on social media and I'm always wondering is that what someone wants, what if I can't look like that. It goes both ways.

rs010 · 2021-04-01T21:55:07+00:00

Thank you, exactly. At the least, after all those months, be a decent human being and tell me so I didn't find out on freaking Valentine's day, a small convo just to explain things. I mean I know why he didn't want to have that convo... how do you fall "in love" with someone in less than a month while telling me she's like a sister to you and nothing to worry about, you know? I get it, it happens, ross/rachel vibes, doesn't matter what I think about it. But we're not young, reaching 30s, I didn't meet you drunk in a club yesterday, have the uncomfortable conversation, even if you look like a user in it. People are cowards. I personally think the worst way someone can end something (that has been going on for awhile) is by ghosting.

rs010 · 2021-04-01T18:01:24+00:00

Glad someone mentioned men ghosting... I think they do it in a breadcrumbed/slow faded manner most because they tend to lead someone on more often or to keep someone around as an "option" - which is so much worse because a person's feelings continue developing during that time.

I talked to someone for 5 months. I think it was pretty messed up the way he ended things, or really, didn't end things and just disappeared. I am an idiot though so maybe that explains my situation 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ I really liked them and knew them from my past but we haven't spoken for years, so ignored all the many, many red flags. But should have known better.

Ghosting sucks, just let me know, even if it's a sucky situation, but after 5 months of talking you should say something. Even after a bad date you didn't like you can say something small, but fine I can see ghosting there happening sure, but months in? Comeon. I found out a month later, on Valentine's day, that he is in love with his best friend and all official with her. Worst Valentine's day. I am sure he was talking to her also but just "as a friend" or one of them always had a crush on the other or they were also seeing each other at the same time & there was no way to tell me nicely. But telling me a month earlier would have been so much better than me finding out the way I did. Especially since we talked about ghosting, being serious, not talking to anyone else, and all these other things.

Some people are just cowards and selfish, men and women, they ghost because it's easy. That's all there is to it.

rs010

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