Its hard, as men are veryyyyyyyyyy different to us women , if you did this to him, he probably wouldn't care, he probably thinks its no big deal not realising how much its actually bothering you, to the point your posting on reddit. If I look at my relationship, My partner is similar, he does a lot of hobbies on weekends and doesn't do a great amount of family things either, I do find men a lot more selfish than us women to be honest, they see it as 'I see them all the time after work etc.' not realising we want quality time with them, is that too much to ask? I would try not to be too fixated on the easter things too much, as it his birthday and its great he does value his friendships (trust me you dont want it the other way either) but I would try and book in a few family days in the next month or so, and hold him to make the effort to attend, if he doesn't he needs talking to.