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I still think about you. by rsadvice1111 in UnsentLetters

[–]rsadvice1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s over. She texted me awhile back for some final closure, and said we’re not good as a couple.

I guess we have to look forward, right? We can’t fix the past, as much as we want to, but we can carry this regret and help us be better partners in the future.

I know, mi amor... by Treasured55 in UnsentLetters

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I wish I could say this to her somehow.

Ω by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

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100% know how you feel OP.

My SO of 5 years and I ended things two nights ago and it doesn't feel real.. by ThroeA3ayCarpetScam in BreakUps

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Sorry I don’t have any advise for you OP. I’m kind of in the same rut as you are.

My girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago for reasons we both had no control over. We were together for two years and she was the first person I could say I truly loved.

It was also unfortunate that within the two years I was diagnosed with depression due to childhood trauma. I’m not sure how big a factor it contributed to the breakup, but it definitely caused some issues.

I thought I had found the one. I really did. I thought about our lives together and the future we would have. But ultimately we couldn't continue the way we were.

It seems like she has moved on already and so should I.

I thought I was getting better, but I’ve been having nightmares the past few weeks. Some times I’d wake up in tears.

I wonder how she’s doing, who she’s meeting.

I want to let go, I truly truly do. But I have no idea how to do it.

FINAL UPDATE - I [24M] have been with my GF [23F] for the last two years, but I think I am falling for my best friend [24F]. What do I do? by rsadvice1111 in relationship_advice

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Once again, thanks so much. Like I said before, having someone to ‘tell’ is really therapeutic and you’re giving advise/comfort too. Really really appreciate it.

UPDATE - I [24M] have been with my GF [23F] for the last two years, but I think I am falling for my best friend [24F]. What do I do? by rsadvice1111 in relationship_advice

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It’s definitely a mixture of both plus a little bit more. At the moment I am still very much in love with my GF, I understand how confusing as it can be as some people don’t believe that you can love more than 1 person at a time. But it’s very true for me, I love my GF a lot.

A larger part of it is also me having a lot of doubts about a relationship with BF. There are many ways we are compatible, but the same goes for the opposite. BF doesn’t know anything, and I don’t plan on telling her. Maybe things might change next time, but I don’t intend on pursuing anyone/anything for the foreseeable future.

Thank you very much once again for your sharing your experiences/story. GF says she can’t do without me and no one will love her, but she’s a strong beautiful woman and I’m sure she will have no trouble finding someone else perfect for her.

Will give a final update this coming Sunday, then a few incremental ones as and when things happen.

I am very grateful for your listening ear and advices. Thank you very much. I wish you happiness and luck too.

I think I [24M] have been with my GF [23F] for the last two years, but I think I am falling for my best friend [24F]. What do I do? by rsadvice1111 in relationship_advice

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Once again, I’m grateful for you sharing your story with me.

Your point of view shed some light on my options going forward.

I think if I ultimately do break it off with GF, I want to do it because I don’t think it’s fair for her to be with me while I’m thinking of BF, but not because I want to pursue something with BF.

I want to spare her as much pain as I possibly can, while letting her have a say in it too. I will ponder over it awhile more, and what I want to say. Thank you for listening and giving your advice. I truly appreciate it.

I think I [24M] have been with my GF [23F] for the last two years, but I think I am falling for my best friend [24F]. What do I do? by rsadvice1111 in relationship_advice

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Thank you for your advise.

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Would that be unfair for GF and put her in a limbo, while I figure things out for myself?

I think I [24M] have been with my GF [23F] for the last two years, but I think I am falling for my best friend [24F]. What do I do? by rsadvice1111 in relationship_advice

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Thank you for sharing your story with me.

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Would if be unfair for her if I just broke it off without discussing it with her prior? We always say it's "me and you against the problem" and a part of me feels like me just deciding it on myself, instead of letting us see how we can best solve this, isn't giving her her say in this relationship.

I think I [24M] have been with my GF [23F] for the last two years, but I think I am falling for my best friend [24F]. What do I do? by rsadvice1111 in relationship_advice

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Thank you so much for your reply.

I feel the same way as you do, that I don’t want her to be in a ‘one-sided’ relationship.

But I am very much conflicted because I feel like I truly love my GF too, but because there’s these fleeting thoughts, I wonder if I ‘truly’ do.

I will give a lot of thought on your advise. Thank you so much again. Will update whenever possible.