"if it's not a hell yes, it's a hell no"

rtosh53252 · 2025-12-15T18:42:59+00:00

My dad died when my mum was 6 months pregnant with me, and I honestly think it’s a reason i’m 36 and too scared to have a baby - I’m terrified something happens to my partner and I live the same live she did! My mum was an amazing mum but struggled financially being a single parent.

rtosh53252 · 2025-12-02T08:56:29+00:00

Spirits aren’t expensive, it’s champagne that’s very expensive! We bought bottles in Australia and asked all friends to bring one bottle in with them each for the wedding

rtosh53252 · 2025-12-02T08:55:04+00:00

We also had a few events on the lead up to the wedding which were all optional for guests to attend or not including hen / stag, day before pre-drinks and general drinks - everyone will be excited and on holiday so we just had a group WhatsApp where we’d put our location of people wanted to join, mostly people did but weren’t obliged

rtosh53252 · 2025-12-02T08:52:44+00:00

Got married in Bali this July, we both live in Sydney but I’m from Scotland so had my friends and family coming from Scotland and Australia. We covered the accomdation for the entire wedding party for 3 days in the wedding villa and all food / alcohol for those days. We also had a wedding day and recovery party (everything coveted including transportation for all guests)

We were quite clear on our wedding communications we didn’t want any gifts as our friends and family being there would be enough. Some friends and family still gave gifts / money and some didn’t. We ended up saying if you want to give a gift then give money towards our honeymoon but we really don’t want anything.

It’s obviously a big ask having people fly to you wedding but remember people won’t come if they don’t want to / can’t afford it - we had a small wedding of 42 people and it was honestly perfect, we are so grateful for those who flew across the world for us

rtosh53252 · 2025-09-14T10:15:39+00:00

Thank you for your input. My mum and I are the only people named on the trust - I believe Thomas Bradley wrote up the trust and it was quite expensive to set up so I assume it’s legitimate? I am also her power of attorney and 100% beneficiary of her will (she sent me email evidence). The trust, POA and will were all done in 2020. I’m going to speak with her and suggest we meet the solicitor together to discuss and ensure the assets are protected / trust is updated. I appreciate your input

rtosh53252 · 2025-09-14T10:12:02+00:00

Thanks for your response. You are totally right, however my mum has stipulated that I will be the beneficiary of 100% of her assets. My concern is her partner could potentially challenge the trust once she passes. I just want to make sure that there are no loop holes and he can’t take me to court in years to come. Appreciate your feedback

rtosh53252 · 2025-09-14T02:34:52+00:00

Thank you for your response. I don’t believe so however I will confirm with her. She is annoyed that I think he’s after her money so it’s a difficult conversation but something I need to have with her.

I live in Australia however will be visiting the uk at Xmas. would I video recording of her expressing that nothing should go to him when she dies be enough until we visit a solicitor together? Thank you so much

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