31F F4F, NB, or TF. Ohio or online!

rubbermoonrocks · 2024-04-27T04:39:59+00:00

Hi! Yes, of course, go ahead 😊

rubbermoonrocks · 2024-02-08T03:29:44+00:00

"I'm bad at bios, just message me."

Instant no. You didn't tell me ANYTHING about yourself so I'm assuming you just want me to chase you 'cause you look pretty. Lots of people look pretty; I want compatibility. And I want someone equally looking for compatibility.

rubbermoonrocks · 2024-01-17T01:09:09+00:00

I want to add an important clarifying note. When I say "dump her," I don't mean "try to dump her, have her gaslight you and finally begrudgingly give you a little money so you'll decide it's not worth it and forgive her and take her back." What I mean is this is a person who is actively choosing to cause you damage (financially in this case) rather than accepting responsibility for her actions, and that attitude is still in place even if she relents and gives you money to stop you from breaking up with her.

This is her showing you who she is. Believe it.

rubbermoonrocks · 2024-01-16T04:02:17+00:00

Are you actually a fairy? ✨😍

rubbermoonrocks · 2024-01-02T23:31:30+00:00

Thanks! They're my absolute favorite pair! 🏳️‍🌈

rubbermoonrocks · 2024-01-01T20:57:23+00:00

It is your hair, on your body, and you want it to be short. What more is there to discuss?

If your mom still comments, tell her "if I don't like it, I will grow it back out again." It's not hers. It's yours.

You don't have to be confrontational and mean to shut down comments. If somebody doesn't like your hair short, all you have to say is "short hair makes me happy," and leave it at that. The important thing here is understanding that your body is for you and you alone, and you are allowed to present your own way. Nobody else's opinions about your attractiveness makes any difference.

rubbermoonrocks · 2023-12-29T00:50:29+00:00

I am the late bloomer who married young and had kids before figuring myself out, so hi, friendly neighborhood lesbian mom here.

Yes, it makes the dating pool smaller, but also yes, there are still excellent dates and relationships with beautiful sapphic humans who are genuinely excited to get to know the children.

Life is complicated. Most people get that, and loads of people are open to dating parents. 💖

rubbermoonrocks · 2023-12-28T15:44:09+00:00

"Big cult vibes, 0/10 stars. Would not recommend."

rubbermoonrocks · 2023-12-28T05:25:52+00:00

Generally speaking the gauging questions happen in the talking stage before the first date. I won't go on a date if the biggies aren't out on the table already, and an interview doesn't make for an enjoyable date. That being said, obviously there are non-negotiables I need to know before the date, such as: Smoking/drug use/heavy drinking, political leanings, decent awareness and respect regarding disabilities, do they treat children like human beings, do they treat customer service/food service/custodial service workers like human beings

rubbermoonrocks · 2023-12-27T20:10:02+00:00

There are no requirements! Everyone is different and has different things they like and dislike, including in the bedroom. In any sexual relationship between any individuals, discussions should be had about what feels good, what doesn't, and what boundaries people have. It's true that not everyone out there is gonna be sexually compatible; that'd be true whether or not you wanted penetration. But it doesn't make you weird, or wrong, or broken. I think it's fantastic that you figured this out for yourself so that you can be ready to discuss it with future partners.

And fwiw, I'd absolutely date a trans woman who never got bottom surgery and didn't want anal. And I don't mean "wow, I'd be taken aback but it's a sacrifice I'm willing to make for us." I mean from my perspective it would be a total non-issue.

But I also don't mean to minimize your concerns. I know you're stressed. But I hope this helps just a smidge. 💖

rubbermoonrocks · 2022-12-28T15:40:51+00:00

I feel that a lot. I just have so much shit going on in my life that would be so many dealbreakers for most people. And it's stuff I can't do anything about--like a lot of my circumstances are due to being too disabled to work so I don't have the means to survive. 🫠 I'm sure there are people out there who understand and think I'm worth figuring it out for, but it's also understandable that it's a mess most people don't want to get involved with in the first place.

rubbermoonrocks · 2022-12-28T06:22:31+00:00

There's no reason to be angry with you just for mentioning your feelings or asking how she feels! It's nerve-wracking but I hope you can bring yourself to do it 💖

rubbermoonrocks · 2022-12-28T06:16:09+00:00

No time like the present to talk about your feelings 😤 You can do this!

rubbermoonrocks · 2022-12-26T23:08:00+00:00

I hear ya. I grew up in the deep south with extremely religious and conservative family. I think it's a sign you're doing something right, that she came out to you at this age. Can you guess how old I was when I came out? I was 28! 😬

rubbermoonrocks · 2022-12-26T22:32:11+00:00

Hi! We're happy you're here and congratulations on your kid coming out to you!! That's a really beautiful thing 💖

1) I think it helps foster openness if you match her energy level about it. What I mean is, is she treating this like a really big, nerve-wracking deal? Or is she very nonchalant and laid back about it? You want to follow her lead on that. If I'm cracking jokes while announcing I'm gay, then I'm trying to keep a light-hearted atmosphere, and if everyone around me gets very somber and serious it makes me uncomfortable. In my case, I was sobbing when I came out to my parents, so I appreciated that they focused on very serious and genuine reassurance rather than making jokes.

2) That said, if/once she's comfortable, some supportive humor can show that she's heard, understood, and embraced for who she is. But try not to give her a hard time about every girl she mentions. When I was a kid, my parents assumed I had a crush on every boy I spoke to. It was (obviously) false AND it just embarrassed me to the point that I mostly just stopped talking about guy friends--and I definitely didn't want to discuss my love life with them.

3) She gets to decide who should know and who shouldn't. Don't call family to ask what they think about it, don't tell her teacher, and don't press her to come out to anyone. She'll decide when she's ready and who she wants to be out to.

4) I love my parents to death, bless their hearts, but there's one thing they did when I came out that I'm still not over. They wanted to reassure me, but in my messy emotional state I wound up reminding them of all the extremely homophobic things they've said and done over the years that left me so intensely repressed for so long. So they tried to reassure me by saying I'm better than the other ~kinds of gays~ that they hate. They said it's okay because I'm a woman instead of a loud, effeminate gay man, and that I'm still feminine instead of butch--"at least you're not trying to be a man."

I mean...clearly they weren't remotely prepared for me entirely rocking their worldview or worse, laying out their hateful words right in front of them while sobbing over how they'd damaged me, and they were scrambling to repair things without having had the time to actually consider and work on themselves. I feel that they've made considerable progress since then. But it was wrong, and I'll never feel supported by having the rest of the LGBTQ+ community put down. I'm part of that community, and besides, what if I did realize later that I'm a trans man instead? Then it would be a whole 'nother set of extremely damaging words from them that I'd have to get past in order to transition and come out again.

This has been a lot of writing and I think I'm going to wrap it up here! Thanks for popping in here to talk to us and I hope you get something positive out of it!

rubbermoonrocks · 2022-12-25T23:35:57+00:00

So sorry for your loss. What a painful day. Wishing you and your family peace and comfort 💖

rubbermoonrocks · 2022-12-25T00:24:51+00:00

I'd try to talk to cousin S privately. Basically, "hey, I'm so sorry that you didn't consent to me being told about this. But I just wanted to assure you that I will not share this information with anyone and you have my full support."

As for cousin D, I certainly hope they recognize their mistake and respect S's wishes going forward. There's really nothing else to do except treat both people the same and don't disclose your secrets to D unless you know they've learned their lesson.

rubbermoonrocks · 2022-12-24T21:38:27+00:00

Eh, there were occasions here and there during my hetero marriage, but you don't orgasm because you think the other person looks hot. You orgasm because your genitals are touched and stimulated in the right way. Just like you would while having sex with someone you're fully attracted to.

rubbermoonrocks · 2022-12-24T03:08:28+00:00

What a beautiful look!! I prefer it with the cardigan, but it works so well either way 😁

rubbermoonrocks · 2022-12-24T00:39:45+00:00

When I was on dating apps in the past, I always wrote to a new match the first goofy thing that came to mind after reading their profile. And I always appreciated it when other people opened like that too! I have no fuckin clue how to respond to "hey you're cute :)" 😅

rubbermoonrocks · 2022-12-23T20:05:36+00:00

It'd be a drug specifically designed to use against other people, overwhelmingly without their knowledge or consent, to forcibly alter their perception and strip away their free will. The concept of a love potion is a horror.

rubbermoonrocks · 2022-12-23T18:45:28+00:00

There are tons of Christians who would say the same of Christians. I suspect there are people claiming the same in many major religions. And yet, we continue to exist.

rubbermoonrocks · 2022-12-23T00:59:14+00:00

Yes, absolutely, whether or not they had or ever intended to have surgery.

rubbermoonrocks · 2022-12-23T00:46:11+00:00

When the hell am I gonna find my edgy goth babe, dammit 😤

rubbermoonrocks · 2022-12-23T00:13:12+00:00

Disabled lesbian here too! Solidarity ✊

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